home schooling

''so, what are the ways one could combat this? how can a home schooled child develop social skills equal/similar to the ones that kids at schools would develop?''

homeschool them but every weekend set-up a gathering where they can meet other children under your supervision...they can do activities and have good ,controlled and innocent social exposure.

Not that I dwell on this topic much on my own, but personally with my kids, I'd like them to finish elementary school in the public schools. Maybe 7/8 grade, but high school will be done at home.

I actually have a good cirriculum set for my children insha'Allah, but there is no guarantee I'll be living here, so it might need to be adjusted according to local standards.

I went home schooling three years of my life. 7, 8, and 10. I must say, 8 was my all time favorite. I'll never forget that year.

I'd like to add one thing actually.

If you are home schooling, you have to have an extra curriculur on the side, such as Hifdh or something you want to be good at in the future and pursue it.

I'll be honest. Home schooling standards are not as high, and please don't try to deny that. I've been through various home schooling program. Naturally it won't be as good because the system is more about how you are doing it at home. I used to go to school twice a week anyway for a class or two and socialize. People get that misconception that home schoolers lock themselves in their rooms 24/7 like emos.

Plus, public schools have professional teachers.

how can a home schooled child develop social skills equal/similar to the ones that kids at schools would develop?

Why would sane parents want their kids to have similar social skills as kids that go to school. Go to any school and look at how the children there interact with each other and tell me if there are any attributes of their social skills that are emulation worthy. -_-

Wa alaykum salam,

it can be said that some chlidren who are homeschool, can(im not saying will) become quite isolated. they can lack some social skills that other learn whilst at school. they might not learn how to react to different situations or how to address different people. just a though.

I know.

The problem with public schooling is that the system churns out kids who are brainwashed into thinking in one collective way. They follow the pattern set for them and don't truly think for themselves. They aren't encouraged to be educated or even socialise properly, rather just to learn facts and figures so that they can pass exams. They predominantly only form bonds and 'socialise' with people of their own age (their own class year) and where there is a racial mix, those of their own ethnicity are their closest friends.

Children aren't taught how to socialise at schools, they are left to their own devices and it's something they pick up by themselves. With homeschooling, parents can actively engineer a child's social life to make sure they gain only good habits. There doesn't have to be a race, age or class barrier as one will find in schools.

You'll also find that there is a desire set among kids in school that they need to prove themselves by being popular, behave arrogantly, disregard and have no respect for authority, behave indifferently. Social charecterisitcs that are apalling, yet common and thought of as 'normal'.

Homeschooling parents should be committed and serious about the development of their children. They should take every step to ensure they give positive social lessons to their children. Absent that, then of course homeschooled children will be in some way socially 'deficient'. A lot depends on the way the parents handle it, so success of homeschooling is a case by case thing.

I think networking with other homeschoolers is very important. Parents should organise study/sports dates with them to take place at least once or twice a week. That way they do get to mix with other learning children who are at a similar age too, yet minus all the distractions and moral degeneration found in schools.

^ Most definitely. I admire my mom for her amazing efforts. May Allah Ta'ala reward her manifolds for that.

You can always ask her for advice or ask her to join this thread. Her username is UmmRashad

i would not recommend home schooling because school is about so much more than just education, kids learn so much from the input of their class fellows, not to mention educational trips, sports, becoming responsible, learning to help one another, establishing life long relationships.
im sure you remember having that one teacher you hated or getting into trouble for no good reason, these are experiences one looks back and laughs on in later life.

if your really concerned about their education then, like any other parent, do homework with them.

format_quote Originally Posted by tango92

i would not recommend home schooling because school is about so much more than just education, kids learn so much from the input of their class fellows, not to mention educational trips, sports, becoming responsible, learning to help one another, establishing life long relationships.
im sure you remember having that one teacher you hated or getting into trouble for no good reason, these are experiences one looks back and laughs on in later life.

if your really concerned about their education then, like any other parent, do homework with them.

That's an agreeable argument.

However, I say you send your children to public school for elementary, just for tasting and learning purposes of the real world. Perhaps ONE year of high school. Or an all boys or all girls college, etc?

There are many facilities available. It just depends as to how thirsty you are for it.

^ yh definitely no mixed schools at least when they get to high school