I appreciate the courtesy, but I would have placed it under miscellaneous as this is more of a direct conversation than topic.
I think this is actually very common. A sister I know personally unknowingly married a man whose sole intention was to gain US citizenship. As soon as he had it, he divorced her. Thankfully she found my uncle and is finally happily married.
I would have to disagree with you there.
And, I'm not sure why you are masking the word marriage.. Again, different individuals have different behaviors/mentalities. But, some of the best partnerships I have seen have been between Hindu people. In complete honesty, I have seen more positive marriages between Hindu people than Muslim people - but, I will also admit that those are not the only factors involved. Personally, I believe Indian people in general are more family oriented. It's deeply woven in to the fabric of their society, and concern for one's family is much more highly regarded than in Western culture. I believe that such having values is more conducive to having a successful marriage. Why I believe in this positive correlation I can explain, but I'm not usually given to typing extensive posts. So, it may take some time.
I will admit though a bias that I am aware of in my personal experience. Everyone that I have encountered is not in their native country, but in a foreign one. It is possible that those that come to the US are by some factors a subset of the overall population. That said, most Indians I have met have earned higher education, which itself is correlated with greater marital success.
Anyhow, the subject is obviously complex, and I don't have the life time to investigate beyond my own experience, the experiences of others that I am aware of, and various studies I happen to read.
Also, for what it's worth, my own mother has found someone she genuinely would like me to marry.. and he's Hindu. She's still trying to determine how Hindu he really is and if he'd be open to accepting Islam.
That wasn't sarcasm by the way, more of an amused recognition.
I am sure there are thousands of men in the world who meet the criteria I set, I just don't think there are many more 'Muslims' than non Muslims. I emphasized Muslims here because in actuality, anyone I would marry would in actuality be a Muslim (or willing to be a Muslim) - though they may not have read a word of Quran, or may be committing Shirk. The exact meaning of Muslim is one who submits to God. They may in fact be submitting to an incomplete or flawed idea of God, but if they are submitting to the best of their understanding, I believe they are Muslim. Now, one could argue that if they are in fact not submitting to Allah, it is because they are not sincerely submitting.. But, we are flawed. The importance is in the will to submit to the truth, and to seek it.
I'm kind of curious, since you mentioned it - how would you suggest I search.
I'll tell you that I've already had a profile on several different sites, for a time (without a picture, in case you were wondering). Meet people pretty regularly in day to day life, since I'm active in my community. And attend some events at the masjid nearest me. Regarding converts in particular, I don't know that I've met any. They are not very common in comparison to those who have had a Muslim upbringing, where I am at least.
Thankfully, I happen to to have access to this magical thing known as the internet..
And, if things stars seem to align, I will take some time to off to visit. Assuming they aren't in the middle to a warzone. Oh, and just one kidney is far to risky haha.
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