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    Rejected for dark complexion (OP)


    Asalamwalekum,

    Today i wanted to share something thats been bothering me a lot lately.

    I am constantly reminded by all the suitors that I am not good enough coz I have brown/golden complexion.

    Although I am very similar to my elder sisters in terms of features but I am a little darker in complexion when compared to them. My sisters have never had any issue with proposals and have got married AlhamdulliAllah.

    So I have done my masters and I earn more than what most of the proposals ( through some marriage consultants )
    are sent. I am passionate about cooking and very particular cleanliness. Most important of all i offer namaz 5 times a day and read Quran (though my Arabic is not that great) .

    So the point I am trying to make is though I have got some qualities in me why is it that I am still not preferred by anyone. It makes me feel unwanted and not being worthy of any happiness.

    When i was in college a lot of other faith people walked up to me to compliment me . I was complimented for a pretty face and for looking a lot younger than my actual age.

    Now that my mom and brother have started looking for matches I am rejected almost all the time. Sometimes someone rejects by saying she is not fair and some reject by saying she is not tall enough. Once a lady rolled up her sleeves to tell my mom that she is looking for someone who is as fair as her arm. I felt humiliated in front of everyone.

    My question if Allah has chosen this body and complexion for me then why I am being insulted and humiliated . Nobody even tries to know the qualities that i have and rejects me just coz of my complexion.

    Allah says in Quran that we were made different so that we could be recognised then why all the difference.

    Sadly the only discrimination I see coming is from Muslims not people of other faith.

    I feel that I am not worthy of happiness and should give up on the idea of marriage (live all alone).
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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

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    Quote Originally Posted by Serinity View Post
    Tbh, I don’t know what to say about that. Physically, my skin hurts (it is very dry, gets cracks, hard to do wudhu - starting to just do Wudhu quick cuz water hurts my dry skin…. Maybe because of the cold weather, Allahu alam)

    It is time I seek cure with the Quran. Cuz I’ve been fighting the waswass for almost 6 months. Lol. Pathetic of me lol.
    I keep telling myself Islam is pure monotheism, worship only Allah, etc. Seems like I haven’t been cured yet.

    All that waswass has gotten to me.

    Anyways, I know what to do, In shaa' Allah, what about you?
    Actually that soap works with rough dry skin too, it says in the description in that link

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by Ahmed. View Post
    Brother Allah hasn't made it illegal to marry converts so we shouldn't either
    Assalaamu alaikum

    Why this brother's account got disabled? @Mods

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by bint e aisha View Post
    Assalaamu alaikum

    Why this brother's account got disabled? @Mods
    Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

    I do not think this is good to speak about. Let's not go into backbiting about anyone.

    JazakAllah khair
    Rejected for dark complexion

    Please don't rep me or like my posts


    I beg Allah peace for us and for you.

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by taha_ View Post
    Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

    I do not think this is good to speak about. Let's not go into backbiting about anyone.

    JazakAllah khair
    وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته

    It's not about backbiting, I just want to know the reason genuinely. He was a very sincere person and I would really like reading his advices and posts.
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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by bint e aisha View Post
    Assalaamu alaikum

    Why this brother's account got disabled? @Mods
    Brother @Muhammad

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته sister,

    We don’t usually like to mention reasons for people’s bans in public. The brother may have certainly been sincere and if he wants to, he can contact us through email or Helpdesk to discuss the reason for his ban.
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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    That's very unfortunate :(

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by lailathemuslim View Post
    Assalaamu alaikum,

    Brother, Manuka Honey soap gets rid of skin problems like the one you are mentioning, well for eczema but isn't that dryness?

    https://www.avivahealth.com/products...artisanal-soap

    This is the specific company that was recommended for manuka honey soap on another forum, but other companies may make it too.
    ma shaa Allah you know so much about everything in both forums

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by Anam Amrin View Post
    Asalamwalekum,

    Today i wanted to share something thats been bothering me a lot lately.

    I am constantly reminded by all the suitors that I am not good enough coz I have brown/golden complexion.

    Although I am very similar to my elder sisters in terms of features but I am a little darker in complexion when compared to them. My sisters have never had any issue with proposals and have got married AlhamdulliAllah.

