How can single women get the same rewards as those married ??

Asalaamu Alaikum,

Allah(سبحانه و تعالى) will judge your deeds based on your context, your actions and so on. If you genuinely can't get married, then I'm sure there's many good deeds you can do that don't require marriage, which will weigh heavy on the scales on the day of judgement.

format_quote Originally Posted by cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn

Marriage is half our deen for a reason sister.

^Asalaamu Alaikum,

Just wanted to mention something about this, because I've seen it a lot.

The Hadith "Marriage is half our deen" is considered da'if by most Hadith fuqahah due to weak chains in the narration. I know Al-Albani considered it hasan li ghayrihi, but that was just about due to multiple chains (but all have weaknesses in them); I personally would not rely on it if most scholars have concluded the hadith is weak.

This is a stronger/more reliable version of that hadith (which is mawquf);

The Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: "Whoever is blessed with marrying a pious woman then he was given the blessing of having one who helps him in his deen..." [Tabarani and Byahaqi]

Also keep in mind that some great scholars didn't get married; it would be wrong to say they left "half their deen incomplete", when they achieved more in their short lives (deen-wise) than most could in 100 life times.

Having said that, the actual hukm of the other hadith can still apply, because it is basically stressing importance of marriage, which is very true.

^^ good point. also the "smile, its a sunnah" part has become irksome. Prophet also cried, wept. That's also sunnah.

Ppl just love to twist Islam to their own whims and desires and what they expect of others.

what comes to mind is that it is not easy being married regardless of the reward.


whilst single I would do everything I can to prepare myself for all eventualities


Get yourself physically/spiritually/mentally capable and learn everything you need to know.

then milk the marriage for all its hereafter benefits !


perhaps that intention itself will give you the reward

format_quote Originally Posted by CosmicPathos

also the "smile, its a sunnah" part has become irksome. Prophet also cried, wept. That's also sunnah.

True but even though he went through so much he was the one who smiled alot. i guess thats y ppl say "smile, its a sunnah"

format_quote Originally Posted by Perseveranze

Asalaamu Alaikum,

Allah(سبحانه و تعالى) will judge your deeds based on your context, your actions and so on. If you genuinely can't get married, then I'm sure there's many good deeds you can do that don't require marriage, which will weigh heavy on the scales on the day of judgement.



^Asalaamu Alaikum,

Just wanted to mention something about this, because I've seen it a lot.

The Hadith "Marriage is half our deen" is considered da'if by most Hadith fuqahah due to weak chains in the narration. I know Al-Albani considered it hasan li ghayrihi, but that was just about due to multiple chains (but all have weaknesses in them); I personally would not rely on it if most scholars have concluded the hadith is weak.

This is a stronger/more reliable version of that hadith (which is mawquf);

The Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) said: "Whoever is blessed with marrying a pious woman then he was given the blessing of having one who helps him in his deen..." [Tabarani and Byahaqi]

Also keep in mind that some great scholars didn't get married; it would be wrong to say they left "half their deen incomplete", when they achieved more in their short lives (deen-wise) than most could in 100 life times.

Having said that, the actual hukm of the other hadith can still apply, because it is basically stressing importance of marriage, which is very true.

Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu

True, but being married have actually alot of positives. I mean you can support each other regarding knowledge, and help each other to tackle struggles.

And being married also allows you to have many kids, and this keeps the community strong, this keeps the fertility rate in the ummah high. So its safe to say despite the hadeeth being weak, that it has also some sense of truth in it, look we have given a brain you know?

I dont see being married as a obligation but i see it as a high supriority. It also prevents you from falling into sins like zina. When a group of people decide not to marry and not have children, then in a short time they wipe themselves out. look the fertility rate in europe is very low, the common western family has only one or 2 children, while the muslim families here have minimal 4 children if not more. Hence islam is growing in the west despite their will to prevent it. And western people dont want to marry anymore, a very big mistake only i can say.

Look at the first part of this small docu:

format_quote Originally Posted by cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn

Also, please name me the scholars who didn't get married. Just curious, I never really looked into that.

ibn taymiah and imam Nawawi are two that I know of that never got married.. & Allah knows best.


Question:

Why did not Shaykh Al-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah get married?

Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger, may Allah exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.

We do not know why Shaykh Al-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allaah have mercy on him, did not get married. He is not the only scholar who did not get married. There is a group of scholars who did not get married for one reason or another. Some scholars have even edited a book entitled 'Al-'Ulamaa' Al-'Uzzaab' (The Single Scholars) in which a great number of scholars are mentioned. Anyway we think good of them and we try to find excuses for them. It might be that each of them had a reason that no one knows, and so on. It is known, however, that Shaykh Al-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah, may Allah have mercy on him, was imprisoned many times, again and again, so this could be one of the reasons which prevented him from getting married.
Allah knows best.




Fatawa Issuing Body : Islam Web
Author/Scholar : Dr. Abdullah Al-faqih
Date Of Issue : 07 Ramadan 1425

even Shah Jalal Al-Yemeni who turned all of my country into Bangladesh, the man by whos destiny Allah has blessed Bangladesh with Islam did not marry.


I recall reading a saying of a sahabi who said that even if he was to die the next day he would marry.

I think the sahabi is Abdullah Ibn Masud but my memory may not be correct.


Unless we reach the high spiritual state of those who mastered themselves I dont think we should have the courage of not fulfilling the sunnah. Not everyone has the same capacity

It isn't a question of capacity, marriage isn't just about fulfilling some animal lust.. Many variables play into that formula and no I am not advocating being single I am pointing out the fact that it isn't as easy as all that - a Cinderella story of boy meets girl!

format_quote Originally Posted by Perseveranze

when they achieved more in their short lives (deen-wise) than most could in 100 life times.

Does anyone of these would be greater than Muhammad(PBUH) who did Nikah,certainly not.No Waliullah/Sheikh/Scholor can be compared to what Prophet(Saaws) did,HE IS THE ULTIMATE PARAMETER from where we are getting our DEEN from.Its the individuals who didn't marry for their own reasons.

format_quote Originally Posted by Perseveranze

the actual hukm of the other hadith can still apply

what does this mean by "still apply"?Its an order till the world remains

format_quote Originally Posted by شَادِنُ

It isn't a question of capacity, marriage isn't just about fulfilling some animal lust.. Many variables play into that formula and no I am not advocating being single I am pointing out the fact that it isn't as easy as all that - a Cinderella story of boy meets girl!

i meant not everyone can cope with being single. I am well aware that marriage is far more then fulfilling animal lust - believe me I have read that those who are truelly in control rarely have intercourse and have the healthiest babies.


you control yourself before and you are NOT meant to let yourself go after !

format_quote Originally Posted by AngelPearl

Really? I know this is true but it kinda shook me coming from a Brother...

makes me wonder just what you think of brothers lol

Wifehood and Motherhood are Not the Only Ways to Paradise:
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السلام عليكم

format_quote Originally Posted by cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn

Interesting.

I said marriage is half our deen, because men and women complete each other, it isn't just based on hadith alone. You can observe this simply by looking at society and how it works, not only is there stronger hadith to back this up, but a reflection on life should suffice for one to understand the importance of marriage. There's also a hadith "Marriage is my Sunnah, whoever disregards my (sunnah) path is not from among us" - Ibn Majah (sahih). I'd like to note that to follow Sunnah is not an obligation, it is something we do based on understanding.

That's fine, but I see that statement so often and it's derived from that hadith. Too many people take it literally, or they actually consider it an "established statement of the Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم)" and so I had to clear that misconception.

format_quote Originally Posted by cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn

Are you a hadith scholar to be singling out "weak hadith"? and how one should use them or refer to them? Do you know how hadith work in conjunction and why they are classified the way they are?

Sis, I never "graded" any hadith, never have - even if I know a hadith is weak from the chain, I don't grade it, as you stated I'm not qualified to. For example, the "satanic verses" hadith, I can tell by looking at the names in its chain (and the fact that the chain is also broken) that something is up with the hadith, but I can't personally consider it fabricated/weak (like hadith fuqahah can) as I'm not qualified to. I even stated in my post;

format_quote Originally Posted by Perseveranze

The Hadith "Marriage is half our deen" is considered da'if by most Hadith fuqahah due to weak chains in the narration.

