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    How can I get daughter to pray?

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    Even to pray with me its difficult as she doesn't want to and it's a drag to her and she just gets mad when I tell her to pray with me. I feel like its pointless to get her to pray if shes just going to be mad and frustrated while praying becuz i feel that defeats the purpose. I dont know wut to do
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    Quote Originally Posted by Stoic View Post
    Even to pray with me its difficult as she doesn't want to and it's a drag to her and she just gets mad when I tell her to pray with me. I feel like its pointless to get her to pray if shes just going to be mad and frustrated while praying becuz i feel that defeats the purpose. I dont know wut to do
    Assalamu Alaikum,

    How old is she? Involve her in a local sisters Islamic circle or activity group. Does she attend Quranic recitation? Involve her in one that also teaches Islamic knowledge.

    Keep encouraging her but with wisdom and tact and not everyday nor with too much force otherwise she will rebel.

    Do Islamic activities together as a family like reading a page or two from a good Islamic book particularly regarding death and the Hereafter, and some tafseer from Quran.

    Watch a beneficial lecture online together as a family. Make it a part of family time to also discuss Islam and try and make it fun like a question and answer and try and connect it with some incentives and reward.

    You mention you are also weak with praying but you and your partner must lead by example. Although you must try your best to attend prayers at the Masjid but when you cannot then make adhan at home and pray together. Encourage your wife to make it a habit for her to encourage her daughter to pray with her.

    There is a lot of negative influences on our children nowadays particularly from social media/internet, gaming and fashion/makeup etc to look a certain way. The key is Islamic education and creating a positive Islamic influence in the home.

    If your daughter goes to a secular school then if you have the funds and then it is well worth investing in her attending a private Islamic school. If not then you and your partner should take her to other Islamic circles/groups etc in the local area for young sisters.

    Her friends and who she keeps company also has a huge effect so encourage her to hand around with practising sisters. It is very important to allow her to open up to your and your partner about issues/feelings. The last thing you want is for her to hide things incase you or your partner get angry at her.

    Most importantly fulfill all of your obligatory prayers so you lead by example. Attend the Masjid and connect with the Qur'an yourself so you bring blessings into the home. Ask of Allah in the latter part of the night to guide you and your family as the Father's Dua is accepted.

    Create a positive Islamic practicing atmosphere at home so you can be a positive influence on her and your family. You can only do your best and guidance is in the hands of Allah but never give up as we are urged to save ourselves and our families from the fire.

    May Allah guide us and our families and save us from the punishment of the grave and the fire whose fuels is men and stones. Ameen

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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    May Allah guide us and our families and save us from the punishment of the grave and the fire whose fuels is men and stones.
    Create a positive Islamic practicing atmosphere at home so you can be a positive influence on her and your family. You can only do your best and guidance is in the hands of Allah but never give up as we are urged to save ourselves and our families from the fire.
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    How old is she? Teenagers sometimes prefer to be with friends instead of their parents. It is a hard time to handle and why it is important for her to have good muslimah around her.

    the main advise I can share is, do not give up on her, and but be careful not to push her away. She needs guidance and she will not be getting it if she closes up and stops talking with her parents.
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    She need a good reason to pray. Perhaps now for her it is like compulsion from the father. And she rebels against this.
    You either have to explain to her your own reasons, why you are praying, so that she can accept this herself, either, like advised before, to introduce her to practicing sisters, who will give her that reasons.
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    There is no compulsion in Islam so you have to give your daughter time to change... even years if necessary

    One thing I've experienced my self in life is that the old adage, old habits die hard, is a 100% true and sometimes it can take years for a person to change their bad habits to good

    So since your daughters heart just isn't in it right now, I don't think you should try to get her to pray with you... just tell her to pray every now and then and leave it at that whether she prays or not (this will absolve you from blame as you're doing your duty of dawah)

    She has had a very bad upbringing by her mother and since she's well into the typical teen life of the west, it will take time for her to change

    Another thing you can do is to just ask her to sit with you and her mum for 15 mins a day or 2 days, 3 days etc (according to what she'll accept) while you read from a hadith book; this way her heart will slowly change once she hears about the struggles for the deen of the Prophet (saw) and the sahaba (ra)

    A few good books that have really motivational hadith for this purpose are, stories of the sahaba and fazaile 'amal, they can be found in Islamic book shops

    The hadiths in those books do not all have to be sahih as they are just to motivate us to good actions and not for rulings etc.

