× Register Login What's New! Contact us
Results 1 to 4 of 4
  1. #1
    Studentofdeed's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2018
    Gender
    Male
    Religion
    Islam
    Posts
    279
    Threads
    75
    Reputation
    802
    Rep Power
    7
    Likes (Given)
    55
    Likes (Received)
    98

    How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues

    Report bad ads?

    My imam was taking about you can never be sure if your deeds are accepted. The other day I gave someone 2 beautiful birds with cage and some food because I wanted to please allah and help others and wanted the birds to be happy. I gave this brother with everything and he asked how much money. I said do not worry about it, it's free. He said inshallah I will give you free food. He usually makes food and sells it. He knows I like the food so he said he will give me free food. I said inshallah okay. I waited and asked his son for the food but he said they gave it to someone else. I got irritated. I later asked them if they plan on giving me the food but he response was maybe. He then proceeds to ask me more birds of what I gifted him.Obviously I felt insulted but I feel now guilty for expecting the food. I said no I already gave him 2 birds. He kept on texting me asking for more birds.

    Since I told him I already gave him 2 birds was this as reminding of someone of good deeds? Ever since the imam said sincere in good deeds, I feel as if my good deeds are not accepted. Because I want to be a good person and help others and because I do it because I want to feel like I'm a good person and I want to please allah too. But im worried somewhere along my deeds were spoiled. I'm really worried because I want to get to the top of paradise so I can be with the prophet saw. I even feel more guitly because a sin I'm trying to give up, I ended up doing it again. I trying really hard.

    I feel guitly and hypocritical because I commit sins and because I made dua against someone who bullied me to insanity. I feel no where closing to being pious. I been having anger issues. I'm not acting on them but I'm having really bad thoughts where I keeping getting temptations to slap people. Of course I dont slap people but I feel guitly for thinking this way. The pious are so close to allah and they have no angsr and no worries. I feel just guitly and useless.

    I also feel guitly that when I was desperate 2 years ago, I actually considered leaving islam, but then instead of leaving i decided to learn about it more and decided to be more religous. Alhamdullah I'm so glad I didnt but I feel extremely guitly. I'm losing my mind, please tell me what I should do?

  2. Report bad ads?
  3. #2
    Eric H's Avatar
    Join Date
    Apr 2005
    Location
    uk
    Gender
    Male
    Religion
    Christianity
    Posts
    3,376
    Threads
    28
    Reputation
    50126
    Rep Power
    116
    Likes (Given)
    4256
    Likes (Received)
    2583

    Re: How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues

    Greetings and peace be with you Studentofdeed;

    When you give food to a homeless person who cannot pay you back, I think that counts as giving direct to Allah. When we do this with the Street Pastor team, we say to the person we do not want anything back from you. But in the future if your circumstances change, then you can help another poor person, we like to think that acts of kindness can be passed on.

    When you give a gift to a rich person and you say that it is free, then you should not expect anything in return. If however he is offering you a gift in return this becomes like a business transaction rather than a gift. If he is texting you and asking for more free birds, you should be free to remind him you are still expecting the food he offered in exchange for the last birds. You are not obliged to give a rich person free gifts, so he should not expect more from you, but you can still be friends.

    You may feel you have the right to be angry with him, but if you first mentioned the birds were free, you might just have to write this off and put it down as a lesson you have learned in life.

    May you be blessed in all that you do,
    Eric
    | Likes Scimitar, Ahmed., universecloud liked this post
    How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues

    You will never look into the eyes of anyone who does not matter to God.

  4. #3
    Scimitar's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2011
    Location
    DAWAH DIGITAL HQ
    Gender
    Male
    Religion
    Islam
    Posts
    7,415
    Threads
    141
    Reputation
    51061
    Rep Power
    84
    Likes (Given)
    8640
    Likes (Received)
    6225

    Re: How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues

    Quote Originally Posted by Eric H View Post
    Greetings and peace be with you Studentofdeed;
    you might just have to write this off and put it down as a lesson you have learned in life.
    well said.


    @Studentofdeed - you gave the birds freely, so be free of expectation! The most satisfied people on earth are those who expect nothing from others and seek only the countenance of their Lord, Allah!
    How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues


  5. #4
    Studentofdeed's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2018
    Gender
    Male
    Religion
    Islam
    Posts
    279
    Threads
    75
    Reputation
    802
    Rep Power
    7
    Likes (Given)
    55
    Likes (Received)
    98

    Re: How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues

    What about the fact that I made dua against someone? Or the fact I get tempted to slap people and get irritated. Obviously I'm not but I'm stressed. The fact that I sinned again. Nowhere I do feel close enough to be among the highest levels of jannah. I want to be in the top to be the prophet saw and the 4 caliphs. What the sheikh said it depends if allah gives it or not. I want to go there and be among the best. Yet I'm scared if allah reject any of my good deeds from the past. Is there any way to get allah to accept them? If I may have spoiled one in the past, can i ask allah to accept it and forgive whatever bad intention it was for?


  6. Hide
Hey there! How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues Looks like you're enjoying the discussion, but you're not signed up for an account.

When you create an account, we remember exactly what you've read, so you always come right back where you left off. You also get notifications, here and via email, whenever new posts are made. And you can like posts and share your thoughts. How does one know if he is sincere ? I'm also having anger issues
Sign Up

Similar Threads

  1. in need of sincere dua'as,please?
    By anonymous in forum Advice & Support
    Replies: 7
    Last Post: 01-04-2015, 09:58 AM
  2. Terrible anger issues. Please help me.
    By Aishath in forum Advice & Support
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 09-09-2012, 07:14 PM
  3. Anger Issues? How to solve them?
    By User2024 in forum Advice & Support
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 08-24-2011, 05:22 PM
  4. Am I Sincere? Am I Sincere?
    By Abdu-l-Majeed in forum Manners and Purification of the Soul
    Replies: 0
    Last Post: 09-03-2008, 10:01 PM
  5. A sincere thank you...
    By Eeman in forum General
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 07-11-2008, 07:29 AM

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
create