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    PDA is a vulgar culture, it is based on Western. yet it also took place among Muslims. Mostly, the married couples are seen hugging each other, holding hands in front of people... It is also still common in Social media as well...



    It is very against modesty, and aswell it is contrary to protective jealousy of man.



    It is the duty of a Muslim man to protect the honor of his wife, and he should make sure that she does not fall into any dangers.



    Allah says in Quran


    ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعۡضَهُمۡ عَلَىٰ بَعۡضٍ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُواْ مِنۡ أَمۡوَٰلِهِمۡۚ فَٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتُ قَٰنِتَٰتٌ حَٰفِظَٰتٌ لِّلۡغَيۡبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُۚ



    Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them, guard.



    Therefore it is completely against Allah's command that man should practice PDA with his wife.



    Modesty is of great importance. It is reported in ahadith:



    It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that:



    The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Faith has seventy-odd branches and modesty (Al-Haya') is a branch of faith."



    Sunan an-Nasa'i 5004



    Narrated Abu Mas`ud:



    The Prophet (ﷺ) said, 'One of the sayings of the early Prophets which the people have got is: If you don't feel ashamed, do whatever you like."



    Sahih al-Bukhari 6120



    And it is also important that the man should also protect his wife's honor, that he should have protective jealousy over her, and not allow any strangers to touch her.



    Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported that Sa'd b. Ubada (Allah be pleased with him) said:



    Messenger of Allah, if I were to find with my wife a man, should I not touch him before bringing four witnesses? Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Yes. He said: By no means. By Him Who has sent you with the Truth, I would hasten with my sword to him before that. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Listen to what your chief says. He is jealous of his honor, I am more jealous than he (is) and God is more jealous than I.



    Sahih Muslim 1498 c



    See how Hazrat Sa'd b Ubadah's jealousy toward his wife was! Yet today, we come across many pictures of Muslim couples showing affection, holding hands, hugging, etc... This is not good.



    Moreover, not only it also affects the honor of the couples, but it could lead to evil eyes as well. Many of our brothers and sisters are unmarried, even at older ages, and are still struggling to find spouses. So if they were to see what the married couples are doing in public, they would grow more depressed and feel hatred and envious toward those.



    So, therefore, you must avoid displaying affection with your spouses publicly. Do it in private, don't follow the kafirs' way. Follow the Prophet peace be upon him and his companions, for they had best Ghayrah...
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    Re: Public Display of Affection

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    Public Display of Affection


    PDA is a vulgar culture, it is based on Western. yet it also took place among Muslims. Mostly, the married couples are seen hugging each other, holding hands in front of people... It is also still common in Social media as well...



    It is very against modesty, and aswell it is contrary to protective jealousy of man.



    It is the duty of a Muslim man to protect the honor of his wife, and he should make sure that she does not fall into any dangers.



    Allah says in Quran


    ٱلرِّجَالُ قَوَّٰمُونَ عَلَى ٱلنِّسَآءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ ٱللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍۢ وَبِمَآ أَنفَقُوا۟ مِنْ أَمْوَٰلِهِمْ ۚ فَٱلصَّـٰلِحَـٰتُ قَـٰنِتَـٰتٌ حَـٰفِظَـٰتٌۭ لِّلْغَيْبِ بِمَا حَفِظَ ٱللَّهُ ۚ

    Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them, guard.



    Therefore it is completely against Allah's command that man should practice PDA with his wife.



    Modesty is of great importance. It is reported in ahadith:



    It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that:



    The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Faith has seventy-odd branches and modesty (Al-Haya') is a branch of faith."



    Sunan an-Nasa'i 5004



    Narrated Abu Mas`ud:



    The Prophet (ﷺ) said, 'One of the sayings of the early Prophets which the people have got is: If you don't feel ashamed, do whatever you like."



    Sahih al-Bukhari 6120



    And it is also important that the man should also protect his wife's honor, that he should have protective jealousy over her, and not allow any strangers to touch her.



    Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported that Sa'd b. Ubada (Allah be pleased with him) said:



    Messenger of Allah, if I were to find with my wife a man, should I not touch him before bringing four witnesses? Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Yes. He said: By no means. By Him Who has sent you with the Truth, I would hasten with my sword to him before that. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Listen to what your chief says. He is jealous of his honor, I am more jealous than he (is) and God is more jealous than I.



    Sahih Muslim 1498 c



    See how Hazrat Sa'd b Ubadah's jealousy toward his wife was! Yet today, we come across many pictures of Muslim couples showing affection, holding hands, hugging, etc... This is not good.



    Moreover, not only it also affects the honor of the couples, but it could lead to evil eyes as well. Many of our brothers and sisters are unmarried, even at older ages, and are still struggling to find spouses. So if they were to see what the married couples are doing in public, they would grow more depressed and feel hatred and envious toward those.



    So, therefore, you must avoid displaying affection with your spouses publicly. Do it in private, don't follow the kafirs' way. Follow the Prophet peace be upon him and his companions, for they had best Ghayrah...
    I cant agree enough.
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    Re: Public Display of Affection

    Messenger of Allah, if I were to find with my wife a man, should I not touch him before bringing four witnesses? Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Yes. He said: By no means. By Him Who has sent you with the Truth, I would hasten with my sword to him before that. Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Listen to what your chief says. He is jealous of his honor, I am more jealous than he (is) and God is more jealous than I.

    Sahih Muslim 1498 c
    I'm not sure if I understand this correctly, is he saying that it's ok to attack the man that you find with your wife? (With a sword?)
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    Re: Public Display of Affection

    I think it depends on how modest, humble and shame conscious individuals are...

    I know for fact certain individuals would feel out of place, awkward if they did pda...

    They'd rather it be intimate in a secluded private place.

    Younger generation are starting to adopt more pda, we see it when we go to the park or shopping centre, even supermarket sometimes... But not everyday or every week, but it does happen.

    It is down to many factors why pda occurs within muslims

    Their upbringing
    Their environment
    Their morals and approach to life
    Which social circles they belong too.

    It's out of control for some people... To them it's normal!

    And yes western society allows this kind of stuff.
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    Re: Public Display of Affection

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    I'm not sure if I understand this correctly, is he saying that it's ok to attack the man that you find with your wife? (With a sword?)
    It wasn't meant to be taken literally.
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    Re: Public Display of Affection

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    It wasn't meant to be taken literally.
    oh ok I was thinking that for a second JazakAllahu khayran
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