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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    Asalaamualaykum:

    I'm going to get straight to the point here. Many moons ago I have advised you that you need to get an Aalim or Aaalima involved in your family issues.

    You forever having issues with your wife and kids. Now you coming asking what magical wonder wand can be waved in just this issue about your daughters Salaah. Go back and read all your question about you and your wife and then understand that your very daughter might be a witness to all that....and magically you want wonder wand to sprinkle fairy dust by one isolated situation.

    You seeking advice trying to sort one problem at a time like a puzzle but you forgetting the bigger picture.

    I don't even know if you're a wind up
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    Salaamu Alaikum, brothers and sisters.
    Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
    It is very important to teach the muslim children but not only teach but how to live Islam. It's starts when they are small. Is your wife muslim? One of my brothers married a non muslim, from her point of view they were not going to follow a religion. My brother made many mistakes before marrying her and throughout his marriage. When he introduced Islam to their children, she took them to church. My brother is not strong in faith, his marriage ended but now his kids are teens and live their lives as non muslim, they're smart, sweet, kind and well mannered but aren't muslim. Many times brothers who marry non muslim women, don't establish the foundation of Islam in their home, very few do. There's also those who say we are muslim but live life as non muslim and don't establish Islam in their homes. Salah and reading Qur'an is for only Ramadan or maybe Jummah Friday. Many times if the foundation in the home is weak than the children are weak in faith except those whom Allah choses. I had another brother, he married a muslim sister but he was weak in faith, they would both go up and down, would pray salah and than wouldn't. They had 3 children as well, with each child instead of their Iman growing it became less. They took their children to the masjid every Jummah but they didn't not fully establish Islam in their home, my brother helped destroy his family, she also help destroy their family both went further away from Islam, they divorced, my brother in and out of rehab became christian, my sister in-law, moved in with her family lived her life as a non muslim. Her and her family who were muslim established Haram in their homes. Her stepfather talked about Allah, made salah but didn't build a strong muslim home, he did things, my nephews and niece knew were wrong, their grandmother on their mother's side exposed them to haram and bidah, they knew their mother didn't live a muslim life style, she lived in haram. After her stepfather allowed my older nephew and niece go trick o treating, Allah took his soul four months later. Than Allah placed sickness on their grandmother and took her away from them to live with their aunt on their mother's side. My family continue to give dawah to my brother and my sister in-law. My brothe cut off communications. My sister in-law continue her life style but she wanted her children to be raised muslim and asked my family and I to teach them about Islam. She died a year after her stepfather. The muslim community knew about her life style so at first they were not going to bury her as a muslim. Her sister pleaded with the muslim because she was going to cremate her sister because she was not catholic like her. Alhamdulillah, they found a post on facebook where she declared herself muslim and gave the khalimah. So she was buried as a muslim next to her stepfather. Before her passing, my nephews and niece were brought to my family and I, we were told by the sister in our community that they could not wake up their mom and that