If a girl makes dua against me, will that dua be fulfilled? Please reply...

format_quote Originally Posted by Robin677

Hi everyone,

I am a Sunni Muslim and 28 yrs old guy. I had a romantic relationship (long-distance) with a girl for some months. She truly loved me a lot. I found her in Facebook.
Though I told her always that I loved her, but in reality my love wasn't that strong (or I was confused). I lied to her. After having relation for some months, I suddenly said to her that my parents may cause a problem about our marriage (This was false excuse). She felt extremely sad and she cried. She told me --"Then why did you continue our relation on the first place?? Why did you always say you would be marry me??? " She understood that I am a liar.

After that, I ignored her, avoided her for many many months (more than 2 years). During this 2 years, she called me so many times, sent me text and voice messages many times. But I ignored these. (During this 2 years, I called her 3-4 times and had a small chat).
She cried many times. But I didn't care about her. She already has understand that I am a fraud , liar and just wasted her time. She has understand that all the things I said (I will marry you, I truly love you etc) were all lie.

Now I realize that I shouldn't leave her 2 years ago. She really loved me and wanted to marry me, but I didn't care for her. Because of me, she cried a lot and her life got affected very very badly. I realize that I wronged her. She hates me because I broke her heart after having a intimate relation with her for some months. She has understand that I used her and threw her away.
Everyday I regret about what I have done. I am very guilty.

If she makes any bad Dua against me, will it be accepted?
Please reply .....

(Sorry for my language)

You have done really bad and you have to apologize to her truly by your heart and also accept her. Although these things are getting so common nowadays, I'm getting this problem too. I can really understand her feelings because there is one girl who has been playing with me too. Of course, her Dua will be accepted but on the other side, it's good that you have realized your mistake and now you should admit all these things in front of her and accept her. I respect you as a person but I hate this act. It's never too late.

format_quote Originally Posted by Hassy

You have done really bad and you have to apologize to her truly by your heart and also accept her. Although these things are getting so common nowadays, I'm getting this problem too. I can really understand her feelings because there is one girl who has been playing with me too. Of course, her Dua will be accepted but on the other side, it's good that you have realized your mistake and now you should admit all these things in front of her and accept her. I respect you as a person but I hate this act. It's never too late.

Is it required to talk to her? And what do you mean by "accept her"?

(I know what I have done is wrong)

Hi everyone,

I am a Sunni Muslim and 28 yrs old guy. I had a romantic relationship (long-distance) with a girl for some months. She truly loved me a lot. I found her in Facebook.
Though I told her always that I loved her, but in reality my love wasn't that strong (or I was confused). I lied to her. After having relation for some months, I suddenly said to her that my parents may cause a problem about our marriage (This was false excuse). She felt extremely sad and she cried. She told me --"Then why did you continue our relation on the first place?? Why did you always say you would be marry me??? " She understood that I am a liar.

After that, I ignored her, avoided her for many many months (more than 2 years). During this 2 years, she called me so many times, sent me text and voice messages many times. But I ignored these. (During this 2 years, I called her 3-4 times and had a small chat).
She cried many times. But I didn't care about her. She already has understand that I am a fraud , liar and just wasted her time. She has understand that all the things I said (I will marry you, I truly love you etc) were all lie.

Now I realize that I shouldn't leave her 2 years ago. She really loved me and wanted to marry me, but I didn't care for her. Because of me, she cried a lot and her life got affected very very badly. I realize that I wronged her. She hates me because I broke her heart after having a intimate relation with her for some months. She has understand that I used her and threw her away.
Everyday I regret about what I have done. I am very guilty.

If she makes any bad Dua against me, will it be accepted?
Please reply .....

I never met her in real life.

(Sorry for my language)

I never met her in real life.

I know what I have done is wrong.

format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*

Assalamu Alaikum



Sure, why wouldn't it get accepted? What do you think you deserve to get playing with people's hearts?

I forgot to tell one thing in the post. I never met her in real life.

Brother if you are stuck feeling prideful and cannot humble yourself to apologize and repent...then the girls dua will come true. In Islam,.yes everyone can do bad but what you can do is change and fix things. Start taking responsibility and acting like a man. Tell this girl sorry and if you cannot marry her then tell her the truth that you are coward. By apologizing and making it easier for the girl, It may help make things easier.

format_quote Originally Posted by Robin677

I forgot to tell one thing in the post. I never met her in real life.

