The Sunnat method of a wedding is conspicuously highlighted by the Wedding of Hadhrat Faatimah (radhiyallahu anha). The emphasis of the Sunnah is on ‘simplicity’. From the wedding procedure there should be no show, ostentation, waste, elaborate arrangement for feasting, hiring halls, huge pots (deks), etc. The months of pre-arrangement and organising which precede a wedding are un-Islamic and in conflict with the Sunnah.
A simple announcement to publicist the Nikah is sufficient. The usual practice of people from other towns going to huge expense to attend wedding ceremonies and the accompanying waste and show are haraam acts.
Nowadays, weddings have become curses. A variety of unlawful customs and acts takes place. The huge amounts of money which are gushed down the drain in these haraam activities display what is called kufraan-e-ni’mat or ingratitude for the bounties of Allah Ta’ala. The money which people squander in satanic wedding customs should rather be diverted to the suffering servants of Allah Ta’ala. Right in our midst we will find many needy persons, including close relatives, who are struggling to make ends meet. A man has the audacity and the ‘courage’ to waste Allah’s bounties in large amounts to carve for himself an imagined image-a mirage and a phantom of his nafs. But he is not prepared to assist people in need. White he will grudgingly dole out a pittance to needy people, he will boastfully squander large sums in haraam channels thereby coming within the ambit of the following Qur’aanic aayat:
“Do not squander (wealth). Verily, the squanderers are the brothers of shaitaan.”
THE ISLAMIC SYSTEM OF WEDDING
The following are the ingredients of an Islamic Wedding
1) Informality. There is no need for elaborate arrangement and preparation. Simplicityis the hallmark of a Sunnat Wedding.
2) The Nikah ceremony which is also a very simple affair.
3) The Walimah which is a simple feast arranged by the man (groom). This too is a simple feast. Some poor persons should necessarily be invited to participate.
THE CUSTOMARY FEAST
The customary gathering which takes place at the bride’s home is not an Islamic or a Sunnat function. There is no need for any feasting to take place at the home of the bride. It should also be understood that the Walimah is a feast for men, not for women. Women should therefore not be invited to participate in a Walimah even if there are separate arrangements made to accommodate them.
BENDING UNDER HARAAM PRESSURE
Many people while keen to institute the Sunnah method, bend under pressure exercised by their wives and other family members. They submit to the pressure and ignore the Way of the Sunnah. In so doing they invite the Wrath of Allah Ta’ala. When the family exercises pressure, never should the man of Allah submit to such unlawful pressure. In so doing, he commits transgression against the Shariah, casts overboard the Sunnah of Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and invites the Anger and Curse of Allah Ta’ala. Those men who submit to the unlawful pressure of their wives and children or of other family members are warned by Allah Ta’ala in the following Qur’aanic aayat:
“O People of Imaan! Verily some of your wives and children are your enemies. Therefore, beware of them... ... .....”
“Verily, your wealth and your children are a fitnah (trial). And by Allah is the great reward.”
When the family applies pressure and desires that the man submits to their wishes and organises wedding customs which are in conflict with the Sunnah, they then are in the capacity of enemies, for they ruin a man’s relationship with Allah Ta’ala. Any person who attempts to introduce a Mu’min to disobedience and to abandoning the Sunnah is an enemy. Any person who becomes a medium for the ruin of one’s Aakhirah is one’s enemy. For such enemies who appear in the guise of friends, wives and children, the Qur’aan Majeed commands us to beware. When embarking on any activity it is our duty to examine our intentions and to keep in mind the Pleasure of Allah Ta’ala and our rewards in the Aakhirah.
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