whenever you see a brother or a sister walking past and it seems they are hesitant (because you-i.e the opposite gender-are there), please back off/turn away, etc a little as to let them walk by. some people are really shy to even walk past the opposite gender.
just a reminder.
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If I ever see a shy brother I'll cross the road for him
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sorry but *chuckles*
Isnt it suppose to be the other way around?..
You know what I dont get..lol..How some of us Muslims are shy (eg) Brothers are very well mannered when they see sisters and want to do the runner...and Sisters all feel lik ah as tho they can't breathe when they see a Muslim guy.
But how about around the Kufars?.., don't get me even started. I see some really funny things.
The rule is for all living beings not only for "around Muslims".
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Would a sister be more worried if she seen a bro start to back away and turn his back as soon as he seen her? I think it depends on the situation and place
Would a sister be more worried if she seen a bro start to back away and turn his back as soon as he seen her? I think it depends on the situation and place
defenitly,all depends on the situation
if your jus walking and a bro is walking toward you then jus lower ur gaze,i mean dnt stare...he shouldnt jus make a quick u-turn if ur in public,in that case he would get no were cuz he'll have to turn every time he saw a sis,ALLAHO A'lam
but if ur in a strair well alone the the bro should defenitly stop n stand aside to let u pass..which most do
Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.
if your jus walking and a bro is walking toward you then jus lower ur gaze,i mean dnt stare...he shouldnt jus make a quick u-turn if ur in public,in that case he would get no were cuz he'll have to turn every time he saw a sis,ALLAHO A'lam
but if ur in a strair well alone the the bro should defenitly stop n stand aside to let u pass..which most do
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If we were at the bottom of the stairs, i'd rather have the brother go up first than stand there and watch me go up first, but I still think it's polite if they wait, better than pushing past you or walking alongside you, I hate touchy people
As for Non-Muslim brothers, they usually walk right next to you, when I'm with my momma they cross the road Lol, maybe it's cause of her niqaab, we say it from far away that such and such will cross the road jus before he/she approaches us, and they always do!! It never happens when I'm just there, it's annoying because they're almost touching you when they walk beside you
JazakiAllahu khair sis Ramz =) Hope you're feeling the Ramadhan spririt now Heh, *wub*
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If we were at the bottom of the stairs, i'd rather have the brother go up first than stand there and watch me go up first, but I still think it's polite if they wait, better than pushing past you or walking alongside you, I hate touchy people
As for Non-Muslim brothers, they usually walk right next to you, when I'm with my momma they cross the road Lol, maybe it's cause of her niqaab, we say it from far away that such and such will cross the road jus before he/she approaches us, and they always do!! It never happens when I'm just there, it's annoying because they're almost touching you when they walk beside you
JazakiAllahu khair sis Ramz =) Hope you're feeling the Ramadhan spririt now Heh, *wub*
true,i would also ratherhim come up first but most brothers jus stand there n let u go down first,im referring to us walking in different directions
yes beacause if we were walking in the same direction i would defenitly want him to go first...actually i haev this problem at school..i serve as a student aid so i haveto take new,or lost students to there classs cuz i school is so huge,anyway i have to lead the way of course and when were going up the strairs i feel so...so..i dnt no the word..maybe i should jus let them go ahead wen we get to the strairs although im sur eto get a couple of weird faces
Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.
I guess. my point was that if you see the opposite gender is too shy to even walk by -Just because your're there- even if its at a difference ...then move over a little.
I mean you’re not going to be bothered if the distance is quite large.
But sometimes it could just be something like a car park or something (and yes, iam thinking of a particular situation here)
format_quote Originally Posted by Yanoorah
You know what I dont get..lol..How some of us Muslims are shy (eg) Brothers are very well mannered when they see sisters and want to do the runner...and Sisters all feel lik ah as tho they can't breathe when they see a Muslim guy.
But how about around the Kufars?.., don't get me even started. I see some really funny things.
The rule is for all living beings not only for "around Muslims".
Yeah deffo Probs depend on how the bro/sis composes themselves as well. I mean if ya all smiley and that, than you come across as a friendly person, etc which would make people more inclined towards you….you know people feel more comfortable to be around you. …but if you were the type of person who is quite, not so smiley :X etc., than people know that you’re a little ‘unapproachable,’ and would be a little cautious on how they approach you. Lol…I mean yu don’t act like that to the same gender …
So yeah, maybe they’re like that because that the way the sis/bro come across as…get me?
Btw, im not making an excuse and saying that what they do is right
format_quote Originally Posted by DaNgErOuS MiNdS
Would a sister be more worried if she seen a bro start to back away and turn his back as soon as he seen her?
im not sure about other girls, but no, I would be happy :X
BUT
I think it depends on the situation and place
Na3am, for sure. I mean if it’s a huge place where you’re completely opposite each other, than I guess it could come across as a little offensive.
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 09-09-2008 at 11:59 AM.
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please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
the same is going here........in the arabian Gulf region
if the girls see a local guy *some of them* will covered up or feel shyness, while if they saw any other nationality crossing by..................."no response"
act like no one passing
sorry, i didnt literally mean back-off...no turn away is what i meant. i just meant it along the lines as turn your gaze, dont look at her if shes walking by, etc
^how do u mean u turn...did i mention that
i normally walk right past - gaze down - nice distance between us
but what if one of you is standing there, whilst the other needs to walk by...thats what i was thinking of when i said turn away.
Last edited by Ummu Sufyaan; 09-09-2008 at 11:52 AM.
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
Alhamdulillah in my experience the bro has always either backed off a little, lowered his gaze and allowed me to pass, or if it was a door- waited for me to go through first. Alhamdulillah for our bro's in Islam!
lol...alhamduliah...i had a different experience. i was at our musallah carpark the other night and i was waiting for my bro...but there was this other bro there...and stopped when i saw him and every now and again i would look towards his direction as to see if he had turned around or something...so eventually i stopped lest he thought i was checking him out or something it was just so frustrating, 'cos my bro was waiting and i thought he would've been getting annoyed for waiting so long :X but alhamdulilah allah gave him the common sense to drive to me
...desperate for husnul-khitaam...
please make dua that Allah grants me a good end (to my life). please make dua that Allah guides me.
^ I didn't get that. Was the other male in your way and you waited for him to go away?
I think she stopped in her tracks because he was there, she's saying maybe that bro's should move out the way when they see another sis there...Allahu A'lam
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Wa'alaykum salamsorry but *chuckles*
, don't get me even started. I see some really funny things.
It never happens when I'm just there, it's annoying because they're almost touching you when they walk beside you
Probs depend on how the bro/sis composes themselves as well. I mean if ya all smiley and that, than you come across as a friendly person, etc which would make people more inclined towards you….you know people feel more comfortable to be around you. …but if you were the type of person who is quite, not so smiley :X etc., than people know that you’re a little ‘unapproachable,’ and would be a little cautious on how they approach you. Lol…I mean yu don’t act like that to the same gender
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it was just so frustrating, 'cos my bro was waiting and i thought he would've been getting annoyed for waiting so long :X but alhamdulilah allah gave him the common sense to drive to me
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