Obviously you have to talk to her and ask for an apology from your heart and accept her. If you never met someone in real life then it doesn't mean that you have a license to play with someone's heart. I hope you got the answer now.

It doesn't matter if you did not meet her in person. Our words are more dangerous than physical wounds. The damage our words do is more than what our physical scars do. Go and apologize to That girl and tell her that I was not her fault. Do not ever do this behavior again otherwise your deeds will catch up with you. Let this serve as a lesson. Change your ways and Allah will make it easier.

format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*

Assalamu Alaikum



Sure, why wouldn't it get accepted? What do you think you deserve to get playing with people's hearts?

Can you really be sure of her dua'a being accepted? She is just as guilty as the OP for being a part of this haraam relationship. Also, if the OP is truly sorry and repents, wouldn't Allah forgive him? I'm not trying to absolve OP of his wrong doings, I'm just saying, we shouldn't be so certain since only Allah knows what He will do. Also, there are certain conditions for peoples Dua'as to be accepted, who are we to say she met them? : https://islamqa.info/en/answers/1350...pted-by-allaah

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/9782...-for-judgement

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This article annuls the role of the woman’s guardian (wali) which is to protect the woman’s rights in marriage, and to help his daughter or sister to make a good choice, and to ask about the religious commitment and character of the suitor. It is by His wisdom that Allaah has prescribed this. If marriage was left up to the woman without her guardian’s consent, you would see most girls marrying those who enchant them of the wolves of men, who are eager to rob them of their chastity then throw them aside. '
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I just read this 3 minutes ago..came to this page and lo-behold exhibit A an example of what that above sentence talks about you. It talks about the OP...yes YOU.......it talks 100% about you. It takes only a FATHER to play this role. The role of protecting the daughter is only on the shoulder of the fathers! I love to see more appreciation to dads, good dads, Allah fearing dads, dads who sacrifice for his children. Dads who can smell people like OP right away and put a stop to coming to this end where the girl's heart is broken.

I agree with charisma. If you feel like it will make things worse than don't contact her but never stop making dua and doing good deeds for her.

format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*

Of course she is also in the wrong, but playing with people's hearts and being deceitful is worse. Secondly, even the du'a of the kaffir is answered, so it's not on us to say that someone's dua will be not be answered. Allah accepts the du'as of whom He wishes whether they meet the conditions or not.

I'm sorry if I sound like I am nitpicking, it's just that I don't think we should ever assume that we know what Allah will do. We don't know the future, therefore we don't know whether or not if the dua'a will be accepted. You shouldn't have affirmed OP's fears by saying sure because it is entirely possible that Allah will not answer the womans dua'a. The best response anyone should have given would be to say we don't know if Allah will answer, but that it is entirely possible that He will and the best course of action would be to seek forgiveness and repent from his past misdeeds.

format_quote Originally Posted by Avis

I'm sorry if I sound like I am nitpicking, it's just that I don't think we should ever assume that we know what Allah will do. We don't know the future, therefore we don't know whether or not if the dua'a will be accepted. You shouldn't have affirmed OP's fears by saying sure because it is entirely possible that Allah will not answer the womans dua'a. The best response anyone should have given would be to say we don't know if Allah will answer, but that it is entirely possible that He will and the best course of action would be to seek forgiveness and repent from his past misdeeds.

Do I have to talk to the girl for forgiveness?

format_quote Originally Posted by Robin677

Do I have to talk to the girl for forgiveness?

you do not HAVE to do anything...but should you talk to the girl for forgiveness?
i think, yes you should.

format_quote Originally Posted by Robin677

Do I have to talk to the girl for forgiveness?

If you must, send her a letter of apology, explaining how it was wrong of you to do the things you are. But you need to also be blunt and tell her as Muslims, the both of you should never have gotten to know each other the way you did and that it is for the best that you cease communication.

If you think there is a chance that this letter/email will lead to more communication, then you should just not contact her at all.

Same here. But don't play with her feelings again or mislead her in any way of future or hopes. Apologize and repent to Allah. Make dues for her and do good deeds.