بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم،
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته،
Dear brothers and sisters,
I would like to ask you for advice about this problem I've been struggling with for a very long time now.
When I was younger I went through a lot. I'm not going into all the details about that right now, but it got to a point where I really got depressed. Eventhough it was very rough, a lot of good things came out of this period of my life; It was in this time that I found (and builded a relationship with) Allaah (swt), الحمد لله.
I'm doing so much better right now, but one thing that's still effecting me is my low self esteem and body image.
I grew a lot of self hate during my depression and that resulted in many insecurities about my body. I find myself to be very unattractive and I try to avoid looking in the mirror as much as I can.
I do believe Allaah (swt) created what's beautiful only and that I should be thankfull for being part of his creation. I should be thankfull for what I have and I truely am. Besides it's what's on the inside that matters. It's just very diffucult to change my mindset and this feelings.
Is there anyone here who has been through such thing? How do I deal with this? I would like to hear your thoughts and advices on this.
Barak Allaahou feekoum,
Wa salam,
Rapunzel.
[Btw: excuse the bad grammar, I'm horrible at this and didn't do a spell check]
Yeah, I always wanted to learn archery. The one with the fire/flames. Is that tough enough?
Yes by than you will be a full fledge warrior and you will be proud of your appearance and will have confidence in yourself including in your capabilities.
Barak Allaahou feek for your comment. Yes, it definetly has to do with me overthinking everything.
I know I have a lot more to offer than just my appearance. People who know me in person tell me all the time. It's just really hard to believe them, when your used to think so low about yourself for so long.
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Yes by than you will be a full fledge warrior and you will be proud of you're appearance and will have confidence in yourself including in your capabilities.
Well if that's what it takes...
I can close this topic...
Barak Allaahou feek for your comment. Yes, it definetly has to do with me overthinking everything.
I know I have a lot more to offer than just my appearance. People who know me in person tell me all the time. It's just really hard to believe them, when your used to think so low about yourself for so long.
Stay in righteous company and be positive yourself إن شاء الله.
May Allah grant you a righteous pious spouse. Ameen.
Thank you alot! May Allaah (swt) love, guide and protect you and your family and bless you with a righteous pious spouse aswell. All of you.Allaahouma ameen!
Thank you for your advice! I make a lot of dua and hope this situation will bring me even closer to Allaah (swt)
You all inspire me and make me feel strong enough to deal with this issue. Know that all of your advice is appreciated and that I make dua for every single one of you!
Lol I have to created some muscles, right?
Even for naughty Paprika????
how did you make your hair grow so long??? I'm suffering streaks of baldness, the secret recipe will be much appreciated
I have a few questions for you if you don't mind: How did your change of mind took place? Was there a particulair reason for it and what steps did you take to achieve this peace of mind?
It wound me up for quite some time that I was not like everyone else I knew. They all had perfect eyes and features physically but I realised not all of them were "nice" people like me (sorry if that sounds really full of myself). For instance, most of the people I knew were handsome and good looking but treated people really badly, as in they swore, answered back, were rude, were not compassionate etc.
I did look into having my eyes sorted but when I read the horror stories about the things that could go wrong and make them even worse than they were and eventually, with the nagging of my Mother, I just accepted that my eyes were not going to be symmetrical. Allah made me this way for a reason (not sure what the reason is, but I will leave it at that and not worry about it anymore). They may not be perfect physically to look at but at least they were in good working condition and I am grateful for that.
I still do catch my reflection in the mirror at times and it winds me up but then I just think of other things like pizza and chips and my nephews and nieces which normally deflects my worries.
It wound me up for quite some time that I was not like everyone else I knew. They all had perfect eyes and features physically but I realised not all of them were "nice" people like me (sorry if that sounds really full of myself). For instance, most of the people I knew were handsome and good looking but treated people really badly, as in they swore, answered back, were rude, were not compassionate etc.
I did look into having my eyes sorted but when I read the horror stories about the things that could go wrong and make them even worse than they were and eventually, with the nagging of my Mother, I just accepted that my eyes were not going to be symmetrical. Allah made me this way for a reason (not sure what the reason is, but I will leave it at that and not worry about it anymore). They may not be perfect physically to look at but at least they were in good working condition and I am grateful for that.
I still do catch my reflection in the mirror at times and it winds me up but then I just think of other things like pizza and chips and my nephews and nieces which normally deflects my worries.
I hope things work out for you.
Barak Allaahou feek for answering my questions and sharing your personal experience. May Allaah (swt) protect you always!
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