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    Assalamu alaykum. I really want to wear the niqab. It makes me feel so good about myself and to Allah. I also feel very uncomfortable by the men at my school. They are very weird. I feel very uncomfortable when non mahrem men see my face. I don’t want them to see it! Tbh, I dont even know whether it is required or not. I do know that it is strongly recommended for sure! But if I even try to ask my dad... I dont know. They resent the niqab. They think the prophets wives didnt even wear it! My mom was annoyed when I put on the hijab. I was thinking that I could go outside and sneak around with it on, but I do not know if this considered haram to go against their wish. I feel so stressed. Can someone give me advice on what to do

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    Re: Dad wont let me wear niqab

    It is the duty of the woman to cover up And to fulfill the duty, you can go against the happiness and the will of your parents.
    Praise be to Allaah.

    Verses that have to do with hijab:

    1 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”

    [al-Noor 24:31]

    2 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And as for women past childbearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment. But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them. And Allaah is All‑Hearer, All‑Knower”

    [al-Noor 24:60]

    “Women past childbearing” are those who no longer menstruate, so they can no longer get pregnant or bear children.

    We shall see below the words of Hafsah bint Sireen and the way in which she interpreted this verse.

    3 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”

    [al-Ahzaab 33:59]

    4 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “O you who believe! Enter not the Prophet’s houses, unless permission is given to you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation. But when you are invited, enter, and when you have taken your meal, disperse without sitting for a talk. Verily, such (behaviour) annoys the Prophet, and he is shy of (asking) you (to go); but Allaah is not shy of (telling you) the truth. And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not (right) for you that you should annoy Allaah’s Messenger, nor that you should ever marry his wives after him (his death). Verily, with Allaah that shall be an enormity”

    [al-Ahzaab 33:53]

    With regard to the Ahaadeeth:

    1 – It was narrated from Safiyyah bint Shaybah that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) used to say: When these words were revealed – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – they took their izaars (a kind of garment) and tore them from the edges and covered their faces with them.

    Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4481. The following version was narrated by Abu Dawood (4102):

    May Allaah have mercy on the Muhaajir women. When Allaah revealed the words “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)”, they tore the thickest of their aprons (a kind of garment) and covered their faces with them.

    Shaykh Muhammad al-Ameen al-Shanqeeti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

    This hadeeth clearly states that what the Sahaabi women mentioned here understood from this verse – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – was that they were to cover their faces, and that they tore their garments and covered their faces with them, in obedience to the command of Allaah in the verse where He said “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” which meant covering their faces. Thus the fair-minded person will understand that woman’s observing hijab and covering her face in front of men is established in the saheeh Sunnah that explains the Book of Allaah. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) praised those women for hastening to follow the command of Allaah given in His Book. It is known that their understanding of the words “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” as meaning covering the face came from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), because he was there and they asked him about everything that they did not understand about their religion. And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “And We have also sent down unto you (O Muhammad) the Dhikr [reminder and the advice (i.e. the Qur’aan)], that you may explain clearly to men what is sent down to them, and that they may give thought”

    [al-Nahl 16:44]
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    Re: Dad wont let me wear niqab

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    Assalamu alaykum. I really want to wear the niqab. It makes me feel so good about myself and to Allah. I also feel very uncomfortable by the men at my school. They are very weird. I feel very uncomfortable when non mahrem men see my face. I don’t want them to see it! Tbh, I dont even know whether it is required or not. I do know that it is strongly recommended for sure! But if I even try to ask my dad... I dont know. They resent the niqab. They think the prophets wives didnt even wear it! My mom was annoyed when I put on the hijab. I was thinking that I could go outside and sneak around with it on, but I do not know if this considered haram to go against their wish. I feel so stressed. Can someone give me advice on what to do
    Dear Sister,

    In Islam, there are matters which are pretty straightforward: Fasting in Ramadan is obligatory. Praying regularly is a must. Drinking alcoholic beverages is forbidden. Pork is forbidden. And so on.
    There are also questions concerning which there is a valid ‘difference of opinion’ (ikhtilaf) among the scholars; and one such question is the issue of niqab. Some scholars say that covering the face is obligatory. Others say that it is mustahabb.

    There is clear and decisive scholarly consensus (ijma`) on the mandate of hijab. The general ayah governing the head covering is in Surah Al Ahzab, verse 59 where Allah (S) states:

    “O Prophet, tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to lower over themselves a portion of their jilbabs. That is more suitable that they will be known and not be harmed. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.”
    The word, jilbab in this context should not be interpreted by the modern usage of the word. According to the Lisan al Arab (quintessential Arabic dictionary) jilbab in this context refers to the khimar or headscarf. This verse specifically states that Muslim women wear the headscarf in order to be known and recognized as believing women and to be protected.

