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    During lunch i was sitting next to two people then they went to get more food and while i was alone the gay guy came next to me and started talking to me and making conversation... i just bought up religion etc and his views...

    I personally didnt know how to act because its my first day at a new job... and i didnt want to seem rude infront of my managers etc and get fired.

    I told him something similar to this... in islam the act of gay sex is a sin but having "gay thoughts" is not a sin....because you do not get sin for thoughts of doing an evil act..... it is acting upon your thoughts and desires which will be accounted for...


    Then at the end of the day he came up AGAIN to me and tried to talk to me...

    I felt so awkward how do i act in these sittuations?

    I dont like being approached by this gay guy how can i kindly tell him to f*** off without geting fired?

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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

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    Gay people who understand and accept that homosexuality is a sin are like those born with mental illness or physical defects. (i.e. not their fault)

    Those who don't are the transgressors.
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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

    Quote Originally Posted by cinnamonrolls1 View Post
    Its not like you're gonna turn gay from talking to a gay guy
    https://sunnah.com/bukhari/34/54


    Still a physical fact that the human mind in many instances is more at ease with a notion and less on-guard against it if there is easy and friendly interaction with people of any given mindset, acceptance is often throwing the apple on the "ok" scale instead of the reject scale - and this has powerful physical and psychological (same thing) repercussions such as re-routing (a little akin to disconnecting and reconnecting cable connectors) pulse pathways and voltage variables in the brain. The notions of "unacceptable", "acceptable", "normal", "undesirable", "desirable", "comulsory" etc are always challenged and recalibrated regularly within the body and some previously unacceptable behaviours such as adultery and fornication can easily be practiced at whim as humans generally more easily succumb to slips that they can brush off as "normal" or "socially acceptable" since "almost everyone else does it" (though it's' usually not true - just the person's surroundings and interaction circles) so it's useful to keep the effects of company in mind.

    If uncertain, please research further by maybe taking a quick peek at the ratio of adopted children of homosexual partners who go on to be homosexual in contrast to the ratio of adopted children of heterosexual couples, i would also add real parents but some might disagree since homosexuals don't have real children other than via dolly the sheep type methods - however i would argue that heterosexual parents should not be excluded from the survey as it's not a fault to have lawful children with a designated birthright in society whose situation it has taken generations to nurture and uplift, and it's not their fault that others like to just party and practice other sick whims and have been careless and oblivious to long term effects for generations, there is a very good reason why the term "b-tard" or "infidel" "or "be-iman" is used to refer to unscrupulous people who care nothing for their lawful and solemn oaths, care nothing about what anyone thinks about their bald faced lies and treachery, and who usually seek quick unlawful gain at the loss of close ones and partners whether in businessor in sexual relationships.....

    .....anyways, prudence shows that faithful company leads to mutual success - and unfaithful company leads to mutual stress, harm, and loss.

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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

    Oh wow. I'm surprised you've not been fired already! For you to say having gay sex in Islam is a sin could be more than enough to get fired - homophobia, especially if that was the first conversation you had with the person. Be very careful.

    There is a lesbian in my team. I have nothing to do with her other than a quick hi and bye and work related stuff. I have no interest in what she does and who she does it with. I won't ever be her best friend nor will I get acquainted with her. What I do know is that she is a good person and a great team member. We work with refugees from the Middle East and she is the most caring person I have ever seen working with them. They all adore her and the kids run to her when she goes to see them. We do visits in two's and when I've been on a visit with her, all the families shriek her name and jump up and down. She never has a bad word to say about any of them unlike some of my other colleagues who are constantly moaning about the refugees. Don't judge a book by it's cover.
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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

    Just act normal. After all they are human. But please recite Quran and Hadees. Remember your roots. Islam is all about peace. Yes we have rules but those rules are for our benefits. If someone is gay, Jewish, Christian and etc... First they are human. Inshort Behave good with every one. Maybe they will change because of your good behaviour. But if you feel uncomfort or feel any danger...Than its better to leave... Don't worry about job. You will find new one and believe me this one will be better. Because Allah always help and love you...
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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

    Quote Originally Posted by Slaveofthelord View Post
    During lunch i was sitting next to two people then they went to get more food and while i was alone the gay guy came next to me and started talking to me and making conversation... i just bought up religion etc and his views...

    I personally didnt know how to act because its my first day at a new job... and i didnt want to seem rude infront of my managers etc and get fired.

    I told him something similar to this... in islam the act of gay sex is a sin but having "gay thoughts" is not a sin....because you do not get sin for thoughts of doing an evil act..... it is acting upon your thoughts and desires which will be accounted for...


    Then at the end of the day he came up AGAIN to me and tried to talk to me...

    I felt so awkward how do i act in these sittuations?

    I dont like being approached by this gay guy how can i kindly tell him to f*** off without geting fired?
    Asalamu Alaikum

    Try to make sure he doesn't notice you, and if he does, pretend to not notice him. If that's not possible, try to leave his presence. If that's not possible, keep the conversation to a minimum. He should get the hint after a while. If not, tell that fagg0t to get lost (not literally, just tell him to go away as politely as possible).

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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

    Quote Originally Posted by Ibn Shahid View Post
    Asalamu Alaikum

    Try to make sure he doesn't notice you, and if he does, pretend to not notice him. If that's not possible, try to leave his presence. If that's not possible, keep the conversation to a minimum. He should get the hint after a while. If not, tell that fagg0t to get lost (not literally, just tell him to go away as politely as possible).
    I dont think its fitting to use language like that brother. Yes homosexual acts are haram but we shouldnt use insults like that etc its just not good at the end of the day.
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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

    Guys am I in the wrong for using them to get extra points in work

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    Re: How to deal with gays at work

    Its yuck but you should give dawah to everyone think about the people of lut (as) these people would capture random people or even other peoples house guests in attempt to rape them but still lut(as) gave dawah - that's sabr on a another level

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