Basically my relative told me my ex mother in law is still bad mouthing me and is saying things like how I was a bad daughter in law etc. But I just dont understand what their problem is.
when I married her son, i lived with him at his parents house. My ex mother in law used to find fault in every thing I did then she used to take him out and complain to him about me when I didnt do anything wrong. She used to say things like I'm really slow I don't know anything I don't help with the chores I'm always at my parents house and I am very quiet and I don't look nice most of the time. But I became this way because this of the emotional trauma his family were causing me was I literally couldn't function well so to stable as much as I could I used to stay at my parents house but I never told them about my personal issues.
She also used to show him all kind of girls behind my back and tried to tempt him saying things like look how nice they look talk and behave they have top degrees so they can do all these chores and make money as well. He used to work away because of this drama and she used to find it funny that she has my husband against me and I couldn't do anything about it because I was psychologically disturbed by her games
When he wasn't at home she used to ring her fav daughter in law's and say horrible things indirectly towards me and laugh and she's used to make them bully me indirectly.
She finally gave him the ultimatum to either choose her or me (his mentally unwell wife at the time). She said she only has Allah and made him emotionally feel guilty songs sent me to my parents home and divorced me via papers.
After our divorce she has been showing him different women who she claims they can do everything and she will not be happy with him till he fulfils her wishes.
Anyway he wants me back and she isn't having it she is still going around saying things like I'm a bad person.
I don't know how to deal with her mentality. Why is she doing this to me? I don't understand it at all. She doesn't want her son to by my husband but he doesn't want to marry anyone now and wants me back.
Basically my relative told me my ex mother in law is still bad mouthing me and is saying things like how I was a bad daughter in law etc. But I just dont understand what their problem is.
when I married her son, i lived with him at his parents house. My ex mother in law used to find fault in every thing I did then she used to take him out and complain to him about me when I didnt do anything wrong. She used to say things like I'm really slow I don't know anything I don't help with the chores I'm always at my parents house and I am very quiet and I don't look nice most of the time. But I became this way because this of the emotional trauma his family were causing me was I literally couldn't function well so to stable as much as I could I used to stay at my parents house but I never told them about my personal issues.
She also used to show him all kind of girls behind my back and tried to tempt him saying things like look how nice they look talk and behave they have top degrees so they can do all these chores and make money as well. He used to work away because of this drama and she used to find it funny that she has my husband against me and I couldn't do anything about it because I was psychologically disturbed by her games
When he wasn't at home she used to ring her fav daughter in law's and say horrible things indirectly towards me and laugh and she's used to make them bully me indirectly.
She finally gave him the ultimatum to either choose her or me (his mentally unwell wife at the time). She said she only has Allah and made him emotionally feel guilty songs sent me to my parents home and divorced me via papers.
After our divorce she has been showing him different women who she claims they can do everything and she will not be happy with him till he fulfils her wishes.
Anyway he wants me back and she isn't having it she is still going around saying things like I'm a bad person.
I don't know how to deal with her mentality. Why is she doing this to me? I don't understand it at all. She doesn't want her son to by my husband but he doesn't want to marry anyone now and wants me back.
sisters mother in law bad mouthing, dominating, hurting and causing family breakup is a cliche. This is old stuff. It follows the stereo type of been a mother in law is like been a giant lizard monsters that throws flame from your mouth to destroy civilization. All I can advise s exercise patience and avoid or limit your interaction with her. It is easy. Mother in law been good and hold the best mother in law of the year is usually rare and not the exception.
Reconciliation is always good but you need to give it really careful consideration, given your circumstances with your mother in law.
Her personality and behaviour, as you've described, is unlikely to change for the better. You need assurances from your husband that he will be a shield and protect you. It would be better, in fact, if you didn't live in the same house.
I have met women like that, Alhamdulillah always discovered their true nature before it's too late.
I read your other post. InshaAllah you will find someone good for you and you are good for him. Maybe this person is your ex husband who has changed (or seems he has changed) or someone else.
Jabir bin 'Abdullah narrated that the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said:'A slave (of Allah) shall not believe until he believes in Al-Qadar, its good and its bad, such that he knows that what struck him would not have missed him, and that what missed him would not have struck him." (Jami 'at Tirmidhi)
I have met women like that, Alhamdulillah always discovered their true nature before it's too late.
I read your other post. InshaAllah you will find someone good for you and you are good for him. Maybe this person is your ex husband who has changed (or seems he has changed) or someone else.
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