During lunch i was sitting next to two people then they went to get more food and while i was alone the gay guy came next to me and started talking to me and making conversation... i just bought up religion etc and his views...
I personally didnt know how to act because its my first day at a new job... and i didnt want to seem rude infront of my managers etc and get fired.
I told him something similar to this... in islam the act of gay sex is a sin but having "gay thoughts" is not a sin....because you do not get sin for thoughts of doing an evil act..... it is acting upon your thoughts and desires which will be accounted for...
Then at the end of the day he came up AGAIN to me and tried to talk to me...
I felt so awkward how do i act in these sittuations?
I dont like being approached by this gay guy how can i kindly tell him to f*** off without geting fired?
So what's the problem? Is his iman that weak that simply interacting with gay people will turn him gay?
I really don't see why the OP brought up the subject with the gay dude to begin with. Did the guy approach him and ask for his religious views on the matter, or did the OP just start talking about his religious views on the matter and then was surprised that the other guy wanted to continue the conversation later on?
why is this even a thing? just be polite and respectful. No need to offend him by saying anything homophobic, but just stay normal, and if he tries to make any advances then tell him ur not interested
Hey!, hey!, the OP is in office, not in prison!. Being a gay doesn't mean being rapist. Also, the rapists in prisons usually are not gays, but heterosexual who commit homosexuality because situation.
Homosexual acts are haram in Islam but we should still be treating everyone with kindess.
"Allah does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes - from being righteous toward them and acting justly toward them. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly."
Keep your belt tight, try to avoid facing the wall when he's behind you, and give him the story of lut pbuh, if necessary, explain to him that homosexuality is a crooked way and is not a working model in terms of world progress - whichever standard one weighs by, whether scientific or moral long term. The fact that Allah has forbidden it upon all His servants is something known.
Im pretty sure it's obvious im not a member of the lgbt community- and tbh i dont care what people think; i care what my Creator thinks, and he knows what is in my heart soooo.
A good friend of mine was lesbian- we got on just fine and she respected my beliefs and didnt try to enforce hers upon me.
format_quote Originally Posted by cinnamonrolls1
Im pretty sure it's obvious im not a member of the lgbt community- and tbh i dont care what people think; i care what my Creator thinks, and he knows what is in my heart soooo.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows (respectively). So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him." [Bukhari & Muslim]
In his commentary of this Hadith, Imam an-Nawawi said that the Prophet (peace be upon him) compared a good companion to a seller of musk and spoke of the virtue of having companions who are good, who have noble manners, piety, knowledge and good culture. Such are those who grant us from their virtue. And he (peace be upon him) forbade us to sit with those who do evil, commit a lot of sins and other bad deeds, as well as with innovators, backbiters, and so forth. Another scholar said: "Keeping good company with the pious results in attainment of beneficial knowledge, noble manners and righteous actions, whereas keeping company with the wicked prevents all of that."
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows (respectively). So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith's bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him." [Bukhari & Muslim]
In his commentary of this Hadith, Imam an-Nawawi said that the Prophet (peace be upon him) compared a good companion to a seller of musk and spoke of the virtue of having companions who are good, who have noble manners, piety, knowledge and good culture. Such are those who grant us from their virtue. And he (peace be upon him) forbade us to sit with those who do evil, commit a lot of sins and other bad deeds, as well as with innovators, backbiters, and so forth. Another scholar said: "Keeping good company with the pious results in attainment of beneficial knowledge, noble manners and righteous actions, whereas keeping company with the wicked prevents all of that."
Honestly though... This friend was more "cleaner" than most people i knew tbh- no smoking, drinking etc and was a better influence on me id say. Idk though , its true its better to be friends with believers, but unfortunately in both my old school and current school there are hardly any muslims.
A good friend of mine was lesbian- we got on just fine and she respected my beliefs and didnt try to enforce hers upon me.
format_quote Originally Posted by cinnamonrolls1
Im pretty sure it's obvious im not a member of the lgbt community- and tbh i dont care what people think; i care what my Creator thinks, and he knows what is in my heart soooo.
format_quote Originally Posted by cinnamonrolls1
Honestly though... This friend was more "cleaner" than most people i knew tbh- no smoking, drinking etc and was a better influence on me id say. Idk though , its true its better to be friends with believers, but unfortunately in both my old school and current school there are hardly any muslims.
During lunch i was sitting next to two people then they went to get more food and while i was alone the gay guy came next to me and started talking to me and making conversation... i just bought up religion etc and his views...
I personally didnt know how to act because its my first day at a new job... and i didnt want to seem rude infront of my managers etc and get fired.
I told him something similar to this... in islam the act of gay sex is a sin but having "gay thoughts" is not a sin....because you do not get sin for thoughts of doing an evil act..... it is acting upon your thoughts and desires which will be accounted for...
Then at the end of the day he came up AGAIN to me and tried to talk to me...
I felt so awkward how do i act in these sittuations?
I dont like being approached by this gay guy how can i kindly tell him to f*** off without geting fired?
In my opinion, be kind to him and respect him like any other colleague. Him being gay doesn't give you the right to disrespect him even though we all know in Islam homosexuality is forbidden. But you must not for thsi matter emotionally hurt this man.
I say just be a little bit more reserved. Try to just not talk as much as be as approachable for him. Maybe just seem a little "busy" for him when you see trying to approach you to talk. But I believe still be very kind and charming just like how you greet other colleagues, treat him the same. Perhaps seeing the way you treat people so nicely, he might even be keen on knowing about the religion of Islam. Remember, we all REPRESENT the Ummah of Muslims, treat everybody so nicely that they never raise fingers at you, in fact see your good actions and want to change themselves for that matter.
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