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    Someone harmed me in really bad way. They oppressed me and because of them I stopped eating and sleeping. I made dua against them and because of them I no longer go in the library as their friends oppressed me and bullied me and I had to quit my job as a tutor.
    I began studying in the mosque and first time in my life I felt welcomed and safe.

    However the person's parent came today to the mosque. I didnt say anything to them but felt insecure and scared. My whole body was shaking. I know this person's parent never harmed me and the mosque is the house of allah but I felt violated and unsafe. I honestly am worried and scared what if the person who harmed me comes to the mosque. Will allah forgive the pain and harm the person made me?
    I mean I became suicidal and depressed because of them.
    I want to keep going to the mosque because I love the mosque but I am scared as eveytime I see this person or anyone related to them I suffer from PTSD from the pain they made me suffer.

    Please give me advice and keep me in ur duas

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    Re: No longer feeling safe

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    Honestly what can I do? I'm trying to be patient but what would help me sleep at night and move on is that this person will be punished and held accountable? It's what kept the sahabas strong because they knew the disbelievers would be punished. Problem is that Is person is muslim...
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    Re: No longer feeling safe

    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    Honestly what can I do? I'm trying to be patient but what would help me sleep at night and move on is that this person will be punished and held accountable? It's what kept the sahabas strong because they knew the disbelievers would be punished. Problem is that Is person is muslim...
    You can recite this Dua:

    "O Allah the stars have gone far away and the eyes are rested. You are Alive and Infinite, You do not slumber nor does sleep overtake You. Oh Alive and the Everlasting One, grant me rest tonight and let my eyes sleep (close)".

    Everyone is held accountible. All will be questioned on that Day for every single deed each one has done. So dont worry, you just have to trust God that everything will be good. Quran says that God is with those are patient. So try your best to be patient and not to think about them. Allways think like this "thats ok, tomorrow it will be a new good day". This is one of the times in which it is a great opportunity for you to seek closeness to God. You need to make constant Dua and be firm that you will find peace.
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    Re: No longer feeling safe

    It's a small world really.

    But if you are consumed by remembrance of them then what good are your prayers?

    And to be fair a thought of you probably hasent even crossed their minds.

    So the best way to move on is to forgive them.. or go over and strike up a conversation.. see what happens.

    ...no, not really the intent you can keep hold of...Or the autopilot you work on.

    So maybe we will work on self deception, your the problem.

    The only way to not be a victim is to be clear of conscience. To figure out if they live in your sins or something else.

    Allah swt raises and lowers as he wills.

    ..if you were any other way you wouldn't be posting.


    Fear Allah swt, everything else will fall into place.



    ...probably.

    It's easier said than done, I assume it comes naturally to some people.

    Maybe if you could just turn away a thought then you would realise what your not.

    I'm sorry if this makes no sense.


    But the irony of having food and not eating or having a bed and not sleeping.. this is not oppression..

    This is about thought process.


    ...I could rant on about how people make people Ill but that is for another late night.

    Strange and testing times.. for some.
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    Re: No longer feeling safe

    Greetings and peace be with you Studentofdeed;

    what would help me sleep at night and move on is that this person will be punished and held accountable
    Injustice happens all the time, and often we cannot get real justice on this earth; this is the cause of anger.

    Anger is like picking up a burning coal with the intention of throwing it at the person who angers you, and the person who gets burned the most is you. The longer you hold onto this burning coal of anger, the hotter it becomes. This is what is happening to you.

    The person who angers you; controls you. It is like they have a remote control, and they just keep pressing the buttons that cause you pain. They could be thousand miles away or even dead, and they will still control your thoughts. This is what is happening to you, because you give them permission to control your thoughts. You should be the only person that controls what goes on in your mind - not them.

    You have the power to take this control away from them by forgiving them, look back on some of the posts on this thread, a number of people have given you good advice.

    Blessings,#
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