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    My faith is wavering.

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    I apologize. It was a moment of weakness. Please forgive me. I was not trying to cause fitna. Jazkhallah Khayran, May Allah bless you all
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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    You might use psychiatric help. Depression is a real thing.

    Allah knows what is best for you.

    We aren't prohibited from defending ourselves.

    If people abuse you and they call themselves Muslims you can advise them as they are harming themselves. You can ask scholars about the impermissablity of the things they do or say, and provide the scholarly answer to those who abuse you.

    If your parents are abusing you, you should also look for scholarly advice (in case you haven't yet) on how you should treat them.

    When you obey Allah, you will be rewarded for your patience, in sha Allah.

    https://youtu.be/D0ZAlsKtwew
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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    Can anyone post Ahadeeth on duhayma?,esp as it states a person will be momin in morning & kafir in evening & until people are divided into 2 camps .1 of nifaq & other of pure imaan

    Listen bro,we got to go on hoping.I have had & still under much trials,I have had episodes of extreme illness,fears,heartbreak & played with my imaan
    Horrible mess.But I know that it's a test thru duhayma fitan Ahadeeth.

    Don't talk of Allah in any disrespectful way.I a hoping with confidence that you shouldn't give up.you're strong bro that's why such big tests


    Hopefully you ask Allah for a sign thru day & night dua for motivation? MAYBE?

    Allah wants us to read Quran &it will be very beneficial as it's shifa for both spiritual & physical diseases.InshaAllah,the doors will open
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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu Brother,

    I have been member of this forum for almost a year now and have been reading your posts. People have given you advices through Quran and Hadith several times and seems like the problems are still there and getting worse day by day. It appears the issue is deeper and you should seek a professional's help regarding your psychological issues as soon as possible.

    And Allah knows the best & may Allah make things easy for you brother. Ameen!

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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    assalmu Alaykum...im back. Im going to say things that may be displeasing. Please forgive me but im really struggling.

    I'm trying hard to keep faith but I'm losing it. I honestly do not feel like I can go any further. I have been disappointed and hurt. People have harmed me, in retaliation I stay quiet simply to please Allah. Idk if this a test or punishment. I remember making dua for something that I wanted since I was a little boy. It was literally almost within my grasp. I thought my dua was finally going to come true. A dua that I made in front of the kabah. It was everything I wanted, only it was ripped before I even got a chance. I was so let down and shocked. I made this dua in front of the kabah, I thought it would have been accepted. Instead my hopes were and dreams were played. I'm trying not to be angry with Allah, but how he can play with my wishes and dreams. Why should I even bother making dua? So many times I stayed away from haram for the sake of him and he doesnt even care?? People told me be grateful that Allah gave you second chance in life, but ever since I got my "second chance" my life is been so crappy. Mocked and humialted at every turn. Why didn't he just let me die when I was dying? Why let me live only for me to suffer more?

    My family call me a hypocrtie on a consecutive daily basis based on every mistake I do.i can no longer give them their rights or control my anger. I have no hope or mercy in Allah. I have severally lost faith and no longer have any hope in the future. The only thing I can look for is my death. If im a hypocrite, why should I even try then? Why not kill myself so I can go to hell if thats what Allah wants for me? Why does he torture me like this? I used to to think all of this was a test but honestly there is no more hope for anything..
    Assalaamu Alaikum,

    My brother it is difficult to give specific advice if you don't expand on exactly what kind of issues you are facing from people and from family and what is it that you mentioned you desired most and it was not given to you? Surely Allah knows best in all matters and so he withheld it from you for a good reason either to test your patience or that it may have harmed you in the long run. Allah is all knowing and his knowledge is infinite whereas our knowledge is very narrow and limited and finite therefore what we perceive is good for us may not be.
    My faith is wavering.

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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    assalmu Alaykum...im back. Im going to say things that may be displeasing. Please forgive me but im really struggling.