    Furthermore, in Surah Noor, Ayah 31, Allah (S) states:

    “And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision (i.e. lower the gaze) and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers (walyathdribna bikhumurihina alla juyoobihina) over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.”
    This ayah does not simply mean to, “take your khimar and cover your chest." The context in which the verse was revealed must be understood in order to fully comprehend the ayah.
    According to Abu Abdullah Qurtubi, the 13th century mufassir (scholar who interprets the Quran), women at the time of the revelation wore their headcovers tied back behind their necks; leaving the upper chest, neck and ears bare as was the practice of the Christians at the time, as well as exposing the opening (singular jayb, plural juyub translated as “chests” in the above verse) at the top of the dress. The Quranic revelation confirmed the practice of covering the head, understood from the use of the word khimar in the verse, (which means headcovering, which was already in practice) but also explained that the custom of the time was not sufficient and that women were henceforth to tie the existing headcover in front and let it drape down to conceal the throat and the dress opening at the top.
    Additionally, what is referred to when Allah (S) says, "except that which ordinarily appears," is the face and hands. This is the opinion of Aisha bint Abi Bakr (RA), Anas ibn Malik (RA), Abdullah ibn Abbas (RA) and Miswar ibn Makhrama (RA) - all companions of the Prophet (S). Almost every tafsir (commentary on the Quran) will include some if not all of these authorities for this opinion.

    Why is the woman permitted to display 'what is apparent of it'? Because to conceal that would cause her inconvenience. A woman is forced to deal in commodities with her hands. She is compelled by genuine need to expose her face especially at the times of giving evidence, litigating in court, and marriage. She is compelled to walk the streets and expose her feet, especially poor women."
    From this, we can see that the predominant opinion on the meaning of "what is apparent thereof," refers to the face and hands (and in some tafasir, the feet). In the context of the ayah, it confirms the practice of wearing the headscarf.

    Muslim women wear hijab because the Qur’an unambiguously orders them to, and there is no qualifying text or hadith or even any lexical possibility to show that the Qur’anic order might mean anything besides obligation. The ahadith all confirm this obligation and the vast majority of Muslim scholars are in unanimous agreement about it and have been from the time of the Prophet (S) down to today.

    In summary, I think you should start wearing Hijab even if your parents oppose it. You may consider wearing Niqab after you getting married and with the permission of your husband.

    Allah knows the best!
    Last edited by HabibUrrehman; 2 Weeks Ago at 03:19 PM.
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    Re: Dad wont let me wear niqab

    Dear sister Islami.mu’min, it is very unfortunate that you should find yourself in such a situation.
    Like others have already explained in much more detail than I could, hijab is a clear command from Allah. It is true that it should not be forced on women, but we are encouraged to wear it as it is what Allah said was best for us. Just as it should not be forced on us, we should not be kept from it. I find it very sad that your parents tried to convince you not to wear hijab. You should be proud that beside this difficulty you were strong enough in your faith to staill want to wear hijab. Congratulation.

    As for niqab, why don't your father want you to wear it? Did he give any reasons?
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    Re: Dad wont let me wear niqab

    Asalaamualaykum

    Can you please clarify if you talking about Niqab or Hijab.

    In one instance you are talking about Niqab then at another you said you put on the Hijab
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    Re: Dad wont let me wear niqab

    Aslamualylum

    Whilst you are sorting out this dilemma your behaviour, words and facial expressions are all in your control and this is a huge factor in determining how men view and treat you. Avoid smiling, avoid eye contact and if conversation is required then keep it strictly professional and serious. This way men won't even bother talking to you as they know you're not interested. Always seek guidance from Allah swt.
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    Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
    Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.

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    Re: Dad wont let me wear niqab

    No I got the hijab on. At first it was hard to deal with my mom. She finally gave up. But as for your question (Mandy), my dad is very stubborn with religion. He goes off of what he learned as a child, and he will absolutely never listen afterwords. Even with food! He used to get angry when I eat halal meat. Sometimes he still tries to provoke me about it. When it comes to the niqab ( I never asked him if I can start wearing it because it will provoke a very angry reaction).. He thinks the profits wives didn’t wear the niqab. He thinks its extremist stuff. I remember he saw a picture with a naqabi girl and both of my parents called her a snake or something.
    My mom would be too embarrassed to walk outside with me I believe. If I even asked, she would have high blood pressure!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BeTheChange View Post
    Aslamualylum

    Whilst you are sorting out this dilemma your behaviour, words and facial expressions are all in your control and this is a huge factor in determining how men view and treat you. Avoid smiling, avoid eye contact and if conversation is required then keep it strictly professional and serious. This way men won't even bother talking to you as they know you're not interested. Always seek guidance from Allah swt.
    Yes, thank you for the advice

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    It seems like Mazhar gave a pretty good piece of evidence I havent heard about. I wanted to wear the niqab even though I thought it was not required. But doesn’t this show that it is required? If you saw his post, this one especially caught my eye!!
    “And as for women past childbearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment. But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them. And Allaah is All‑Hearer, All‑Knower”


    ”there is no SIN on them” Why would the niqab be optional with this evidence? Can someone explain?

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    Re: Dad wont let me wear niqab

    Quote Originally Posted by Islami.mu’min View Post
    Assalamu alaykum. I really want to wear the niqab. It makes me feel so good about myself and to Allah. I also feel very uncomfortable by the men at my school. They are very weird. I feel very uncomfortable when non mahrem men see my face. I don’t want them to see it! Tbh, I dont even know whether it is required or not. I do know that it is strongly recommended for sure! But if I even try to ask my dad... I dont know. They resent the niqab. They think the prophets wives didnt even wear it! My mom was annoyed when I put on the hijab. I was thinking that I could go outside and sneak around with it on, but I do not know if this considered haram to go against their wish. I feel so stressed. Can someone give me advice on what to do
    Assalamu alaikum sister

    As I can see people are giving contradictory responses, I think it would be way better to ask an aalim directly.

    This site is very good: https://www.fatwaa.com/new-question/
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