i'M IN A SERIOUS TIME OF CRISIS RIGHT NOW!!!!!!

format_quote Originally Posted by Umm Abed

Sister you can always learn still. Its not too late to learn how to read the Qur'an in Arabic text, if you can find a teacher in your area that would be great. Meanwhile read the Qur'an translation, as the brother suggested.

Be positive about the future, about learning and remember we're never too old to learn.

well i might have to learn it online cuz sadly there are no teachers living nearby that could teach me.

format_quote Originally Posted by aaj

wa'alaikum as'salaam,

Black magic is haram and an act of kufr. Children have rights in Islam as well and not just the parents. Parents should fear Allah and give children their rights or they will be questioned on Judgement day. Regarding your family, it seems everybody is busy in their own mess to care about you. I don't know how old you are but rather then looking for an easy way out of killing yourself or feeling cornered and no where to go, perhaps you can look at it differently. The positive to this is that you understand your situation and the problems you have (anger management, self-confidence, self-esteem, etc) and the problems of your family. So you already are of to a good start. Rather then looking for their validation and approval or help, why don't you focus on yourself instead. See where you are and write down the goods and bads of it. then see where you would to be and what it will take to get there and then make small goals towards achieving those.

For example,

1. anger management issue
- self-reflect on what causes you to have anger
- research ways to control one's anger
- devise a plan and steps to control it based your research in context of your situation
- make small goals, measure them
- failed goal : why? what went wrong? how can i make it better next time?
- achieved goal : what went right, how did i manage it, how do i feel about it? set the next goal.
etc.

Do the same for your anxiety, studies, sensitivity, self-esteem, self-confidence, dealing with parents and siblings, managing difficult relationships , etc.

you know what it's not my mother's fault,but my father's and the biggest criminal is his mother who used to make dad torture mom,he's kind of a mama's boy you see,also his jealous sisters they are all black magicians...my dad also married another woman back in 2013 if i remember correctly,she also turned out to be a black magician isn't it a coincidence?is my family cursed that these devils have come to torture us?that wife of his uses black magic on our house,but my dad you see is blinded by that black magic and he's becoming weaker day by day,she basically wants his money..my dad is a dermatologist he is a sexist and a lunatic,he doesn't even want to use his money to fix his home or buying us stuff and uses it on that so called wife of his..now my mom and dad are divorced though but he still finds ways to torture her and smiles like devil i tell you!he is not normal

Did you know the word "alphabet" has its true etymology in the first three letters of the Arabic? Aleph, Baa, Thaa??? - alphabet

Learning to read/write Arabic, is easier than you may think

Scimi

not really ..., some may have an hard time understanding me,

Scimi

format_quote Originally Posted by Roha Shahbaz

Asalam O Alaikum Brothers and Sisters,Recently i've been kind of like a lazy good for nothing person and still who doesn't bother to solve her problem...i don't do drugs,i have no affairs with people or anything like that but i'm still not satisfied with my life you see no one understands me in my family they only make fun of me and call me crazy when i lose control because of anger management issues,my family is as always messed up and not very close to Islam half of my family uses black magic to ruin us,i feel like Allah isn't helping me or is it that i'm not fixing myself? i'm thinking of committing suicide i have sense that it's haraam but wish it wasn't,i know i'm talking crazy right now,but want to escape my life badly my mother doesn't care about my problems..my father is a lunatic and so are my siblings,i wish i wasn't born....i feel like i have no hope i don't study and i'm home schooled i have extreme social anxiety and i'm very sensitive..

Every Human's life is priceless . Some could pay millions of $ but still could not fix his single eye !. But Allah has blessed you with a healthy life and eeman So why should you think of a suicide a haram and coward act ? So Change your Notion from Good for Nothing to that '' You are Good for everything Good '' .

We are born only Once , only one Chance So Strive (ie real jihad of our times ) with your Nafs (Sabr & patience) and against Sins and serve your parents and your siblings and that's the great virtues which is hidden very near you with in your family . First of all Try with steadfastness even if it was for years and do Dua after all 5 times salah and Allah will make you successful as seen here in Noble Quran http://legacy.quran.com/53/39-41 .

Kindly read post # 14 and see even helping a widow. So how about you help your own family ?? If you do Allah will make you shine, inshallah

http://www.islamicboard.com/-ilm-kno...martyrdom.html

format_quote Originally Posted by Roha Shahbaz

he is the only one providing for us right now my sisters and brother are still in school we kind of depend on him,my mother is sick,we have to bear all of this,because if we try to a argue with him he will leave us and blackmails us,he is not a normal...so many people have brainwashed him that he even suspects his own daughter(my eldest sister)that she does black magic along with my mom,which is a lie,we have sense that it's haraam unlike them and did you know that people are more sexist here than in any other country in this world they value sons more than daughters,even when i was born five minutes after my twin sister my dad's family got upset just because we were girls,my so called dad was actually going to find a reason to marry another woman at that time just because he didn't have a son,so some months later my brother Nofel was born.

I don't know how your situation is right now, I hope things are a bit better now inshallah. Do you not have a mamu who can help out or protect you and your family from him? I don't know how old you are but if you are of college age then so is your brother who was born after you and then maybe he can get a job and help out? If nothing else then you'll just have to be patient and make dua for better days and inshallah when you and your siblings grow up then you can take care of all this and won't need him.

People can be sexists in any country and i think they are more in australia then any other country but its all a matter of perspective. And if you want to talk about sexism based on valuing sons over daughters then pakistan is not the most in the world, it is india with their infanticide epidemic there. They have killed over 40 million infant girls with their selective birthing and catscans. Sons are preferred over daughters in most poor countries because they are seen as someone who can help support the family but these days not all jobs are manual labor so that shouldn't be an issue, however, it can be in developing nations so its understandable. That is societal issue so you can't do much about that, best you focus on your family and how you can help them.

I have to agree with you,sadly,this world we live in is such a disgusting,stupid,world..sometimes,i always think " I wish I was dead.." really...but then I remember Allah and say astiakhfirallah...that's how sad the world is today,we just have to concentrate on our deen,pray,read the Quran,and ignore all the hate,i get through a lot when I see hate on islam "Islam is a barbaric religion" "Quran is corrupted PROOF" and similar titles,they piss me off,but then I know why Islam is the truth,i was born with it,if Allah didn't choose for me Islam as my religion,who did then? like if I was born a Christian,athiest or whatever,i probably would've never even got near to Islam,because the kindness I was raised up on,was from Islam,and I can never leave Islam,the thing is,Allah is testing us,in a hard,but true way,to see WHO REALLY is a muslim,and who isn't,and sadly,alot of muslims get manipulated and then leave Islam,im grateful that I was born in an Arabic country,and I'm grateful to Allah that I was born with Islam.. and then I go back into all the things our Prophet did (PBUH) and of course,i feel good again,today in this world,alot of things are misunderstood and made fun off,religion is the MAIN thing that if you ask a person about it,he'll think you're some sort of a lunatic,May Allah protect us from the evil,and keep us near to the good,ameen <3



also your advice was very helpful..Jazak Allah khair brother.