she was in the hospital, were she later died. That night they came to us, as soon as salah came in we had them pray. We established them in salah and taught them the true way of Islam, they fought us every step of the way, but the salah help strengthen them, we taught them surat to recite, introduced them to Ramadan and how to fast, they fought us horrible during Ramadan but we kept Glorifying Allah, everything we told them we mentioned Allah, we told them the importance of salah, we would read Qur'an to them, read and teach du'as to them. We set boundries that they didn't have before. Qur'an, Sunnah and Salah were and are the foundation in our home. Allah says your family is a test especially women and children. They were a difficult test but they came so far Masha'Allah and still have ways to go but they love making Salah, my older nephew and niece fasted the whole month of Ramadan, my older nephew did a horrible mistake during Ramadan but continue to fast, my niece controls her anger better, my youngest nephew acted up at the beginning 10 days of Ramadan but change for the better during the rest of Ramadan, he would fast on weekends. They all ebded up loving Ramadan and not wanting Ramadan to go. We just don't tell them they have to do this or they can't do that we explain why and according to Qur'an and Sunnah. Islamicly if they refuse to make salah you spank them, we didn't spank to pray but we let them know you will pray and this helped with their healing. They still have ways to go my niece loves wearing hijab now, the boys are learning Islam is not only the masjid its a way of life. We always tell them the truth and they are beginning to tell the truth more. Allah is not shy in telling the truth. In shaa Allah have patience with your daughter but be firm, yet gentle in encouraging her to pray Salah. Recite du'as, ayatul kursi in home, the Quls, play Qur'an, Allah should always be glorified and talked about in home, have her pray by herself and have your wife watch her, women get more blessings praying by themselves. My mom and I are teaching my niece how to pray by herself, and how to pray when its only sisters and of course how to pray behind brothers. Her brothers lead her in salah, their uncles my brothers are teaching them. The brothers and sisters gave wonderful advice, everyone is different but don't let her miss her salah if she is in puberty because tomorrow is not granted us. In your salah make du'a beg Allah for help. In shaa Allah place her with sisters who will teach her Islam and who will be a blessing. Whomsoever Allah guides none can lead astray whomsoever Allah leads astray no one can guide, I bear witness that there is no diety that deserves to ve worship in truth except Allah, I bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (Sallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) is His servant and messenger. May Allah grant you success, establish love for Allah in your daughter's heart, may Salah be a comfort for her and not feel like a burden, may Allah grant her peace and tranquality, patience, obediance in doing good and dislike and discomfort in doing bad. May Allah strengthen you and your family, fill your home with salah, sakinah, and barakat and may you and your family be together in the Jannah. Ameen!
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    Quote Originally Posted by Stoic View Post
    Even to pray with me its difficult as she doesn't want to and it's a drag to her and she just gets mad when I tell her to pray with me. I feel like its pointless to get her to pray if shes just going to be mad and frustrated while praying becuz i feel that defeats the purpose. I dont know wut to do
    Assalaamu Alaikum, Going by what others have stated since have not read any of your previously related posts. (Apologies in advance for misunderstanding anything) Assumption: your daughter/s is/are in teenage years and have not been praying and neither is interested in doing so.

