If a girl makes dua against me, will that dua be fulfilled? Please reply...

**Robin677** · 04-18-2020

Hi everyone,

I am a Sunni Muslim and 28 yrs old guy. I had a romantic relationship (long-distance) with a girl for some months. She truly loved me a lot. I found her in Facebook.
Though I told her always that I loved her, but in reality my love wasn't that strong (or I was confused). I lied to her. After having relation for some months, I suddenly said to her that my parents may cause a problem about our marriage (This was false excuse). She felt extremely sad and she cried. She told me --"Then why did you continue our relation on the first place?? Why did you always say you would be marry me??? " She understood that I am a liar.

After that, I ignored her, avoided her for many many months (more than 2 years). During this 2 years, she called me so many times, sent me text and voice messages many times. But I ignored these. (During this 2 years, I called her 3-4 times and had a small chat).
She cried many times. But I didn't care about her. She already has understand that I am a fraud , liar and just wasted her time. She has understand that all the things I said (I will marry you, I truly love you etc) were all lie.

Now I realize that I shouldn't leave her 2 years ago. She really loved me and wanted to marry me, but I didn't care for her. Because of me, she cried a lot and her life got affected very very badly. I realize that I wronged her. She hates me because I broke her heart after having a intimate relation with her for some months. She has understand that I used her and threw her away.
Everyday I regret about what I have done. I am very guilty.

If she makes any bad Dua against me, will it be accepted?
Please reply .....

(Sorry for my language)

***charisma*** · 04-20-2020

Assalamu Alaikum

Stop advising him to talk to her. Why should he go and put himself in a state of fitnah again? She may have moved on with her life, why reopen the case?
Furthermore, they should not even be talking to each other regardless considering that is what got them in trouble in the first place. What is apologizing going to do anyway? It will just complicate things.

**Studentofdeed** · 04-20-2020

I guess your right in ur argument. But apologies shows one is sincere and helps the other party move one. It brings peace to the other. We only had good intentions

***charisma*** · 04-20-2020

Originally Posted by Studentofdeed

I guess your right in ur argument. But apologies shows one is sincere and helps the other party move one. It brings peace to the other. We only had good intentions

But since this is between a girl and a boy who had a haram relationship, it should not be considered. Shaytan can easily manipulate their feelings. With Allah's mercy and time, we move on regardless of apologies and closures. The damage has already been done and dusted.

**CuriousonTruth** · 04-20-2020

Originally Posted by *charisma*

But since this is between a girl and a boy who had a haram relationship, it should not be considered. Shaytan can easily manipulate their feelings. With Allah's mercy and time, we move on regardless of apologies and closures. The damage has already been done and dusted.

While I agree.....some form of closure is necessary. And he can just text, as he said he hasn't even met the girl in person.Let him end this.

**Studentofdeed** · 04-20-2020

in essence even if between girl and guy, one should still apologize. Charisma is right there can be temptation but at the same time if people stopped apologizing and rely on Allah alone because they are scared matters will be worse then that is not them repenting. They need to face the consequences. Its not like backbiting where it can damage relations. But when someone knows you wronged him or her, and you owe them rights. You need to go back. Deal with consequences. Cannot destroy peoples lives and be afraid to apologize and rely on Allah alone to fix things. Oppression is oppression. Even between girl and guy. Otherwise guys and girls will use this as an excuse not to deal with their consequences and say "oh its fine" I repented. While the person who is left behind is still picking up the pieces, their mind torn, and out of place. Just apologize and then from there don't ever contact her again. Make duas for her and do charity. Even if someone killed someone. They have to go back and fix things. Its high time we teach people to deal with consequences rather than hide behind and "move on". End it with grace but leave her alone. Even if it distresses her, atleazt she will know that you regretted your actions and you wish well for her

**Studentofdeed** · 04-20-2020

Please close this thread. I'm sick of these types of conversations. It brings bad taste to the mouth. There is a lack of sympathy and everyone want point figures and blame victim and the person who harmed her. We all make mistakes, but best of those are those who fix them or try to. I may hate what the guy did but what I appreciate is that he recognized his own evil and wants to fix it. He has got his advice. Now let's leave at that and close this thread.

**Robin677** · 04-20-2020

Originally Posted by *charisma*

But since this is between a girl and a boy who had a haram relationship, it should not be considered. Shaytan can easily manipulate their feelings. With Allah's mercy and time, we move on regardless of apologies and closures. The damage has already been done and dusted.

I really miss her a lot. She really wanted to marry me, but that time I didn't care for her. The memories of romantic moments I passed with her in everyday video chats are now making me extremely sad and depressed. I made a very big mistake by losing her. If I continued the relationship, I could've married her , I could have a happy married life.
I lost everything..

