even i am not married yet but i want married members here to share their experience honestly, which things in ur spouse u like and what are things u dislike.
actually i wana learn and i think it would be beneficial for others members also bcz they will learn which things would make life happy and which things make ur partner unhappy. so one can leave if he/she have such behavior.
what i experience i got from my mom and dad, i think there relation was purely cultural, mean i see in our culture, in the start both boy and girl were happy. i am sure its bcz both were young and both are source of happiness for each other physically. so in that time i see many girls even tolerate if hubby have a annoying behavior. but with the passage of time when they dont need each other physically but spiritually indeed. i see they dont have spiritual understanding and issues btw them start arising and life bcm disturbed. one main reason of this maybe, girl bcm bold bcz she know after children the husband will always avoid divorce bcz of suffering of children in case of divorce. so i learn ur spiritual understanding with partner is more important than physical one. so in long run u will have a good and understanding relation.
plz share ur experiences....
oh seems there are no married members on forum....lol
or maybe u ppl dont want to disclose shortcoming of ur spouse...lol. ok but i think y u are reluctant to share his/her good things....
i can say to you as a brother it is very important to make your wife feel she means something to you, that she is important to you, that you listen to her and let her know you heard what she said. also if shes in a mood, and women dont need excuses for this, then its up to you to cheer her up NOT wind her up more.
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^lol....simply thats mean "to understand her feelings".
i am laughing bcz i am v.poor in this regard...esp i never understand y girls dont say exactly what they want. i know they are shy but i cant understand many time.lol
^lol....simply thats mean "to understand her feelings".
i am laughing bcz i am v.poor in this regard...esp i never understand y girls dont say exactly what they want. i know they are shy but i cant understand many time.lol
lol yes but its not as simple as it sounds. its not because we are SHY
oh also, Sincerely apologise for anything your wife thinks you need to, even if you dont understand what exactly youre apologising for
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
Well, ladies are weird creatures. But they are made from our ribs, and if u strect a rib it will break. (never knew what it meant but the prophet said it, and it sounds wise. xD)
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oh also, Sincerely apologise for anything your wife thinks you need to, even if you dont understand what exactly youre apologising for
speaking of apologizing, if you have done anything which upsets your wife, go and apologize. dont make her apologize for something you did or for something she didn't do... that would probably make her feel like you are not understanding her. also dont feel embarrassed for apologizing to your wife when you upset her, because if she has done anything to upset you, then she would be willing to apologize to you since you apologize to her (which indicates taht you are fair and just).
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brother, i feel that boys and girls need a lot of education regarding living with spouse in a proper manner. if both partners learn to respect each others needs and don't over burden each other then i think that the result will be harmonious and happy mariage. however, if each member only cares about himself/herself and feels that whenever the other does oemthing against his/her wishes it means that they are disrespctful or don't care about them, etc, then problems and feelings of unhappiness will arise.
most of the member who post in this thread are unmarried. but we need experienced ppl comments here...so plz stop bcz abdullahii is saying we all will bcm crazy...............lol
in think it would be better to ask what someone didn't like in their partner, what mistakes someone made that messed up their marriage, etc, so ppl can learn from others mistakes.
Well, ladies are weird creatures. But they are made from our ribs, and if u strect a rib it will break. (never knew what it meant but the prophet said it, and it sounds wise. xD)
if that hadith is true then it would mean something like you shouldn't try to change a woman's nature. some people might try to change women's nature. it doesn't mean that we women are crooked by nature or anything. LOL
in think it would be better to ask what someone didn't like in their partner, what mistakes someone made that messed up their marriage, etc, so ppl can learn from others mistakes.
wow....... do u read the OP, i have asked both good as well as bad things....but our married bro and sis dont want to disclose it.....what a love. and what a shyness.
you shouldn't try to change a woman's nature
it is common in men and women...bcz in one hadith its has said that a mountain can move/changed form one place to another but human nature can not be changed.
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(never knew what it meant but the prophet said it, and it sounds wise. xD)
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