Twelve Rights of a Muslim Wife upon Her Husband

Below are 12 rights of a muslim wife upon her husband in Islam:

1. To spend upon her, to feed her. Not to be excessive in this and not to be stingy.....moderation.

2. To be kind to her. The Prophet ﷺ said: “The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife.”

3. Not to harm her- physically and verbally.

4. To be loving to her, examples:
- Loving to her with your tongue. Nice words, tell her you love her. Tell her how good she looks etc
- If your wife asks you to get her something and you can’t get it for some reason , say I’ll get it inshaa’Allaah.... don't refuse outright.
- That the man beautifies himself with that which is reasonable, (not imitating women, not following extravagant kuffaar fashion).
- From being loving to your wife is that you help her with housework. This is from the example of the prophet (sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam). You could also provide her with a domestic helper if you can afford it.
- That he is to be playful with his wife and run races with her, amuse her with your jokes , take her fishing with you etc.
- Sharing food with her. Eat from one utensil and feed each other.
- To cuddle with her. Make her feel special and wanted.
- Sleep under the same cover.
- On the authority of ‘Aa’ishah (radiyallaahu ‘anhu) who said: “I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between us such that our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: “Leave some for me, leave some for me!’ She added: `We were in a state of Janaabah (i.e. the state of having slept together).’”
[Al-Bukharee and Muslim].

5. That the men must not curse or swear at his wife, or insult her appearance. Be patient with her ways for some of her ways can be mended and some can not be. Gently advise her. For every one fault she has, she has ten good.

6. A man must not boycott her, and if he does (for a valid reason) he should do it inside of the home. Domestic affairs should never be broadcast to people.

7. A man should not expose the secrets of his wife “Verily among the worst people before Allah on the Day of Judgement is a man who approaches his wife sexually and she responds and then he spreads her secrets.”
[Muslim, Ibn Abee Shaybah, Ahmad and others].

8. A man should not hate his wife. Exalt the good and minimise her shortcomings. A man should not be angry at her faults and should look at her good.

9. That he should make things easy upon her e.g. The chores and what he requires from her.

10. He should have the best manners with his wife. His wife should see the best of his manners. Some men have the best manners in the market and to strange men and women, but when he goes home he is a ferocious lion!
Said our Noble Messenger Prophet muhammad Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam:
"The best of you are the best of you to your wives."
There is no good in you if you want to help your friends but not your wife, there is no good in you if you are kind to your friends and not your wife. Combine the two , and that is good.

11. That the husband should be a reason for his wife to be saved from the hellfire. He should teach her and order her to forbid the evil and enjoy the good. Forbidding her from that which will lead to hell fire.
A wife should accompany her husband in this world and in Jannat too.....and the purpose of this union is to help each other to obey Allah ta’ala and make sacrifices for Islam .
Allah ta’ala says in the Quran :
"O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed]angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded."

12. That the man should have some type of jealousy (ghaurah) for his wife. Jealousy of protecting her from evil, not for her to be exposed to strange men , not for her to speak to strange men etc. but not the abusive or the over posessive type of jealousy.

MAY ALLAH TA'ALA GRANT US ALL HAPPY AND DURABLE MARRAIGES - AMEEN