**taha_** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by Robin677

I really miss her a lot. She really wanted to marry me, but that time I didn't care for her. The memories of romantic moments I passed with her in everyday video chats are now making me extremely sad and depressed. I made a very big mistake by losing her. If I continued the relationship, I could've married her , I could have a happy married life.
I lost everything..

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

For now. It's best to leave her alone. There are better women out there. Ask your family or imam to find you a righteous spouse who will be coolness in your eyes.

**Robin677** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by taha_

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

For now. It's best to leave her alone. There are better women out there. Ask your family or imam to find you a righteous spouse who will be coolness in your eyes.

I can't accept that I lost her. I want to go back to that time and fix everything, and it is impossible. I am mentally and emotionally stuck in those moments. I cannot go ahead.

**taha_** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by Robin677

I can't accept that I lost her. I want to go back to that time and fix everything, and it is impossible. I am mentally and emotionally stuck in those moments. I cannot go ahead.

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

You can never go back to that time again. Perhaps you learnt lessons. Our knowledge and wisdom are limited.

He will give you [something] better than what was taken from you, and He will forgive you; and Allah is Forgiving and Merciful." An Anfal 70

If you leave something for sake of Allah. In sha Allah He will give you something better

**Al-Ansariyah** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by Robin677

I can't accept that I lost her. I want to go back to that time and fix everything, and it is impossible. I am mentally and emotionally stuck in those moments. I cannot go ahead.

That is bcoz u urself don't want to forget her.
Either get her in a halal way or just don't contact her. Try to engage urself in worshipping Allah. Nd make lots of dua. Nd pray in the last third of the night, dua made at that time always gets fulfilled.
Whenever she comes to ur mind, just think that these are whispers of shaitan , and he is an enemy to u , so seek refuge in Allah from that.
Seems like due to this lockdown, u r thinking more about her. Keep urself busy brother. Leave everything that reminds u of her. There's so much u can do in ur free time.Seek Islamic knowledge, that will be beneficial for u in this world nd hereafter. While thinking about her will just make things worse.
Allah will make a way out. Trust the Almighty. Have patience.
Nd this life is temporary.

Jazakallah khair

**Robin677** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by user123name

That is bcoz u urself don't want to forget her.
Either get her in a halal way or just don't contact her. Try to engage urself in worshipping Allah. Nd make lots of dua. Nd pray in the last third of the night, dua made at that time always gets fulfilled.
Whenever she comes to ur mind, just think that these are whispers of shaitan , and he is an enemy to u , so seek refuge in Allah from that.
Seems like due to this lockdown, u r thinking more about her. Keep urself busy brother. Leave everything that reminds u of her. There's so much u can do in ur free time.Seek Islamic knowledge, that will be beneficial for u in this world nd hereafter. While thinking about her will just make things worse.
Allah will make a way out. Trust the Almighty. Have patience.
Nd this life is temporary.

Jazakallah khair

I can't forget the memories I had with her. The memories were very very intimate, very deep. I lost "true love". I was extremely lucky to have her. But I was so much foolish that I couldn't understand that. I am hating myself everyday for losing her. I cannot get past all these feelings.

**taha_** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by Robin677

I can't forget the memories I had with her. The memories were very very intimate, very deep. I lost "true love". I was extremely lucky to have her. But I was so much foolish that I couldn't understand that. I am hating myself everyday for losing her. I cannot get past all these feelings.

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

These are shaitan trap.

Tell yourself. Who is dearer to you? Your Creator who cares, provides and protect you? Or some woman?

You have to leave her alone. Train your nafs. Do more dikhr, read Quran and reflect on it. Follow more sunnah

**Robin677** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by taha_

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

These are shaitan trap.

Tell yourself. Who is dearer to you? Your Creator who cares, provides and protect you? Or some woman?

You have to leave her alone. Train your nafs. Do more dikhr, read Quran and reflect on it. Follow more sunnah

**Robin677** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by taha_

Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

These are shaitan trap.

Tell yourself. Who is dearer to you? Your Creator who cares, provides and protect you? Or some woman?

You have to leave her alone. Train your nafs. Do more dikhr, read Quran and reflect on it. Follow more sunnah

**Robin677** · 04-21-2020

Originally Posted by user123name

That is bcoz u urself don't want to forget her.
Either get her in a halal way or just don't contact her. Try to engage urself in worshipping Allah. Nd make lots of dua. Nd pray in the last third of the night, dua made at that time always gets fulfilled.
Whenever she comes to ur mind, just think that these are whispers of shaitan , and he is an enemy to u , so seek refuge in Allah from that.
Seems like due to this lockdown, u r thinking more about her. Keep urself busy brother. Leave everything that reminds u of her. There's so much u can do in ur free time.Seek Islamic knowledge, that will be beneficial for u in this world nd hereafter. While thinking about her will just make things worse.
Allah will make a way out. Trust the Almighty. Have patience.
Nd this life is temporary.

