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    How do one be sure that repentance is sincere?

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    How can one be sure that his repentance is sincere
    Like i know one must feel guilt and bad for doing it
    He must resolve never to do it
    Ask Allah for forgiveness and hope in his mercy
    But how do one know if we are guilty what if someone reads that something is shirk or if a person remembers that he had comitted shirk and then just casually say ya Allah forgive me he resolved not to do it and believes Allah will forgive him and he really wants forgiveness and paradise is this guilt that as they found out they went to ask forgiveness they do feel remorse for the shirk or anyother evil deed they afe like this was bad but when they make repentance they are not scared because they believe Allah will forgive them if they ask forgiveness is there no shirk in their repentance what about someone who wants to go to paradise and not to get punishment asks forgiveness so they don't get in trouble is there no guilt in it if i do something wrong i dont feel scared rather i ask forgiveness and belives Allah has forgiven me and i resolve to not do it again is there no guilt in it do i have to ask forgiveness for my sins again because it might not be accepted what about a person who believes to err is human so if they make mistake they simply just ask forgiveness and carry out thier life feeling nothing are they jsut doing formality and not taking things seriously what about someone who get waswasas like u did that once and they just ask Allah to forgive them and are like im forgiven cause i asked forgiveness is it asking forgiveness because of waswasas?

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    Re: How do one be sure that repentance is sincere?

    اسلام عليكم

    Hmmm..... if I understood this correctly, you are asking how to really be sure one is sincerely repenting for something they did.

    Now, I am not qualified to give you any kind of answer with a beautiful ayat or a wise hadith. I will leave that to the ones who are much wiser than I am. May Allah forgive me and let me learn from them

    What I can do is give my honest opinion

    I have been reading a lot of your posts. I read a lot of nervousness. Your thoughts seem to start spiraling and your posts seem to come from a very overwhelmed place. Forgive me if I am mistaken, this is just my impression.

    The feeling of sincere repentance is something very personal. I think everyone feels it differently but guilt, shame and the firm resolve to avoid that sin entirely with every effort to do so are all pretty unanimously agreed upon.

    Fear as a sign of reoentance? I guess it depends on what it is that we fear. Fear of being caught or being punished? Fear of our sins being known? Or fear that we'll never make amends? I personally never fared well with fear so I won't say too much about it. Allah knows best. He knows everything.

    To sin, say I'll be forgiven if I ask nicely and then to repeat that sin? That doesn't sound like repentance to me.

    It sounds more like the hand being caught in the cookie jar; and chocolate smudges in the face.

    At some point in time, we have all toed the line in some way: Hands up if you never, ever disobeyed or questioned or rebelled otherwise. *sees no hands*

    No one is free from sin. No one. But we have not only been given Allah's words and commands (not rules, not guidelines and nowhere did I ever read "Allah's Suggestions") ; we're given the capacity to learn and understand. And we are given teachers throughout our entire life here. Our brains aren't on that level to actually fully understand Allah. So we learn as we go, but trust, have faith and we follow the rules as best as we possibly can, right? We better ourselves with the lessons we learn and with the knowledge we gain. Allah spelled it all out for us very clearly. That's a blessing right there.

    So for the question of sincere repentance, I believe one must be aware that what they are doing is wrong. And when we do wrong, we will be punished. No pretty please with a cherry on top. Refrain from the sin we are repenting should go without being said. Human nature says we'll surely mess up some other way again. But we should do all we can to avoid stepping in the same mess twice.

    As for waswas...what helps me is to pray the obligatory five, pray the sunnah prayers, learn the duas in arabic, read the quran, learn it, study just a surah or a single ayat a day... focus on your intentions... When some thought creeps in, I say

    اعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم
    I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan the accursed

    And خلاص ... try to busy yourself with as much remembrance of Allah as possible. Try your best to give the space in your mind to your relationship with the Creator and not leave any for the devil to get in. With time, انشالله , it will get easier


    So many brothers and sisters here have posted some really really educational and inspiring links and tips. ابشالله you will find them and I pray you'll find peace in your mind to stop the carousel of thoughts.

    May allah bless you and guide you through the confusion. Its not a fun place to be. And if you want to, you can contact me anytime. I'll be here for you and will listen. You're in my duas.


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