A mother writes a heartfelt letter to her son, on why he should not laugh at his wife’s shapeless rotis. A must read.
Dear Son,
Hope this letter finds you in the best of spirits and health.
You might be surprised to find an email from your mom. Something told me to write to you; that you need to hear from me today.
It was indeed one of the best evenings that your father and I spent when you visited us with your new wife yesterday. Rest assured, we liked her immensely. I could see that both of you are very much in love and that makes me happy. May your love grow every moment!
Now let me get to the reason for writing this letter. I don’t know whether you remember, but during dinner, you cracked a joke about theshapeless rotis that Lavanya makes. We all laughed and your father laughed the loudest. There were tears of laughter in your father’s eyes and there were tears in your wife’s eyes too. I can assure you that her tears were not of mirth; they were tears of mortification, of shame brought about by the innocuous joke that you cracked.
I guess that joke was the reason why we heard raised voices coming from your room yesterday night and the reason why Lavanya appeared puffy eyed in the morning. Maybe she cried all night.
Son, I want to tell you something. I love shapeless rotis. They bring back many fond memories. They remind me of the shapeless rotis made by my father on certain Saturday mornings when my mother had extra duty at her office. They often lacked salt, were hard like rock and were shaped like various continents. But his love for us compensated for all that it lacked.
Shapeless rotis also bring memories of those days when your father turned into my cook. It was during those early days of pregnancy while I was carrying you. I couldn’t bear the smell of spices or rice or anything cooking. Your father would churn out shapeless rotis and experimental curries, which tasted quite good because he wanted to provide home cooked food for his wife and unborn child. His care and affection made those rotis priceless.
Do you remember how you used to insist on helping me while I prepared rotis when you were around four years old? You would play with the dough and create various shapes that you wanted to be cooked and served to all. I can tell you, those were the tastiest rotis that I ever ate.
Words can create a world full of love. Yet, a thoughtless word is enough to destroy that world.
Lavanya and you are equally qualified; you both earn equally well too. You have both spent an equal number of years educating yourself to be the professionals that you are. But you expect Lavanya to become the perfect cook and home-maker from the moment you married her! How unreasonable is that?
Rahul, no new wife wants to be ridiculed in front of her in-laws. Trust me, I can tell you that. Been there, done that. She craves to be loved by them and she expects her husband’s support in her effort at endearing herself to them.
Teething troubles in marriages are often capable of draining out the love you have for each other. Be there for her while she adapts herself to your world. A small token of appreciation and open support is all that she will need.
You are my beloved son and I know you have learned to see the brighter side of things. Value love more than any other thing because son, perfectly round rotis are often machine made. They lack the most essential ingredient; Love.
Beautiful! We all should make duas for such in-laws. And yes, I would rather eat square or triangle roti than a factory made store bought ones. But the more important lesson is to value what the people we love have to offer, even if it isn't perfect...and it won't be most of the time.
This is so sweet, may Allah SWT give everyone such understanding in-laws.
My rotis are far from circular, lol, they're like little islands - I suppose the blessing which makes a mother and father unique is that they think their daughters' shapeless rotis are perfect, not because they 'think' they're round, but because of how much effort and love she put in to make them.
Ya Muqallib al-Quloob, Thabbit Qalbi Ala Deenik
Oh turner of the Hearts make my heart firm on Your Deen
or a round roti cutter. to cut your square rotis into the perfect round shape. no more worrying about what in-laws will think about your rotis
If I'm in the mood to, I will get a flat plate and cut around it to make a flawless round roti But the problem is it looks so artificially round everyone can tell you've cheated.
If I'm in the mood to, I will get a flat plate and cut around it to make a flawless round roti But the problem is it looks so artificially round everyone can tell you've cheated.
it is really easy to make nice round rotis. the secret is in making the mound and then letting it rest for a few minutes. It shapes and spreads better.
it is really easy to make nice round rotis. the secret is in making the mound and then letting it rest for a few minutes. It shapes and spreads better.
Oh I'll try that out then, inshaAllah - I'll see if I can really impress my parents.
LOL for me I cannot laugh at her in shaa Allah, first she is arab, so she does not even know what roti is :P Secondly while living alone for studies I myself have tried to make the roti and parathha round but failed miserably They are always like the maps of Pakistan or India :P But who cares, they taste great
You can't expect all women to be perfect from Day 1 of marriage - these things take time, and at the end of the day it doesn't matter whether her rotis are round, square or the map of UK - what matters is that she cooked it with love for you with her own hands and you're going to break it up to put the roti in your stomach anyway!
you're going to break it up to put the roti in your stomach anyway!
True ,
A wife is not a five-star chef that her career depends on a geometrically perfect roti - people need to look at everything else she can do and see the bigger picture.
A wife is not a five-star chef that her career depends on a geometrically perfect roti - people need to look at everything else she can do and see the bigger picture.
Lol people should try to get attracted to map rotis after all round roti seems boring everytime it is round! Shapeless rotis are awesome each time it is a surprise
Lol people should try to get attracted to map rotis after all round roti seems boring everytime it is round! Shapeless rotis are awesome each time it is a surprise
Don't make excuses for not learning bro
Kaash wo pal paida hee na ho
jis pal main nazr tu naa aye
For me may be I will have to make rotis for wife, otherwise will have to eat ready made khubz . My rotis are already getting round day by day I am loosing creativity of shapeless roti art :'(
For me may be I will have to make rotis for wife, otherwise will have to eat ready made khubz . My rotis are already getting round day by day I am loosing creativity of shapeless roti art :'(
Aww man you can always try making one of these
Last edited by Hamza :); 05-02-2016 at 12:16 PM.
Kaash wo pal paida hee na ho
jis pal main nazr tu naa aye
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