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    Assalamualaikum
    First, Let me clear that i am not trying to disrespect my parents or backbite them.
    This is gonna be long, but please read it.
    Since the very young age, i was always surrounded by women and mehrams which i am really grateful for. Also i was in girls' school except in nursery and K.G. So i never actually had interaction with na mehrams.Again i am grateful for that. That resulted in me being so much shy. I wasn't ever taught to wear hijab so whenever i would go out, i'd become very much uncomfortable due to the gazes. Sometimes, I used to get comments from perverts. Worst were those who would say "MashaAllah." So it eventually planted a fear in me and now even if I cover whole myself up(except the eyes), I still get the gazes. I just don't want to go out. That makes me so uncomfortable. And my mother constantlly says that I should become bold. What does she mean by that? Everytime she scoffs me saying' well, you don't go out.' My best friend too made fun of me due to this. But I really hope once I become a doctor, this much shyness would fade away, atleast.
    Secondly, my family keeps on taunting me for my practice. They keep on saying that I am being brainwashed by the scholars on youtube. Whenever I try to give dawah to them, they say "what kind of person you've become",and "you are corrupting your mind", "just focus on studies" , "Allah has said to live the life fully,just enjoy it". Whenever I ask them to buy me a book related to islam ,they say "why do you wanna corrupt your mind". Once my father even said (not in a seriois tone, rather it was meant as ridiculing) that the authorities would throw you out of country as they did to dr. Zakir Naik. They keep on giving me the examples of people who left their families and migrated in the cause of Allah. I guess I am not at the state to give dawah to them but then I think that we should convey the mssg as soon as we learn it. Isn't it? I have tried to explain them so many times that i wouldn't leave my studies nor will i ever leave them. My brother blames me for interpreting the hadiths on my own.
    Acc. to me, they are the one inducing hypnosis on me. I know this is a test. I am actually loving to go through it. I would lovingly tolerate the humiliations But i just want to be away from doubts. I just need some encouragement. I need someone to say that 'yeah, you are correct, nobody is brainwashing you'. I am not even able to memorize quran due to this distraction. Please read both the situations carefully and answer. I wasn't planning on sharing it here, coz I don't share anything with anyone but today my imaan got so low that I had to muster up courage from every cell of my body to write it here. I really hope someone would help me.
    Again, I was in no way disrespecting my parents. In fact, I love them but I am so much concerned about their afterlives.

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    Sister this happens these days. Trust Allah and know you are loved by him. Of course your parents are wrong. You need to respect them but you are allowed to disobey them when it comes to the matter of Islam. Do not ever become those bold women. They are filthy and disgusting. Those women who think by making themselves more attractive and giving up religion and taking it as a joke. They are disgusting people. Allah loves shyness and modesty. Islam women who are shy and modest is a trait of piety. Follow Islam and make sure it is consistent with hadith and Quran. Do not follow one scholar too closely because they re human and make mistakes too. Follow the the Rasool SAW for he was out example. Inshallah may Allah keep you on the deen and straight path. Igrnore those perverts, they are ignorant. A real Muslim man would ask your hand for marriage from parents. Trust Allah and all will go well sister.

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    and yes you are doing nothing wrong. May Allah bless you
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    SubhanAllah This was helpful. Thank you so much
    Jazak Allahu khairan.ameen
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    Asalaam Aleykum sis.
    Worship Allah with all your strength and abilities. Let no one pull you down on that. Do what is right in the eyes of Allah. People will always talk and make you feel uncomfortable. But dont ever leave your good ways for the sake of impressing people.
    Allah is sufficient for us.
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    Walekumassalam
    I wasn't expecting the reply from you. Although i could have shared this with you, I thought you are in harder test than me. But seriously, thank you so much. And also i am sorry, may be next time I'll simply text you.yeah?
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