Jazakallah khair

**Robin677** · 04-22-2020

Originally Posted by user123name

That is bcoz u urself don't want to forget her.
Either get her in a halal way or just don't contact her. Try to engage urself in worshipping Allah. Nd make lots of dua. Nd pray in the last third of the night, dua made at that time always gets fulfilled.
Whenever she comes to ur mind, just think that these are whispers of shaitan , and he is an enemy to u , so seek refuge in Allah from that.
Seems like due to this lockdown, u r thinking more about her. Keep urself busy brother. Leave everything that reminds u of her. There's so much u can do in ur free time.Seek Islamic knowledge, that will be beneficial for u in this world nd hereafter. While thinking about her will just make things worse.
Allah will make a way out. Trust the Almighty. Have patience.
Nd this life is temporary.

Jazakallah khair

I feel very depressed whenever I think that I lost the precious love of her.... :'(

**Hassy** · 04-22-2020

Originally Posted by Robin677

I feel very depressed whenever I think that I lost the precious love of her.... :'(

I have already answered your thread, you should accept her and somehow if you can't accept her for any kind of reason then don't contact her and don't waste anyone's time and don't give wrong and fake hopes to anyone. You can't clear yourself to say that it was online or something like that. It doesn't matter the person is online or your neighbor, no one has the right to play with someone's heart. Be a man and be a genuine person.

**Robin677** · 04-22-2020

Originally Posted by Hassy

I have already answered your thread, you should accept her and somehow if you can't accept her for any kind of reason then don't contact her and don't waste anyone's time and don't give wrong and fake hopes to anyone. You can't clear yourself to say that it was online or something like that. It doesn't matter the person is online or your neighbor, no one has the right to play with someone's heart. Be a man and be a genuine person.

I admit that I don't have any right to play with amounts anyone's heart (online or real life).
I became very weak in every way, after losing her. :'(

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Correction:
I admit that I don't have any right to play with anyone's heart (online or real life).
I became very weak in every way, after losing her. :'(

**taha_** · 04-22-2020

Assalam o Alaikum rahamutullahi wa barakuthu.

Yet again, shaitan is toying with you.

Please reflect on this Quranic verse about desire.

Have you seen he who has taken as his god his [own] desire, (Surah 45:23)

You have learnt the lessons. Be indepedent and don't make yourself slave to woman. Be slave of your Creator.

Also think about two people as reported in hadith.

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:

Barira's husband was a slave called Mughith, as if I am seeing him now, going behind Barira and weeping with his tears flowing down his beard. The Prophet (ﷺ) said to `Abbas, "O `Abbas ! are you not astonished at the love of Mughith for Barira and the hatred of Barira for Mughith?" The Prophet (ﷺ) then said to Barira, "Why don't you return to him?" She said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! Do you order me to do so?" He said, "No, I only intercede for him." She said, "I am not in need of him."

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدٌ، أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَهَّابِ، حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدٌ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، أَنَّ زَوْجَ، بَرِيرَةَ كَانَ عَبْدًا يُقَالُ لَهُ مُغِيثٌ كَأَنِّي أَنْظُرُ إِلَيْهِ يَطُوفُ خَلْفَهَا يَبْكِي، وَدُمُوعُهُ تَسِيلُ عَلَى لِحْيَتِهِ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم لِعَبَّاسٍ ‏"‏ يَا عَبَّاسُ أَلاَ تَعْجَبُ مِنْ حُبِّ مُغِيثٍ بَرِيرَةَ، وَمِنْ بُغْضِ بَرِيرَةَ مُغِيثًا ‏"‏‏.‏ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ لَوْ رَاجَعْتِهِ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ تَأْمُرُنِي قَالَ ‏"‏ إِنَّمَا أَنَا أَشْفَعُ ‏"‏‏.‏ قَالَتْ لاَ حَاجَةَ لِي فِيهِ‏.‏

Reference

: Sahih al-Bukhari 5283

Allah knows best, the hadith above meant that feeling obessesed and extremely loved with each other is very dangerous that it can even lead to depression, anxiety, and other mental problems, which affects our worship..

We should love Allah more than anything. Allah cares, provides, and looks after His slaves. Think about whatever you had, and that they are from Allah, the Most Gracious and Genrous.

JazakAllah khair