    I'm trying hard to keep faith but I'm losing it. I honestly do not feel like I can go any further. I have been disappointed and hurt. People have harmed me, in retaliation I stay quiet simply to please Allah. Idk if this a test or punishment. I remember making dua for something that I wanted since I was a little boy. It was literally almost within my grasp. I thought my dua was finally going to come true. A dua that I made in front of the kabah. It was everything I wanted, only it was ripped before I even got a chance. I was so let down and shocked. I made this dua in front of the kabah, I thought it would have been accepted. Instead my hopes were and dreams were played. I'm trying not to be angry with Allah, but how he can play with my wishes and dreams. Why should I even bother making dua? So many times I stayed away from haram for the sake of him and he doesnt even care?? People told me be grateful that Allah gave you second chance in life, but ever since I got my "second chance" my life is been so crappy. Mocked and humialted at every turn. Why didn't he just let me die when I was dying? Why let me live only for me to suffer more?

    My family call me a hypocrtie on a consecutive daily basis based on every mistake I do.i can no longer give them their rights or control my anger. I have no hope or mercy in Allah. I have severally lost faith and no longer have any hope in the future. The only thing I can look for is my death. If im a hypocrite, why should I even try then? Why not kill myself so I can go to hell if thats what Allah wants for me? Why does he torture me like this? I used to to think all of this was a test but honestly there is no more hope for anything..
    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    assalmu Alaykum...im back. Im going to say things that may be displeasing. Please forgive me but im really struggling.

    I'm trying hard to keep faith but I'm losing it. I honestly do not feel like I can go any further. I have been disappointed and hurt. People have harmed me, in retaliation I stay quiet simply to please Allah. Idk if this a test or punishment. I remember making dua for something that I wanted since I was a little boy. It was literally almost within my grasp. I thought my dua was finally going to come true. A dua that I made in front of the kabah. It was everything I wanted, only it was ripped before I even got a chance. I was so let down and shocked. I made this dua in front of the kabah, I thought it would have been accepted. Instead my hopes were and dreams were played. I'm trying not to be angry with Allah, but how he can play with my wishes and dreams. Why should I even bother making dua? So many times I stayed away from haram for the sake of him and he doesnt even care?? People told me be grateful that Allah gave you second chance in life, but ever since I got my "second chance" my life is been so crappy. Mocked and humialted at every turn. Why didn't he just let me die when I was dying? Why let me live only for me to suffer more?

    My family call me a hypocrtie on a consecutive daily basis based on every mistake I do.i can no longer give them their rights or control my anger. I have no hope or mercy in Allah. I have severally lost faith and no longer have any hope in the future. The only thing I can look for is my death. If im a hypocrite, why should I even try then? Why not kill myself so I can go to hell if thats what Allah wants for me? Why does he torture me like this? I used to to think all of this was a test but honestly there is no more hope for anything..


    In the day and age we live in, holding on to faith can feel like holding on to hot coal for those who already have weak faith. You need to understand that Allah gave you the gift of Islam and you should appreciate it with every ounce of your being. Islam is the only thing that matters in this life and the next. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!


    I used to think like you, why should I obey Allah if He never gives me what I ask? Why should I perform Salat for Allah when He never responds? Why should I worship Allah when all He does is make me suffer? I was in a terrible and rebellious state and I passed the threshold of Islam and entered Kufr by ceasing to do my Salat. From there life never got better, I was empty on the inside, I had no good friends, actually, I was alone. I told myself that I don't need anyone, that if I worked hard, I would be able to do anything on my own. How wrong I was.

    The truth is, no one can do anything without Allah's permission. Allah gave us life and a good chance at eternal happiness and the path to it is rather easy. Trust in Allah. During my days of kufr, somehow I stopped being angry all the time and slowly I started to realize that everything I earned wasn't through my own effort or intelligence, it was given to me by Allah's Mercy. I recently realized that Allah was guiding me back to Islam and I am forever thankful.