    Firstly we need to understand/remind ourselves that teenagers have their own battles; trying to reach independence within themselves and towards working out their own views about life and the world. They are also going through changes within their bodies, that might make most of them uncomfortable and seemingly 'rebellious'. Hormonal fluctuations can cause one to be angry unreasonably and lash out (even at a good parent). These moods can swing anywhere from seriously depressed signs; statements as "Life isn't worth living" towards bouncing back into positive sayings, perhaps even with heroic ones, "I want to save the world".

    Having understood this a little more, females go through different cycles whereby they are exempted from praying. Based upon what's happening within her body, she may not even want to be close to her father at certain times. So, you can be aware that sometimes reactions possibly isn't a possible personal one but biological in nature. The external influences which surround your children ought to be goodly in nature. But, the best influence is the one a parent will share with their child. Spending enjoyable family times together outside of the home, going for a family outing, drives, picnic by the lakes, activities that incorporate teenage appropriate games or acts of fun (which is halal/acceptable).... Do you discuss problems with your daughter/s that they are having at school, do they have good relationships with friends, teachers...are there any concerns/worries/stress she is going through? Do you know her friends? Is she allowed to have goodly selected friends home to be engaged with in halal/acceptable activities?


    Do you know her interests; For instance, if she likes Art, can you introduce her to Islamic perspectives or buy such Art related items? A short holiday family visit to an Islamic country to vlog and learn about different aspects of such artists, buildings, places, souvenirs....Learning about Islam and experiencing it in different wonderous forms is a must. It is important to build a strong friendship and good relationship with your children. Carry her to the mall possibly shopping buy her hijabs and Islamic clothing. Talk to her generally about life, be truly interested and discuss what Islam says about certain things, beliefs and situations. Of course you'd need to be equipped yourself as well especially about Seerah, Prophetic guidance and the Quran in order to duly impart this knowledge. Buy her also suitably age appropriate books. The Ideal Muslimah has been recommended.


    "The family that eats, play and pray together, stays together". It's just not one aspect over the others but all is interrelated. So, eating together for instance you can start , as the father, by loudly making dua/prayer before & after eating which both invokes blessings in your food and demonstrates gratitude. It's an act that you can do together, (2/3 x times) slowly by slowly incorporating both thankfulness and blessings. She doesn't have to pray with you but she can pray on her own. You can assist her in some of the ways mentioned as well as joining her to Islamic activities in the mosque. Sisters' groups/circles/classes. Especially, if the mom isn't a good influence, she will need a better role model.

    There ought to be summer Islamic programmes for Kids/teenagers, could you find out where you live? Preferably, build up towards it visiting the programmes with her firstly and then preparing her to join in the following year/next available sessions. The last thing we want is for her to feel excluded. Having done these, you'll have to be patient and pray for her as well. Praying for others especially a father's prayer for his daughter as someone pointed out has many benefits.(accepted).

    Are there any other religiously like-minded families that you can get together with and introduce your daughters to their daughters? From the massjid or within your extended family circles? As mentioned age appropriate companionship is truly important. Encourage her to get involved with Islamic groups in her school, perhaps? In the community? It's not an easy job being a parent but it will be rewarding. Insha'Allah a time can come when all of this changes and she/your daughters loves you the same way you loved her/them. Always, remember to do things in a respectable understanding and caring manner. Having gain a better understanding on how a teenage daughter/daughters views her life and the world thereby you are better able to guide and assist her/them rightly. The Quranic Essence of Parenting-


    The Prophet’s (Peace and Blessings Be Upon Him) fatherly love and affection

    “There is a misconception that a father is merely the breadwinner, the supporter of the household, that his role is primarily that of financial provider rather than nurturer. After all, isn’t it the mother’s job to raise the children? Isn’t it the mother’s job to teach her daughters what it is to be a girl, a woman?” writes Zainab (AnonyMouse).[iii] This misconception is detrimental to our community. Fathers have an important nurturing role to play in their daughters’ lives. It only takes a glimpse into the Prophet Muhammad’s (PBUH) relationship with his fifth child with Khadijah (RA) to understand this. The Prophet (PBUH) had a special place in his heart for Fatimah (RA). Fatimah, of whom Aisha (RA) commented, “[…] When the Prophet saw her approaching, he would welcome her, stand up and kiss her, take her by the hand and sit her down in the place where he was sitting.” The Prophet (PBUH) showed his daughter great respect and dignity, teaching her, as well as the men around him, and even us today what good treatment to our daughters looks like. How many fathers show their daughters this kind of attentions and dignity? Distance and dismissive behavior of a father toward his daughter has no place in the Islamic tradition nor in the life of Muslim families today. The Prophet (PBUH) once said: “Whoever pleased Fatimah has indeed pleased God and whoever has caused her to be angry has indeed angered God. Fatimah is a part of me. Whatever pleases her pleases me and whatever angers her angers me.” (Bukhari and Muslim) Many fathers who create and sustain a healthy connection and relationship with their daughters will find that this is true for them as well. What hurts and angers their daughter also hurts and angers them. This connection between father and daughter is undeniable and comes from a nurtured relationship and natural love.
    The Perfect Father and Daughter Relationship

    Would like to emphasize what the sister above mentioned about playing & reciting the Quran in home and learning duas for protection. There are all types of evils surrounding us and we must always strive to protect ourselves and homes/families from these.
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    Praise be to Allaah.

    Abu Dawood (459) and Ahmad (6650) narrated from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them (lightly) if they do not pray when they are 10 years old, and separate them in their beds.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’ (247).

    Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy upon him) said in al-Mughni (1/357):

    This telling and discipline is prescribed in the case of children in order to train them to pray, so that they will be used to it and it will become their habit, and they will not forsake it when they reach puberty. End quote.

    Al-Subki said:

    The guardian must tell the child to pray when he is seven years old and smack him (lightly) if he does not do so when he is ten.

    We think we should enjoin what is not obligatory and smack for failing to do that which is not obligatory. We smack animals for disciplinary purposes, so what about children? That is in the child's interests, and so that he will get used to praying before he reaches puberty. End quote.

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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    Quote Originally Posted by Mayameen View Post
    Salaamu Alaikum, brothers and sisters.
    Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
    It is very important to teach the muslim children but not only teach but how to live Islam. It's starts when they are small. Is your wife muslim? One of my brothers married a non muslim, from her point of view they were not going to follow a religion. My brother made many mistakes before marrying her and throughout his marriage. When he introduced Islam to their children, she took them to church. My brother is not strong in faith, his marriage ended but now his kids are teens and live their lives as non muslim, they're smart, sweet, kind and well mannered but aren't muslim. Many times brothers who marry non muslim women, don't establish the foundation of Islam in their home, very few do. There's also those who say we are muslim but live life as non muslim and don't establish Islam in their homes.
    ...

    My mom and I are teaching my niece how to pray by herself, and how to pray when its only sisters and of course how to pray behind brothers. Her brothers lead her in salah, their uncles my brothers are teaching them. The brothers and sisters gave wonderful advice, everyone is different but don't let her miss her salah if she is in puberty because tomorrow is not granted us. In your salah make du'a beg Allah for help. In shaa Allah place her with sisters who will teach her Islam and who will be a blessing. Whomsoever Allah guides none can lead astray whomsoever Allah leads astray no one can guide, I bear witness that there is no diety that deserves to ve worship in truth except Allah, I bear witness that Prophet Muhammad (Sallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) is His servant and messenger. May Allah grant you success, establish love for Allah in your daughter's heart, may Salah be a comfort for her and not feel like a burden, may Allah grant her peace and tranquality, patience, obediance in doing good and dislike and discomfort in doing bad. May Allah strengthen you and your family, fill your home with salah, sakinah, and barakat and may you and your family be together in the Jannah. Ameen!
    Very sad yet inspiring. It is unfortunate your brothers turned their back on Islam. However, you should be congratulated for the efforts you did to bring back your nephews and niece and save them from a bad future. I hope your efforts are rewarded with success and that they will stay clear from any haram behavior.

    It can be hard for kids to change their way. When I converted to islam, I had to make many changes to my life and my 3 sons did as well. Some changes went more easily than others, but I managed to get them through all of them. Fortunately, they have now accepted their new identity as Muslim boys and the day to day requirements are coming more more easily to them. (my oldest still sometimes struggles, but hopefully that will be corrected soon). I believe that children can always learn, so can adults, but the older they are the more work it will be. Your family experiences proves that.

    Keep teaching your niece as she grows older and enters the difficult time that are teenage years. You are an inspiration to the rest of us
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    Masha'Allah! Jazak'Allah khair
    may Allah reward you and your family. Alhamdulillah! I help my mom and two other brothers, we tell the kids we're a team and Islam is our foundation, it's our way of life. Subhan'Allah! how beautiful Allah guided you and your children I will keep you and your family in my du'as along with all others. May Allah guide you and your family through your journey and bless you to be among the righteous. Ameen!
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

    try to do that with wisdom
    dont force her
    love her and let her see your love in your every day life
    also when you tell her about prayer and refuse
    say a lot of la hawla wala kuwwata illa billah
    this word subhanallah when you say it with understanding from the bottom of your heart you will see how allah will help u
    say it while you think that you can't do anything without the help of Allah
    and your sister can't be guided and understand without his help
    think of all this thing when you say it again and again hundreds of times
    you will see how powerful is this word.
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    Re: How can I get daughter to pray?