Fuqahah = Scholar. Some of these are named further below.

And yes, I know how hadith gradings/classifications work. There's some good books etc. if you want to learn more about this field then I can recommend you some stuff. It's an interesting subject.

Any ways, this can give you an understanding of weak hadiths - http://en.islamtoday.net/artshow-385-3623.htm

The basic principle is that it's not allowed to be used in giving fiqh rulings ie. You won't ever see (or shouldn't see) a fatwa quoting weak hadiths as they're not considered authentic. But their meaning (in terms of promoting good deeds) may still be accepted, (based on other stronger/authentic hadiths with near enough the same message) ie. that hadith above stresses the importance of marriage, which may be acceptable.

format_quote Originally Posted by Perseveranze

Also, please name me the scholars who didn't get married. Just curious, I never really looked into that.

Jazaak Allah Khair

- cOsMiC

From what I read, some of these scholars were so engrossed in seeking knowledge (ie. they would travel far lands just to learn more), that they just didn't have the time to get married. They would also feel getting married would be a distraction to their work, or they may have felt that they be doing them injustice if they were so pre-occuppied with learning.

The above could be one reason, but other reasons, such as I read with Imam Nawawi - he was considered poor. So you can imagine, maybe he felt that he wouldn't be able to fulfill his wife's basic rights etc.

Allahu Allam.

format_quote Originally Posted by SaneFellow

Does anyone of these would be greater than Muhammad(PBUH) who did Nikah,certainly not.No Waliullah/Sheikh/Scholor can be compared to what Prophet(Saaws) did,HE IS THE ULTIMATE PARAMETER from where we are getting our DEEN from.Its the individuals who didn't marry for their own reasons.

I'm kind of wondering how you possibly got the Prophet(صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم) into this, both taking my quote within context, and even outside of context? Re-read my post again (both within context, and outside it);

format_quote Originally Posted by Perseveranze

Also keep in mind that some great scholars didn't get married; it would be wrong to say they left "half their deen incomplete", when they achieved more in their short lives (deen-wise) than most could in 100 life times.

format_quote Originally Posted by SaneFellow

what does this mean by "still apply"?Its an order till the world remains

As I've explained to you above, the hadith is weak (as graded by so many scholars such as ibn al-Jawzi, ibn al-Mulaqqin, ibn Hajar and so on), so it cannot be an "order" in the same sense you're understanding it. You can't use weak hadith to make fiqh rulings, nor should you really say it's an "established statement of the Prophet".

When I said "hukm", it means that the meaning of the hadith, in that it's stressing the importance of marriage, still holds weight, because this is nothing new as we know from other hadiths, that marriage is indeed important.

But it's wrong to say (based on the hadith) that marriage is half of Islam and that if you don't get married, then half of Islam has not been fulfilled.

format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto

Fuqaha is plural of Faqih. Faqih is scholar of Fiqh, not scholar of hadith.

Ilm Hadith is science that 'research' hadith. Ilm Fiqh is science to make guidance what Muslims should do, what Muslims should not do. Hadith is one source for Fiqh.

Asalaamu Alaikum,

I'm talking about a set of hadith scholars (who are also muhaddith's) that considered the hadith da'if, the missing "s" that you quote is a mistype.

As for sciences, not all scholars of Fiqh specialise in hadith sciences; not all are considered experts as the likes of Ibn Hajar, Jalal al-Din al-Suyuti, Imam Shafi'i etc.

You have scholars (faqih) who specialise in certain fields, be it Shariah, tafsir, hadith etc. as Islam is extremely vast. That's why I said; "Hadith Fuqaha", as I'm specifically referring to those who specialise in the sciences. Hope that clears it up Insha'allah.

@Perseveranze

Probably,I misunderstood your words,when you came up with those words

format_quote Originally Posted by Perseveranze

Also keep in mind that some great scholars didn't get married; it would be wrong to say they left "half their deen incomplete", when they achieved more in their short lives (deen-wise) than most could in 100 life times.

Its very much gives me a feeling that you are putting them over by saying whats they have done relating to deen is right.Can you clarify what do you mean?

I don't have an issue regarding authentication of Hadith.