    What is life without Islam? It is basically fleeting moments of joy with extended times of agony. It is even worse for those who know Islam is correct but refuse to follow it. How can the creation be happy to live by ignoring their Creator or being ungrateful to them and ending the gift of life that was granted to them? Why should Allah grant the request of anyone who doesn't obey Him? Heck, why should Allah grant the request of those who do obey Him? He is the Creator and doesn't owe us anything. We owe everything to Him.

    He granted us life, which is a chance to go to Heaven. He granted us clean air to breath, eyes to see with, ears to hear with, skin to feel with, a tongue to taste with and limbs to move with. If He so chose, He could have created you with no arms or legs and you'd have no right to complain since you never did anything to deserve them in the first place.

    You accuse Allah of playing with your wishes and dreams! That is a horrible way to think of Allah. He isn't playing games with you. He gives you what he decrees is best for you. It is the Shaytaan that is whispering into your ear, making you think ill of Allah and is trying to get you to give up and commit suicide. That is his ultimate victory! If you end your life, you doom yourself to Hell where you will continuously kill yourself and be remade over and over. The thought of you suffering in Hell brings the Shaytaan joy and you are letting him win by thinking ill of Allah. Don't let him win, always realize that Allah wants best for His slaves.

    You are not a hypocrite. If you were, you wouldn't be here asking for advice. That alone is evidence that you still have hope and faith. Allah is not torturing you, He is just testing you. You are just failing the test by giving up. Tests are meant to make you stronger and bring you closer to Allah. They're meant to make you think of what is really important in life and to give you a chance to be patient and trust in your Creator. They are also a means for Allah to erase your sins and to increase your good deeds. You just need to realize that what you are going through is temporary and make it through to the end. Allah didn't send us to earth to give us an easy life, the whole purpose of all of this is to be tested, to act as evidence for why we go to Hell or Heaven.

    Right now you are obsessing over the wrong things, who cares if your family call you a hypocrite, they don't know what is in your heart. The only thing you owe your family is respect and upholding familial ties with them while making sure your parents are okay, even if they don't appreciate it. People have harmed you, so what? What have they done that is so bad that you need to obsess about all the time. You seem to think about them more than you remember Allah. Maybe that is why you are struggling. You need to break ties to people who constantly harm up, hurt your feelings, back bite you, put you down, or just make you feel terrible. You need to remove yourself from all negative aspects in order to see an improvement in your life. If you see them at the Masjid, say Salam and walk past them and sit up front near the Imam to avoid talking to them. The second the Salah is over, leave right away. Don't let them suck you in, only to bring you down. Their opinion of you doesn't matter, in fact you will get more good deeds by ignoring them while they keep getting bad deeds.

    As for the thing you wanted since you were a little boy, you are not entitled to it. Allah does not owe anything to you, it is the other way around, you owe everything to Allah. Maybe if Allah gave it to you now, you'd fall off the path of Islam? Did you think about that? Maybe giving you what you wanted would make your life more difficult in the long run, but you cannot see it yet since you can't tell the future? Maybe it just isn't the right time for it and Allah is holding it for a better time. Asking for it in front of the Kaaba doesn't make your request any more special than anyone else's request.

    I have multiple requests since I was a child that I haven't gotten yet, and they were the reason why I left Islam. I still didn't get them when I did, instead, life just got worse. I now realize that I really don't need them. All I need is Allah's Love and Mercy and that is all you need as well. One of my requests was a big deal to me. I don't like discussing it because people would treat me or look at me differently , but since this is the internet, no one knows me so it's okay.I have had same sex attraction since I was a child, perhaps as young as being 8 or 9. I didn't understand it at the time, but I knew not to discuss it with anyone, yet people still made fun of me because my mannerisms wasn't the same as everyone else. As I grew up, I got better at hiding it by being a recluse. I understood how bad it was during my teens and asked Allah to take the feelings that I had away from me. Why couldn't I be normal? Why couldn't I have a life like everyone else? I'm 36 now and still have these attractions. I used to hate Allah (astaghfurallah) for creating me this way, but I learned that Allah didn't make me this way, He created me with a clean slate. It was my environment at home that has caused me to deviate. My mother used to walk around naked, which made me lose all attraction to girls. I was the middle child with 4 sisters, so I had no male counterparts to play with since my father was hardly ever home. Media and the internet didn't help.

