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    Not sure how to deal with my brother not praying...

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    Hello all,

    This issue is frustrating me, I have a little brother (19 years old) and I am 22 years old, my brother basically only prays if my parents tell him to pray and on the odd occasion he might pray if I tell him to. The issue is that my parents, have their own life to deal with so they don't tell him to pray 5 times a day, the issue for him is that, everytime a prayer is due, I am usually back home getting ready to pray it, so naturally I remind him to pray, sometimes he will say later, in which I would come back 30 minutes later, and he still would not pray it and end up missing the prayer!

    This is causing two big problems between me and my bro, first of all, I am the only one reminding him to pray 5 times a day and my parents often times forget, so I am taking all the heat between me and him, he thinks I am on his ass 24/7 and is consitently thinking of me as the bad guy and the guy whos always out to get him, so this put our relationship is super tough spot. Now, the second thing is, he has no personal problems with me if it doesn't have to do with prayer, like he would talk to me about a bunch of different subjects and entertainment, but the issue with me is that when I see him talking to me, it weird, but like my brain automatically starts thinking "this guy doesn't pray" and the big brother in me just gets dissaponted and so I have to either be fake and act like I am interested in talking about different subjects eventhough the dude is not praying or straight up not talk to him so that he will start praying (which he still will not do). It also doesn't help that I am in college 5 times a week grinding my ass off, to come back home and seeing this dude playing games. I am not a perfect human, nor is he the worest human, the guy doesn't do girlfriends, drugs, drinking, partying, so hes not a bad Muslim. He also does not really believe in other religions so thats another plus, he just does not want to pray, he does not like it. Basically hes Muslim by name and all he does is video games.

    Now I talked to my parents about this and they want me to back off on staying on his ass about praying because they fear that I am going to lose him, and my brother knows this, so basically now no matter what I tell him he will not pray if I say it, and will only pray if parents say it, not because he likes to pray but because he wants them to stop telling him to pray.

    Anyways, I don't know the solution here, should I completely take a step back as the older brother and stop advising him on praying? He views me as his enemy in this regard so if I tell him to pray he will not do it and its only hurting our relationship. So if thats the case then I need tips to become an older brother to him without telling him how to live his life. What I mean is that, I need some reminders to not think of him bad when I see him not praying but just kind of "fake it" and show love to him no matter if he prays or not and this is very very hard for me to do. So if their is tips on this from parents or siblings on here who have someone that doesn't like to pray and how you deal with it as a older brother then please I am all ears.

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    Re: Not sure how to deal with my brother not praying...

    Not your problem - he is big enough to make his own mind up. Problem today is that everybody is too concerned what others are doing.
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    Re: Not sure how to deal with my brother not praying...

    do advice him always and pray for him.
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    Re: Not sure how to deal with my brother not praying...

    Yeah thank you for advice, just going to pray for him, but sometimes he brings up the excuse that he is not praying because he forgets about it and in the past I would remind him like 10 times for the day I think imma change my ways to not always be on him 24/7, let him make his own decisions.


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