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    Praise be to Allaah.

    Abu Dawood (459) and Ahmad (6650) narrated from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them (lightly) if they do not pray when they are 10 years old, and separate them in their beds.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Irwa’ (247).

    Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy upon him) said in al-Mughni (1/357):

    This telling and discipline is prescribed in the case of children in order to train them to pray, so that they will be used to it and it will become their habit, and they will not forsake it when they reach puberty. End quote.

    Al-Subki said:

    The guardian must tell the child to pray when he is seven years old and smack him (lightly) if he does not do so when he is ten.

    We think we should enjoin what is not obligatory and smack for failing to do that which is not obligatory. We smack animals for disciplinary purposes, so what about children? That is in the child's interests, and so that he will get used to praying before he reaches puberty. End quote.

    Fataawa al-Subki, 1/379
    Assalamu Alaikum,

    Whilst discipline and children respecting their parents are important matters, understanding the cause/s affecting a child's behavior such as in this particular situation becomes necessary when a Muslim child (teenager) who doesn't have(A) a strong foundation in religion, (B) viewing conflicts between parents, one who is nonpracticing i.e affected by some type of trauma whether in the home environment -and if being bullied by another sibling or at school whilst (C) also being taught to hate Islam/ view Islam negatively by external influences and thus brings this mindset into the home, rather than enforcing disciplinary measures immediately, especially in such a situation, it would be necessary to (re-) instill knowledge and love of Islam into the heart of this child. And the way ideally prescribed of knowledge is in the order of:

    (1) Correct Aqeedah (2) Worship

    "....parents must take care of teaching their children the duties of Islam and other virtues that are recommended in sharee’ah, and worldly matters that they need in order to live a decent life in this world.

    The man should start by teaching them the most important things, then the next most important. So he starts by teaching them correct ‘aqeedah (creed), free from shirk (polytheism)and bid’ah (innovation). Then he teaches them the acts of worship, especially prayer. Then he teaches them and trains them in good manners and characteristics, and everything that is good...."

    Read more: Rights of Children

    "Al-Nawawi said:

    The father must discipline his child and teach him what he needs to know of religious duties. This teaching is obligatory upon the father and all those in charge of children before the child reaches the age of adolescence. This was stated by al-Shaafa’i and his companions. Al-Shaafa’i and his companions said: This teaching is also obligatory upon the mother, if there is no father, because it is part of the child’s upbringing and they have a share of that and the wages for this teaching may be taken from the child’s own wealth. If the child has no wealth then the one who is obliged to spend on him may spend on his education, because it is one of the things that he needs. And Allaah knows best.
    Sharh al-Nawawi ‘ala Saheeh Muslim, 8/44

    The father should bring them up with good manners in all things, eating, drinking, dressing, sleeping, going out of the house, entering the house, riding in vehicles, etc, and in all their affairs. He should instill in them the attributes of a good man, such as love of sacrifice, putting others first, helping others, chivalry and generosity. He should keep them away from evil characteristics such as cowardice, stinginess, lack of chivalry, lack of ambition, etc.
    Al-Manaawi said:

    “Just as your parents have rights over you, so too your child has rights over you, rather many rights, such as teaching them the individual obligations, teaching them Islamic manners, giving them gifts equally, whether that is a gift, a waqf (endowment), or other gift. If preference is shown with no reason, that is regarded as invalid by some of the scholars and as makrooh (disliked) by others."
    One of the things to be feared about applying discipline non-constructively (when children have lost belief/ become misguided/faced with traumatic events) is that the child can lean on/seek support and guidance which is anti-Islam in nature (drugs, violence, gangs etc)... which is why positive reinforcements through the natural loving bond between a child and his/her parent is very important.

    Additionally, by teaching your daughter, she can thereby influence her mother. This is the beauty of saving your loved ones and those who are younger, they will encourage as you have similarly taught and never allow you to slip so easily. So, make those attempts with praying and teaching your entire family and if that isn't working focus moreso on your teenage daughter/s.
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