    How do you think I felt when I realized that I'd never be able to get married and have a proper relationship with a woman and have children while I have these corrupt feelings? I got rebellious and angry. Now I realize how stupid I was and how worthless all my anger has been. So what if I never marry! As long as Allah forgives me my sins and grants me His Mercy and permits me to Jannah, I can live alone forever. This is just my test and I hope to pass it, Inshallah. And don't think this test is easy, it isn't. You know how you have to lower your gaze when you see a woman? I have to do the same for men, even though I am a man. I have to control my thoughts when I shake hands with a man, I have to be careful when I go to the Masjid and lower my gaze so I don't look at any man that I may be attracted to and lose all concentration during worship. I have to keep men at a distance so I don't fall into sin with them, even if they don't have the same feelings, I just can't take the chance. So, basically, I am alone. I am 99% sure that my family suspects that I am this way, but thankfully they don't discuss it, which is what I'd prefer.

    I used to worry so much about not being like everyone else. All of my classmates have gotten married, had kids, and successful careers while I am stuck alone and in poverty. I would get so jealous when I'd see others living their lives and I'd beg Allah to change mine, yet He didn't. I'm close to 40 which is considered old where I am from, so people are naturally suspicious about why I am not married. So I avoid all social gatherings in order to not deal with their inquiries of me and marriage. In the end, Allah gave me something better than what I had asked for, He gave me understanding.

    I now understand that Allah is the Best of Planners. That I wanted all the wrong things in life and never focused on what is truly important. Maybe if I didn't have these feelings, I would have done haram things with a girl and gotten her pregnant out of wedlock? Maybe I would have gotten a disease that would have made my life much worse? Maybe everything I went through in life was only to make me smarter and to realize that all of it is only temporary. I realize now that love for Allah and Jannah is all I really want. I realized that Allah has actually protected me many, many times in my past, when He could have easily led me to suffer much more than I did. For some of the stuff I did, if He didn't hide it for me, I could have went to prison or just ostracized by my community. Yes, I'd like some nice things here, but it's okay if I don't get them, I'll get better things in the next life. My Iman is still not where I want it to be, but I'm taking it one step at a time.

    Think about it this way, if Allah sent you an Angel with two options- Option "A" being the thing you wanted since you were a boy, and option "B" is Jannah, which one would you want? Is option "A" really worth throwing your whole life away for?
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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    I apologize. It was a moment of weakness. Please forgive me. I was not trying to cause fitna. Jazkhallah Khayran, May Allah bless you all


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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    Jazkhallah Khayran Brother. Your words were powerful. I apologize, again. I realyl am sorry. Your words have moved me and helped. I realize I shouldn't have complained. May Allah bless you and make it easy for you. Please forgive me brother
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    Abu Hurairah said; His companion came to him and said; Messenger of Allah! We have thoughts which we cannot dare talk about and we do not like that we have them or talk about them. He said:
    Have you experienced that? They replied: yes. He said : that is clear faith.

    حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ يُونُسَ، حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرٌ، حَدَّثَنَا سُهَيْلٌ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ جَاءَهُ نَاسٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ فَقَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ نَجِدُ فِي أَنْفُسِنَا الشَّىْءَ نُعْظِمُ أَنْ نَتَكَلَّمَ بِهِ أَوِ الْكَلاَمَ بِهِ مَا نُحِبُّ أَنَّ لَنَا وَأَنَّا تَكَلَّمْنَا بِهِ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ أَوَقَدْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالُوا نَعَمْ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ ذَاكَ صَرِيحُ الإِيمَانِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
    Grade: Sahih (Al-Albani)
    Reference: Sunan Abi Dawud 5111
    In-book reference: Book 43, Hadith 339
    English translation: Book 42, Hadith 5092
    https://sunnah.com/abudawud/43/339

    It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that some people from amongst the Companions of the Apostle (ﷺ) came to him and said:
    Verily we perceive in our minds that which every one of us considers it too grave to express. He (the Holy Prophet) said: Do you really perceive it? They said: Yes. Upon this he remarked: That is the faith manifest.

    حَدَّثَنِي زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا جَرِيرٌ، عَنْ سُهَيْلٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، قَالَ جَاءَ نَاسٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَسَأَلُوهُ إِنَّا نَجِدُ فِي أَنْفُسِنَا مَا يَتَعَاظَمُ أَحَدُنَا أَنْ يَتَكَلَّمَ بِهِ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ وَقَدْ وَجَدْتُمُوهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالُوا نَعَمْ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ ذَاكَ صَرِيحُ الإِيمَانِ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
    Reference: Sahih Muslim 132 a
    In-book reference: Book 1, Hadith 247
    USC-MSA web (English) reference: Book 1, Hadith 239
    https://sunnah.com/muslim/1/247

    Imam Al-Nawawi said in his commentary on above hadeeth:
    The Prophet’s words, ‘That is a clear sign of faith’ means, the fact they think of this waswaas as something terrible is a clear sign of faith, for if you dare not utter it and you are so afraid of it and of speaking of it, let alone believing it, this is the sign of one who has achieved perfect faith and who is free of doubt.
    Shaytaan only whispers to those whom he despairs of tempting, because he is unable to tempt them. As for the non-Muslims, he can approach them in any manner he wants and is not restricted to waswaas, rather he can play with them however he wants. Based on this, what the hadeeth means is that the cause of waswaas is pure faith, or that waswaas is a sign of pure faith.
    The fact that one hates waswasas and that one's heart recoils from it is a clear sign of faith. Waswaas happens to everyone who turns to Allah by reciting dhikr etc. It is inevitable, but you have to be steadfast and patient, and persevere with your dhikr and prayer, and not give up, because in this way you will ward off the plot of the Shaytaan.
    Indeed, the plot of Satan has ever been weak[Quran 4:76]
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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    Jazkhallah Khayran Brother. Your words were powerful. I apologize, again. I realyl am sorry. Your words have moved me and helped. I realize I shouldn't have complained. May Allah bless you and make it easy for you. Please forgive me brother
    Brother, don't be sorry for seeking advice and support. We are Muslims, we are supposed to want the best for each other and prop up each other during the good and bad times. There is nothing to forgive, you did a good thing by coming here and sharing your troubles.

    I meant to ask you in my earlier post but I got caught up in sharing my own issues and forgot but, how practicing are you?

    Do you pray all of you Salat, especially Fajr, on time?

    Do you make sure to be on proper wudu?

    Do you fast all of Ramadan?

    Do you stay away from Major Haram things such as Riba or Zina?

    Do you pay Zakat?

    Do you read Quran every day? Do you try to memorize it?

    Do you remember Allah during good times?

    Do you remember that Allah is with you in bad times and is only testing your patience and reliance on him?

    Are you watching movies or shows that contain music, uncovered women and men that contain haram stories and lewd scenes?

    Are you staying away from pornography?

    Do you gossip or backbite anyone?

    Is your job Halal?

    Are you wasting time with video games, where most are life movies and shows and depict haram things such as uncovered people, violence and shirk?

    Do you surround yourself with bad people who don't practice Islam properly and cause you to lose faith? I know from a past post of yours that you have two people who put you down, you need to get rid of them since friends don't put friends down, they're supposed to help and encourage you.

