Salaam
I want to know is getting your heart/life broken is written for you? In Islam, everything is written for you before the heavens were created, so u having your heartbroken, is that something that was written to happen? Before I was born, did Allah know I was going to fall in love with this girl and that she was going to break my heart for other guys as she wanted to get to know other guys as she wanted someone better as in someone who had a better job and better materialistic things? Did Allah know before I was born that she was going to come into my life and break me completely?
Life is a journey that Allah allows us to choose on which path we want to walk. However, what we will find on the path we have chosen is a fate that determined by Allah. So, if we make a choice in our lives, but then this choice lead us to suffer, we should not blame Allah because He makes us suffer. But we must ask ourselves, why we chose this choice, not other choice that might be better?.
I understand what you feel. Long time ago a girl decided to leave me although we already made a promise to marry. But I did not blame Allah because I realized, what had happened was the result of my own choice. I could choose another girl, I could choose to not choose her. But I decided to choose her although later I found that she was not the girl who destined to become my wife.
Now try to remember. Before you choose that girl, could you choose another girl, or choose to not choose her? .... So don't blame Allah because what happen to you now is the result of your own choice.
People in my place say that spouse is in Allah's hand. Who will become our spouses is a destiny that determined by Allah. If someone is not destined for you, then you will never marry her. However, if someone is destined for you, whatever happen, she will become your wife.
I know it's true from my own life experience. I could not marry that girl, but then I married another girl who I knew few years earlier and in that time had planned to marry another guy.
So bro, if she leave you for another guy, it's mean she is not the girl who destined to become your wife. Try to accept this destiny, and make dua wish Allah bring you together with someone who destined to become your wife.
Life is a journey that Allah allows us to choose on which path we want to walk. However, what we will find on the path we have chosen is a fate that determined by Allah. So, if we make a choice in our lives, but then this choice lead us to suffer, we should not blame Allah because He makes us suffer. But we must ask ourselves, why we chose this choice, not other choice that might be better?.
I understand what you feel. Long time ago a girl decided to leave me although we already made a promise to marry. But I did not blame Allah because I realized, what had happened was the result of my own choice. I could choose another girl, I could choose to not choose her. But I decided to choose her although later I found that she was not the girl who destined to become my wife.
Now try to remember. Before you choose that girl, could you choose another girl, or choose to not choose her? .... So don't blame Allah because what happen to you now is the result of your own choice.
People in my place say that spouse is in Allah's hand. Who will become our spouses is a destiny that determined by Allah. If someone is not destined for you, then you will never marry her. However, if someone is destined for you, whatever happen, she will become your wife.
I know it's true from my own life experience. I could not marry that girl, but then I married another girl who I knew few years earlier and in that time had planned to marry another guy.
So bro, if she leave you for another guy, it's mean she is not the girl who destined to become your wife. Try to accept this destiny, and make dua wish Allah bring you together with someone who destined to become your wife.
I thibk you've mistaken here. You see? God has granted us free will, and He decreed never to be injust with anyone. And take an exame of a large company with too many employers and there is a boss who watches every single employer, and if the boss sees an employer being a lazy one, the boss would want to make him to fail so that he can kick him when the employer promises to do better. Well, God is not like that, He is the Most Just and Merciful and He Writes down whatever He sees, but that does mean necessarly that it is His decree. If for exmaple you have failed, does that mean it is His decree? No, it is you who did it, because God Says: "whatever misfortune befalls you, it is due to your deeds". And if for example you have passed an exam for example, it is due to your efforts, but in the same time if you are afraid of failing you can seek God's help and He will help you to study well for success. Am I right?
Salaam
I want to know is getting your heart/life broken is written for you? In Islam, everything is written for you before the heavens were created, so u having your heartbroken, is that something that was written to happen? Before I was born, did Allah know I was going to fall in love with this girl and that she was going to break my heart for other guys as she wanted to get to know other guys as she wanted someone better as in someone who had a better job and better materialistic things? Did Allah know before I was born that she was going to come into my life and break me completely?
No offens, but that depends. Sometimes it is better for you to be heartbraken because that would lead you closer to your Lord. Or, if you have heartbraken, maybe it is due to your deeds.
Whenever you dont understand something in your life that is happening, make Dua for God To grant you understanding and knowledge.
Maybe what happened there could be your chance to increase even more your faith and become a friend of God.
There are things in life we might not like, but God knows the best. I mean, for example: you have lost your boyfriend or girlfriend whatever you lost, maybe that is because God wants you to come closer to Him and He to you.
May God grant you ease and Make you be succesful in this world and in Hereafter, amin.
Last edited by Nitro Zeus; 01-06-2019 at 02:20 PM.
I believe that everything that had happened was written before I was even born. My decree, My destiny was already written before I was even born, me being heartbroken and betrayed was all part of Allah's plan before I was born, it was just a decree in my life that Allah had planned before the heavens were created, and now I realised everything that happens in life , isn't worth getting upset over as everything that has ever happened or will happen, Allah has planned it before I was born
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