Assalamu Alaikum

format_quote Originally Posted by nature

For the more *mature single sisters* out there or those sisters whom marriage is no longer an option or not happening as soon as they would like, i would like to ask how do you plan to fill your life and the time you have ?? Married sisters after weddings, usually look forward to the new home, starting a family, travelling etc, and their lifes are mapped out as soon as they've done the nikkah but what about the rest of the singletons ? how can we earn equal rewards firstly and secondly how can you have a life, esp if you've no mehram ? as it seems to be the only way women can have one is to have a husband hanging off their arms, be it either to raise a family, (even if adopting) go travelling or even doing pilgrimage ??

I've lived both sides, as in being single and now married. I'll tell you personally before marriage, I had my life planned out without a husband in mind. My plans consisted of guiding my family and friends towards Islam more; being more respectful to my parents; planning to go to hajj by saving it up for it with no doors open for me to go except through making du'a and having the strong intent to complete it one day, whether it be with my parents, my grandfather, or a group of female friends; finishing school with a PhD; learning different languages so that I may travel one day; and perfecting my personal imaan. Whenever I prayed, I never prayed to be marrying a specific person as many girls do because they become infatuated with one person, but rather I used to pray that Allah send me someone who will complete my iman, just as I'd complete his, and who will love me for all of my imperfections but will help me strive to become the absolute best I could be, and if it is better for my deen to be single then may allah guide me to what is best and protect me from any fitnah. I made this du'a often even after I prayed istikhara, was engaged and in love, and thought I would be wedding my fiance (which believe it or not, did not work out) and 6 months later after going our separate ways, literally feels like a gift from Allah, I was sent someone much better in regards to deen, who completes me in every way, and makes me so happy and whom I now cannot see my life without Alhemdulilah.

You can do so much without being married, and if you're stable like this, you will make a great wife in my opinion. The reason I say this is because you can rely a lot on yourself to become a better person without the reliance on someone else. That might not make sense for a second, but what I mean is that kind of strength is necessary in marriage because when you are married, your mood, emotions, and passion with your husband are connected in a way that is unexplainable by the will of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. If he falls short in something, you have to help pick him up. If he is upset or sad, you learn how to make him happy again. You have to be his inspiration to better himself vice versa, while not changing yourself for the worse if something does go wrong in the marriage because naturally it is very easy to become depressed or angry if the husband gets angry or upset, or to even become disrespectful if he becomes disrespectful. So you have to have your own strength so that you don't succumb to these levels and know that you still can busy yourself with many things to keep your mind off of unhappy thoughts.

Ultimately though, if you are blessed with a good person, having a husband feels more like having a best friend, except there is a greater responsibility because you have committed to this person for the rest of your life and he has rights over you and is someone you must obey. Therefore I suggest those who plan on getting married for the sake of their iman should know what kind of obligations their potential husbands require of them to do and vice versa.

On the other hand, I've seen marriages where people stay together but it is very unhealthy and unhappy, especially marriages that are solely based on lust and the rush of getting married to save themselves from fitnah, because marriage is not all sexual as most people assume. The best way I could put it is after a desire is fulfilled, what qualities are you left with that would make you a great spouse?

Islam is the complete submission to Allah, and as long as you can find ways to keep yourself busy with following Islam, regardless of who is in your life at the time (whether family, husband, friends), then Allah will reward you accordingly. I think you can be happy and follow the deen and get plenty of rewards without being married, but if you are happily married with someone who is on the same path as you, it will just further help you along in your life because you will have someone to remind you to be better. On the other hand, I also think unhealthy relationships cause people to sin and it may be better for them to be single again and just concentrate on their iman because of the injustices they cause to each other. If one spouse feels unhappy, but is patient, respectful, and puts on a happy face for the sake of the relationship, then I'm sure allah will reward that person for that patience. At the end of the day, your reward is with Allah and only he can weigh it.

Live your life the way you feel is best for your iman while at the same time make du'a to allah that He will guide you to what He knows is best for your imam and would yield the greatest reward, and often the greatest rewards rely in hard struggles and not in a perfect, easy life.

For some people, marriage is not always the answer.


fi aman allah
w'salaam