Thread: Celebrating the Differences

`And the male is not like the female.' (Quran, 3:36) There is no doubt that when Allah created that `single soul', and from it derived the first couple, Woman was not just a revised model of Man. And the differences, far from being the product of chance or random whim, were the wise and compassionate workings of our Creator, Who exquisitely designed each half of the pair to complement the other physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. They had certain things in common - and an absolutely fundamental range of differences! It is true that there are plenty of `sensitive' men and `coldly logical' women. Nevertheless, it does seem that when it comes down to working out the mechanics of helping men and women to live together smoothly as husband and wife, if is a good idea to remind the hopeful newlyweds that they are not the same at all - it is easier to solve a lot of the problems if one remembers the saying that `women come from Venus, and men come from Mars'. Just like visitors from two different planets, husbands and wives don't always `speak the same language', or understand the same consequences from a course of action, or look at a problem through the eyes of someone from the same background. Quite apart from the `gender gap', which has been carved into the chromosomes of every single cell in the body, one obvious factor is that the two partners have come into their marriage from two different families, with entirely different past tracks. Since experiences in childhood play so important a role in shaping our thinking and attitudes in adulthood, there will be unknown depths to deal with, and conflicting views will inevitably break surface from time to time. When both partners come from a very similar background, sharing the same religious beliefs and practices and aims, the problems are greatly reduced -but they are not done away with entirely. Much depends on what happened to them as individual boys and girls FULL ON:https://www.aminullah.org/2021/04/ce...fferences.html URL:https://www.aminullah.org/