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    Assalamualaikum
    I have already written this in almost all the supporting forums i have joined. So I can't leave this one. I am pasting it here as well. This is the first time i am posting 2 threads with a very short gap in between, so please take it seriously.

    From few days, I have been getting ill feelings towards some people. I don't know what is happening to me. People just wanna criticize. I try to help them but they don't wanna return the favour. People just listen to my problems as if they are enjoying what is happening in my personal life. I feel as if they are so selfish. They just wanna take help but don't wanna help others. Even if they don't have anything to help with,at least words of comfort may help, isn't it? I literally avoid asking for help from people because I don't wanna disturb them but when i do, consider it a serious issue. Next i am tired of being criticized. I admit i love humiliations but it's when i am criticized for my practicing,Even if i help them,they don't take it seriously. They humiliate so much and then play that apology card. It's as if they slit your neck and say "Oh sorry,sorry.. I didn't mean that." Yet i forgive them even before they ask for it. I am a human as well, I too have hardships and i just need words of comfort, to be least, but they don't understand what one is going through. I can't discuss my problems with anyone, they would consider it a burden ,i am sure. I am tired of keeping them within myself.
    I don't know what is happening to my heart. It's getting filled with filthy feelings. I am being steadfast but my imaan isn't increasing. I don't know what to do?
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    That previous thread , i asked the mods to delete it. I thought it's very personal,may be. Anyways, whoever helped me, may Allah reward you both with khair.. ameen
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    Re: I am tired of people around me

    I think we live in a time where hardly there are people that are sincere. Majority people are how u described them to be.
    That said, focus on creating a bondd with Allah. He listens. Ask Him for anything. Takk to Him about ur problems people now adays only take pleasure in ur pain.
    Plus if u wanna talk u can with me.. I will try my best tk help u
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    Re: I am tired of people around me

    I feel for and with you dear, and you seem like such a lovely person, truly. I donĀ“t know if I would ever be of help but if you some day feel you might need to talk to someone I would be here for you. I hope you will find some comfort and feel better soon
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    Re: I am tired of people around me

    Walaikumasalaam

    You need to be careful who you confide in with your personal problems. Not everyone wants the best for you. Turn to Allah swt and find the solutions to your problems in Islam. Unfortunately it is the times we are living in. Everyone is absorbed in thier own problems. If you really need to speak to someone then it is better if you seek professional help from an islamic counsellor. Jazaka Allah.
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    Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
    Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.

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    Re: I am tired of people around me

    Amazing. I think I'll have to accept this as you all have said. I feel much better now, Alhamdulillah.But at times,i get very moody and think people are too selfish. Is it normal at this teen age? Or is it just me who's being like that due to lack of imaan? Please tell me, I'll work more on myself.
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    P.S. How did i forget to tell this. Please don't treat me like some hormonal kid. I seriously am not.

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    Plus, I don't share my problems with anyone. It's very rare that i do so because i get overwhelmed so much that i have to sell them to some people which most of them just buy but don't pay for it.
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    Re: I am tired of people around me

    Sister in a world like this, the good people's lives will forever be tough. Sad thing is no matter how much good you do or even try, people will never thank you like the way you deserve. Its hard and when you need these same people who you went all the way for, they make excuses. Thats how you know they were never right in the first place. Its not just their problem with islam but it just means their character is lacking. Muslims are supposed to listen and be there for each other. Its UR RIGHT for people to help you. Being practicing will only make your life tougher. I thought when I would be religious, life would get easier if Allah is pleased, in reality, you know my story. Im humilated and taunted. With temptations everywhere. The only people that accept me aren't even muslim. These are the times we live in Subahanallah. Its not mean your heart is lacking but its means your getting disappointed and hurt. Thats natural but since your forgiving, you will get rewarded immensely. The life of a good muslim will forever be tough. But it is the next life we hope can be easy.

    For example, in my community. Haram is everywhere. Its so easy to engage in haram and marry from nonmuslims since they do not care but if someone has to try halal, they have to face racism, tribalism, and hypocricy from their own community. For example there are guys I know who complain of women being corrupt, yet they flirt around and mess around, then their family has arranged a marriage with a nice pure chaste girl. I will never understand the wisdom and see how fair that is. But thats Allah's test. Allah wants us to test our sincerity in halal.

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    But sorry I went too long and been away so haven't been able to answer your questions...you are a good muslim and better than most of us. Selfless and forgiving people are closest to prophet SAW and will have the highest rank in paradiss. May Allah reward you with the best and give you good companions that are good for you. Ameen
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    Re: I am tired of people around me

    Great!!!. I called out to Allah for help and it's like He encouraged me through you all.
    May The ONE for whose sake you all helped me , ease your burdens.ameen.
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    Re: I am tired of people around me

    Greetings and peace be with you medico;
    People just wanna criticize. I try to help them but they don't wanna return the favour.
    Take comfort from the fact, that although you suffer, you still find time to help others. You can do no more.

    May Allah bless you on your journey,

    Eric
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