    Ask these questions to yourself, you don't have to share the answers to us. It is just for you to reflect on how you can improve who you are and realize what is important in life.

    Remember that this world and everything in it is worth less than a mosquito's wing to Allah. That everything you go through here is temporary. That even if you have gotten everything you wanted, you will never be truly happy until you fix your Iman and love Allah more than you love anyone or anything else. Don't expect your faith to get better overnight, only really special people get that. For the majority of mankind, it is a life long journey. Take it one step at a time. Start with your Salah. Make sure that you pray it on time and make sure you do a good and proper wudu. Once you get good with it and start feeling a connection with Allah, start fasting once or twice a week on Monday and Thursdays to help increase in your good deeds, to strengthen your patience, and to bring you closer to Allah. Make sure you stay away from Major Sins such as Riba and Zina to the best of your ability. Even if you slip up, immediately repent to Allah and ask for forgiveness.

    I also recommend a YouTube channel called FreeQuranEducation. It is really good to watch and slowly increase your Iman.
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    Jazakallah Khayran brother i will apply your advice for sure. May Allah bless you in both worlds
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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    I just found this video from my daily YouTubing and figured that it would be good for you. The speaker discusses why we go through hardships and makes a lot of sense. May it help strengthen your Iman.

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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    assalmu Alaykum...im back. Im going to say things that may be displeasing. Please forgive me but im really struggling.

    I'm trying hard to keep faith but I'm losing it. I honestly do not feel like I can go any further. I have been disappointed and hurt. People have harmed me, in retaliation I stay quiet simply to please Allah. Idk if this a test or punishment. I remember making dua for something that I wanted since I was a little boy. It was literally almost within my grasp. I thought my dua was finally going to come true. A dua that I made in front of the kabah. It was everything I wanted, only it was ripped before I even got a chance. I was so let down and shocked. I made this dua in front of the kabah, I thought it would have been accepted. Instead my hopes were and dreams were played. I'm trying not to be angry with Allah, but how he can play with my wishes and dreams. Why should I even bother making dua? So many times I stayed away from haram for the sake of him and he doesnt even care?? People told me be grateful that Allah gave you second chance in life, but ever since I got my "second chance" my life is been so crappy. Mocked and humialted at every turn. Why didn't he just let me die when I was dying? Why let me live only for me to suffer more?

    My family call me a hypocrtie on a consecutive daily basis based on every mistake I do.i can no longer give them their rights or control my anger. I have no hope or mercy in Allah. I have severally lost faith and no longer have any hope in the future. The only thing I can look for is my death. If im a hypocrite, why should I even try then? Why not kill myself so I can go to hell if thats what Allah wants for me? Why does he torture me like this? I used to to think all of this was a test but honestly there is no more hope for anything..
    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    It was a moment of weakness.
    Salaam brother,

    Firstly, I want you to read what YOU wrote down. Read it twice. It's important that this stays and you, as well as many others read it. Because many people, which includes yourself, are suffering through depression, a mental health issue. You are at the highest stage of depression, so close to suicide, and trying to die. Alhumdulillah, something stopped you from committing suicide.

    Secondly, I wrote this on a former post you started. That you must seek professional help right away! You are at a severely high phase of depression. I asked you to see a therapist, counselor, someone skilled,, educated and knowledgeable about mental health issues to speak to. Tell me where you live, I will seek someone out for you! Because if you don't, this is what happens. Your emotions will come out hard, which has happened. You were vulnerable and almost lost your life.