    So I have done my masters and I earn more than what most of the proposals ( through some marriage consultants )
    are sent. I am passionate about cooking and very particular cleanliness. Most important of all i offer namaz 5 times a day and read Quran (though my Arabic is not that great) .

    So the point I am trying to make is though I have got some qualities in me why is it that I am still not preferred by anyone. It makes me feel unwanted and not being worthy of any happiness.

    When i was in college a lot of other faith people walked up to me to compliment me . I was complimented for a pretty face and for looking a lot younger than my actual age.

    Now that my mom and brother have started looking for matches I am rejected almost all the time. Sometimes someone rejects by saying she is not fair and some reject by saying she is not tall enough. Once a lady rolled up her sleeves to tell my mom that she is looking for someone who is as fair as her arm. I felt humiliated in front of everyone.

    My question if Allah has chosen this body and complexion for me then why I am being insulted and humiliated . Nobody even tries to know the qualities that i have and rejects me just coz of my complexion.

    Allah says in Quran that we were made different so that we could be recognised then why all the difference.

    Sadly the only discrimination I see coming is from Muslims not people of other faith.

    I feel that I am not worthy of happiness and should give up on the idea of marriage (live all alone).
    these people are stupid...i feel a big urge to curse them but i wont...that lady especially deserves a big slap for being so offensive...
    sorry but im angry how these people who have so many chances ruin all of them and decent people dont even get chances...you are a smart and educated girl,loves to cook,you are clean,you are religious,what the hell do they want more?....it makes no sense....im very white with green eyes and i have been ''humiliated'' in terms of religion and knowledge from brown people..skin makes no difference at all!!...its the beauty outside that matters...

    dont loose hope...and dont give up the idea of marriage...i make duaa the whooole time to get married to a nice girl one day....loneliness kills you everyday slowly...trust me..keep making duaa and try

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by RisingLight View Post
    these people are stupid...i feel a big urge to curse them but i wont...that lady especially deserves a big slap for being so offensive...
    sorry but im angry how these people who have so many chances ruin all of them and decent people dont even get chances...you are a smart and educated girl,loves to cook,you are clean,you are religious,what the hell do they want more?....it makes no sense....im very white with green eyes and i have been ''humiliated'' in terms of religion and knowledge from brown people..skin makes no difference at all!!...its the beauty outside that matters...

    dont loose hope...and dont give up the idea of marriage...i make duaa the whooole time to get married to a nice girl one day....loneliness kills you everyday slowly...trust me..keep making duaa and try
    Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

    May Allah grant the sister pious husband.

    And may He also grant you pious wife aswell. Try be patient. Allah knows what is best for you. Marriage is only decreed by Allah the Wise. No black is equal to white no white is equal to black and no Arab is equal to non arab and no non arab is equal to arab. Except who has most Taqwa . Allah knows best.

    Try to work hard on your Deen and good deeds may Allah grant u strength.


    JazakAllah khair
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    Quote Originally Posted by taha_ View Post
    And may He also grant you pious wife aswell. Try be patient. Allah knows what is best for you. Marriage is only decreed by Allah the Wise.
    Ameen may Allah grant you a pious wife too that will be coolness and the most beautiful person in your eyes,who will grant you comfort and peace in heart make things easier for you

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by RisingLight View Post
    ma shaa Allah you know so much about everything in both forums
    Hey assalaamu alaikum bro are u from ummah forum and if so which member? Jazakallah khair for ur kind comments, I ask Allah to bless u ameen

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by Muhammad View Post
    وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته sister,

    We don’t usually like to mention reasons for people’s bans in public. The brother may have certainly been sincere and if he wants to, he can contact us through email or Helpdesk to discuss the reason for his ban.
    I do believe Ahmed is a good brother and should be a given another chance. He did have good intentions and was nice. He should not be banned. Please so give him another chance
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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    جزاكم الله خيرا. He is no longer banned.

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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Alhamdulillah.. may Allah bless you alot
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    Re: Rejected for dark complexion

    Quote Originally Posted by Muhammad View Post
    جزاكم الله خيرا. He is no longer banned.
    جزاك الله خيرا

    - - - Updated - - -

    I hope he will start posting again.
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