Easy to find a "nice" Muslim but hard to find a practicing Muslim for marriage! (OP)
Asalaamu Alaikum:
First of all I would like to apologise for not being active, il try my best to get back on track In sha Allah.
My family has started looking for a match for me..the thing is the only ones they'v come across so far are the "nice Muslims" once I was a nice Muslim and wanted to be with a "nice" Muslim meaning as long as a person doesn't drink alcohol, dresses up modest and does not commit fornication makes us good Muslims, makes us think that'l take us to jannah without practicing what's fardh upon us as in praying etc.
I had that mindset back in the days that's why I ended up in haram relationship I guess..to me his looks, height and money didn't matter as long as he wasn't doing anything haram, has a nice heart and is ready to take responsibility. I wasn't even attracted to him but was committed so I knew Il never look at another man..Being in and out of the relationship made me realise the way I think is wrong..there are non Muslims who are "nice" doesn't mean il go and marry one, i regret everything Iv done and I'm Alhamdulillah practicing now so I want a Muslim husband who's on the right path who prays and is away from haram, now again I'm not giving importance to looks, money etc because I know as long as he's on the right path il be able to spend rest of my life with him with commitment, love, respect and loyalty.
They are able to find good looking men, their mothers have seen my pictures and are happy to have me as a daughter in law..but I don't want looks only I want someone who's practicing now and wants to keep becoming a better Muslim, who will help me get close to Allah swt, I don't want someone who says they'l start practicing after marriage or when they become old. I'm not asking for too much am I?? Iv been told Iv become "extremist" and Iv detached myself from dunya just because I wanna do everything to please Allah. Sighs.
Alhamdulillah, one waswass is gone now.. BUT I need Allah :/ I don't want to turn to that devilish waswass again.
format_quote Originally Posted by Kiro
bro gets some cold water in a bucket and duck your head in it like an Ostrich.
Bismillah, go.
Well, it isn't THAT kind of fried brain. It is internal fryness. I need inner brain cleansing. I am fine on the outside but in my brain. It is just..
Search for a practicing one, because you want to be 100% certain that he does it for Allah's sake. Cuz doing it for people.. IS bad.
Yeah, may Allah increase me in energy. Ameen.
Last edited by Serinity; 08-06-2016 at 12:26 PM.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
Re: Easy to find a "nice" Muslim but hard to find a practicing Muslim for marriage!
format_quote Originally Posted by Serinity
Alhamdulillah, one waswass is gone now.. BUT I need Allah :/ I don't want to turn to that devilish waswass again.
Well, it isn't THAT kind of fried brain. It is internal fryness. I need inner brain cleansing. I am fine on the outside but in my brain. It is just..
Search for a practicing one, because you want to be 100% certain that he does it for Allah's sake. Cuz doing it for people.. IS bad.
Yeah, may Allah increase me in energy. Ameen.
Re: Easy to find a "nice" Muslim but hard to find a practicing Muslim for marriage!
format_quote Originally Posted by Kiro
ur not a robot so do it
feel nature
feel nature? What?
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
Re: Easy to find a "nice" Muslim but hard to find a practicing Muslim for marriage!
format_quote Originally Posted by Kiro
Imagine you need to go to the bathroom to do a number 1. It's like that, feel the nature and release it out as if you've been drinking water.
I see. I don't have a need to go to the bathroom, atm.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
Re: Easy to find a "nice" Muslim but hard to find a practicing Muslim for marriage!
May Allaah Ta`aalaa grant you a pious husband who will take you closer to Allaah, Aameen.
Definitely, Deen is the most important thing to look for in a potential spouse. Make Du`aa to Allaah Ta`aalaa to grant you the spouse you are looking for.
Du`aa is the weapon of a Mu'min. The most accepted time of Du`aa is in Tahajjud, in the third part of the night.
Anything a person wants, if they're not asking Allaah Ta`aalaa for it in Tahajjud, they don't really want it, because Tahajjud is one of the Mubaarak (blessed) times when Du`aa is especially accepted.
Re: Easy to find a "nice" Muslim but hard to find a practicing Muslim for marriage!
format_quote Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam
May Allaah Ta`aalaa grant you a pious husband who will take you closer to Allaah, Aameen.
Definitely, Deen is the most important thing to look for in a potential spouse. Make Du`aa to Allaah Ta`aalaa to grant you the spouse you are looking for.
Du`aa is the weapon of a Mu'min. The most accepted time of Du`aa is in Tahajjud, in the third part of the night.
Anything a person wants, if they're not asking Allaah Ta`aalaa for it in Tahajjud, they don't really want it, because Tahajjud is one of the Mubaarak (blessed) times when Du`aa is especially accepted.
Ameen. Thank you for the dua brother, and thank you for the reminder as Iv started missing tahajud since past 2/3 days.
Iv got 1 question..I always pray tahajud before fajr Adhan (an hour or few minutes before Adhan) can it be prayed after the Adhan also meaning can it be prayed till sunrise??
Re: Easy to find a "nice" Muslim but hard to find a practicing Muslim for marriage!
format_quote Originally Posted by Regrets1
Ameen. Thank you for the dua brother, and thank you for the reminder as Iv started missing tahajud since past 2/3 days.
Iv got 1 question..I always pray tahajud before fajr Adhan (an hour or few minutes before Adhan) can it be prayed after the Adhan also meaning can it be prayed till sunrise??
No, sister. Tahajjud can only be performed before the time for Fajr has commenced. The moment Fajr time comes in, Tahajjud time is out.
For people new to Tahajjud (not yet in the habit of performing it regularly), they can make it even 10 minutes or so before Fajr.
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