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  • Tell the Truth No matter

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  • Sometimes best to keep ur mouth shut

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    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

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    Does honesty also mean being able to say what ur thinking, exactly wat ur thinking?

    Do u value people who tell it like it is? I do.
    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?


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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    in the real world you cant tell the "truth" no matter what
    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    well....well....well.............

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?



    ^ not exactly..sometimes you should ju skeep your mouth shut..somethings are better kept inside then let out

    its beeter not to always speak your mind

    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    awww who voted "your poll sucks"??

    sometimes its better to keep your big mouth shut :X


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    And as for the one who fears standing in front of His Lord and restrains the soul from impure evil desires and lusts, verily, Paradise will be his abode [79:40-41]

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    lol can a mod plss add "what" to the first option towards the end.:$
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Yanoorah View Post
    lol can a mod plss add "what" to the first option towards the end.:$


    ocd?

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    Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Quote Originally Posted by ayan333 View Post


    ocd?



    sis wat du mean?
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    ibrahim alaihissalaam said three white lies


    about his health when his people went to worship idols so he could stay away from idol worship
    about his wife so that the tyrant king wouldnt slay him and take away his wife
    some say his speech in regards to the sun/moon etc, to give dawah


    the prophet sallallahi alaihi wasallaam encourages saying sweet words to the wife even if its not entirely true.
    he also encourages saying something to unite two brothers even if its not true.


    Wallahu A'lam ask a scholar, but thats what i base my opinion on
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?



    Lying in some cases is permisable in islam.

    Like for example, when ur wife asks you. How do i look now, and she might not look very nice. YOu can say to her that she does to make her feel better.

    Also when two people are not talking to eachother, u can tell one of them that the other one said sorry nd he wants to talk to u agian, nd u tell the other one the same. They then come together thinking they both apologized nd start being friends agian always works!
    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?


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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Yanoorah View Post


    sis wat du mean?


    sorry sis,i think its jus me

    i ment do u have OCD,,it was a joke though

    youn wanted to put "what" at the end of the firts choice..i thought i was bothering you because you wanted it there..i get that way sometimes but then again im weird

    sorry to bother u sis

    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Quote Originally Posted by ayan333 View Post


    sorry sis,i think its jus me

    i ment do u have OCD,,it was a joke though

    youn wanted to put "what" at the end of the firts choice..i thought i was bothering you because you wanted it there..i get that way sometimes but then again im weird

    sorry to bother u sis


    lol
    u call that botherin me? you have to try harder then that lol

    I get ur joke now..I am a bit slow 2day. Dont sorry me u did nuffin wrong sis!
    and ur not weird.:sunny:..I am!
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Yanoorah View Post

    lol
    u call that botherin me? you have to try harder then that lol

    I get ur joke now..I am a bit slow 2day. Dont sorry me u did nuffin wrong sis!
    and ur not weird.:sunny:..I am!


    o ok sis

    ur not slow..we're all slow some days

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    Verily, His Command, when He intends a thing, is only that He says to it, Be! and it is.

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    ^ kay sis :sunny:

    I voted for "best to keep ur mouth shut sometimes". Because sometimes it seems to me as though being honest can get u into awholata troubles then get u out of any. I don't know why. But thats just the way life is.

    I try to be as honest as I can be, but the world/people dont let me at times.

    Wont Allah punish us for being silent when we can change a situation? I try to be patient, but sometimes I cant hold it in it jst comes out.
    Last edited by Ansariyah; 10-06-2008 at 10:30 PM.
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    According to Shari'ah, lying is not permitted except in specific cases which do not lead to loss of rights, bloodshed or slander of people’s honor, etc, but which concern saving lives, reconciling between people, or creating love between husband and wife.

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?



    I think honesty is the best policy, but you should also keep your mouth shut. There's good timing for everything. No reason to be obnoxious or start screaming the truth, creating chaos. sometimes telling the truth at the wrong time backfires and creates confusion.
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Almost but not quite. Some things are a better policy, for example:

    1. Obeying Allaah(swt)

    2. Pleasing Allaah (swt)

    Some of the posters have posted reasons and occasions where it would be permissable not to tell the truth and in those rare times it does seem full, unqualified honesty would violate what I just listed as 1 and 2.

    Just my opinion, astragfirullah
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymeeyah said:

    “Allah has enjoined truthfulness and honesty, and He has forbidden lies and concealment with regard to matters which should be known and revealed to people, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said in a hadeeth whose authenticity is agreed upon: ‘The two parties involved in a transaction have the option [of canceling it] until they part. If they are honest and truthful, their transaction will be blessed for them and if they conceal something and tell lies, the blessing of their transaction will be wiped out.’

    And Allah Taala says,

    ‘O you who believe! Stand out firmly for Allah as just witnesses; and let not the enmity and hatred of others make you avoid justice. Be just: that is nearer to piety’ [al-Ma'idah 5:8]

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    If its a matter of halal and haraam then saying the haqq is the best and only option, even if it is disrespectful towards parents/elders or hurting their feelings.

    There is no obedience to any creature in disobedience to the Creator.

    I'm not saying you should shout at them and make your point...instead you should give them naseeha in the best manner.
    Wallahu ta'alaa alaam.

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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    I do believe in white lie, and believe its necessary at times.
    Sometimes, the other person just 'misunderstood' what you said. *wink*wink*
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    Re: Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

    Is "omission" of a vital fact considered lying?...
    Such as:
    "mom, i'm going to the museum"
    "mom, i'm going to the museum then getting coffee with someone i don't think you would approve of"
    Is Honesty, really the best Policy?

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