WHOA... uh, anyone know where I left my negatives? Coz its all positive again
I can't believe it... I don't know anything... life just became interesting, that's all i'm saying lol (but there's clues around if you know where to look)
format_quote Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam
The women there are very happy with being co-wives. From what I hear.
I think that this also may depend on how many financial resources you will allow them to draw as a co-wive from your hopefully well-funded treasury. Note that this may be a problem, because if the next wife manages to up the ante, you will soon be forced to concede a pay raise to all existing wives as well. I have heard more than one poor soul complaining about this kind of bidding contests. If you give a car to one co-wive and a flat to another one, they will exact another flat and another car out of you, for reasons of fairness. ;-)
Nowadays justice is not even practised with one wife. It's sad that many marriages are more of a war than anything else.
Funny that you mention that. I just had to dump a bunch of bitcoins on my wife's ATM card, about to materialize as dollars in a few hours, because the month is about to roll over. She will never wait until the 31th of the month, of course. And this is always the time at which she will want to convince me that she needs more coins, because there are at least 175 different reasons why she will be spending more money next month. So, yes, indeed, the war goes on. She will always be able to spend several orders of magnitude more money than I would ever be willing to dump on her ATM card. But then again, if I see really dumb expenses, she'd better hide them from me, or else I will jump on the opportunity to start cutting back again. In fact, what we really need is a good bout of inflation. Then, the money itself loses value, but I will try to keep dumping the exactly same amounts in now cheaper dollars on her ATM card for as long as I can! The prices generally going up, is not a reason for me to pay one more dollar! ;-)
Funny that you mention that. I just had to dump a bunch of bitcoins on my wife's ATM card, about to materialize as dollars in a few hours, because the month is about to roll over. She will never wait until the 31th of the month, of course. And this is always the time at which she will want to convince me that she needs more coins, because there are at least 175 different reasons why she will be spending more money next month. So, yes, indeed, the war goes on. She will always be able to spend several orders of magnitude more money than I would ever be willing to dump on her ATM card. But then again, if I see really dumb expenses, she'd better hide them from me, or else I will jump on the opportunity to start cutting back again. In fact, what we really need is a good bout of inflation. Then, the money itself loses value, but I will try to keep dumping the exactly same amounts in now cheaper dollars on her ATM card for as long as I can! The prices generally going up, is not a reason for me to pay one more dollar! ;-)
Perhaps it would be better to compromise? Agree on a set amount? Instead of plotting in secret, talk to her about it. Does she spend money to look good for you and so on. I'm sure there must be a reason too. You can explain your point of view as well.
Ahh marriage is supposed to be a beautiful union with love and mercy between the spouses.
Perhaps it would be better to compromise? Agree on a set amount?
Well, she cannot be that unhappy with what she gets from me, because I know that she goes bragging to other people about it. So, her story of "not having enough" is only for consumption by me. Still. I understand. I just suppose that all women are like that. ;-)
format_quote Originally Posted by زهراء
Does she spend money to look good for you and so on.
Dunno. The more natural, the better. She looks perfectly good as she is, out of the box. There is really no need for artificial "improvements", actually.
In fact, I don't ask her what she spends her money on. She can do what she wants with it. As soon as I give it to her, it is hers to run the household and further do with it as she pleases. I just want to keep the total budget a bit under control. If I concede one, single increase, it will be considered a permanent increase going forward. I will have to pay that new increase every month.
I only react against things that are clearly visible and obviously a waste of money. It is better that if she wants to waste money, she does it on things that I cannot see, so that I do not care.
WHOA... uh, anyone know where I left my negatives? Coz its all positive again
I can't believe it... I don't know anything... life just became interesting, that's all i'm saying lol (but there's clues around if you know where to look)
Allahu Akbar
Alhamdulillah akhi, whatever it may be (whoever it may be ) nice to see bro Scimi positive once again.
May Allah swt always keep you happy like this. Ameen.
How merciful is Allah that even when we become disappointed with the events in our lives(when we have no right to), our Most-Merciful Allah still brings us joy and makes us happy. هو الله
قال رسولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم:" عَجَبًا لأمرِ المؤمنِ إِنَّ أمْرَه كُلَّهُ لهُ خَيرٌ وليسَ ذلكَ لأحَدٍ إلا للمُؤْمنِ إِنْ أصَابتهُ سَرَّاءُ شَكَرَ فكانتْ خَيرًا لهُ وإنْ أصَابتهُ ضَرَّاءُ صَبرَ فكانتْ خَيرًا لهُ ". رواهُ مُسْلِمٌ
“How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.”
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