    And lastly, I ask you to first turn to Allah Subhanahuwatallah and pray for forgiveness. But also pray and make dua that you beat this depression that is causing you so much harm for the past few years of your life. Then please brother, seek professional help such as therapy, group therapy, and/or counselling. You need to sit down and talk to an expert right now! You were at the point of suicide, which is the most fatal. Please brother, seek help! Mental health issues need to be taken seriously and we need to combat the stigma around it. It's OKAY to seek help. Read below:

    Medical treatment or seeking a cure is allowed, because of the report of Abu’l-Darda’ (may Allaah be pleased with him) who said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Allaah has sent down the disease and the cure, and has made for every disease the cure. So treat sickness, but do not use anything haraam’” (Reported by Abu Dawood, 3376),

    “O Messenger of Allaah, should we not treat sickness?” He said: “Treat sickness, for Allaah has not created any disease except He has also created the cure, except for one disease.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, what is it?” He said: “Old age.”’” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi)
    Last edited by Iceee; 07-10-2020 at 02:30 AM.
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    Jazakallah Khayran brother, but right now there is not good time due to the pandemic. My university has a health clinic for mental but its closed due to the virus. Coming here, helps alhamdullah. I never attempted alhamdullah but it was a health issue that resulted in my almost losing my life. But Alhamdullah im here. I apologize again. Jazakallah Khayran may Allah bless you in both worlds. Please keep me in your duas brother. Your words mean alot to me
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    They don't wait for a good time to call an ambulance either.
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    Re: My faith is wavering.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Studentofdeed View Post
    My university has a health clinic
    Salaam,

    Not many people are sure how long it will take for schools to open up, with the pandemic still about. And even then, the amount of people who will flood this health clinic when it opens will be staggering. Many people, majority being students are suffering mentally and physically during this time. It's probably best to seek help from an open source as soon as possible. Look for places that are open and book an appointment as soon as possible. Before you hit your next low.

    Depression comes in waves, you may seem fine right now, but you will continue to suffer without proper diagnosis and medication. I personally knew that this would happen, where the depression inside of you would manifest and come out, which it did when you created this post. Seek help immediately. If you cannot seek help, look up your city/countries Crisis Helpline and call them right away, Inshallah they may be able to help. Create a daily schedule and stick with it. Wake up early in the morning same time everyday, pray Fajr, eat breakfast, go outside for a walk, spend time cleaning your home, focus on praying 5 times a day and reciting Quran. Take a nap if needed. Stop spending time on social media, help family out, don't talk too much, and do many good deeds for your family and your community. Drink water only, exercise and create a natural diet.

    I just returned from Jumah and the Imam did a quick lecture about the mental health issues people are suffering. Remember that you are loved by Allah and do not waver or turn away from Islam. Know that there's good things that happen in to you, and bad, it is all Allah's will. Appreciate the short life that we have in this world, don't take things for granted, love yourself and love Allah. Depression can affect anyone; young, old, single, married, non-muslims and even Muslims! We love you on this board, and we will miss you if you choose to leave, remember that!
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    Jazakallah Khayran brother, May Allah bless you all!
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    Salam
    Although i am a new member, but i have been reading your posts for a quiet while now. Are you facing ALL the symptoms of Depression CONTINOUSLY for 2-3 weeks or it happens for few days,then you get normal,then again it starts? Because if you are facing the symptoms in days with a much interval,then it isn't Depression. And from whatever i read in your previous posts, you got better after getting advice or naturally ,stating it was a moment of weakness. So from my observations, i think there are times when we all get vulnerable and feel that we need someone to talk to and when we lose hope for a short time, so that's what we can relate to the OP. Whenever he felt weak, he chose to come here seeking advice or solution. The level of faith keeps on increasing and decreasing. Whenever it decreases, it's natural to feel vulnerable and that's what OP felt. He is courageous enough to come here to seek advice when he feels weak, Alhamdulillah.I could be wrong, correct me.
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    I just hate it when people correlate depression and lack of faith.
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    format_quote Originally Posted by HowManyMore View Post
    I just hate it when people correlate depression and lack of faith.
    Exactly. That's what i meant. But it's not lack of faith he has. It's just one of those times when the faith is at low level which is very natural.
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