I was good friends with a girl who is now 17, from when I was 5 to when I was 8, and she was my first crush..... when I was 8 I moved...I saw her a few more times until I was 10, but then stopped talking to her because I stopped seeing her and because later we started puberty and she wasn't allowed to talk to boys.....(but I did she her photos online, so I know that she is still beautiful) I tried sending her a letter in the mail, but it turns out I had sent it to the wrong address, and couldn't find her new one, and so I tried talking to her over the phone but her dad wouldn't let her (keep in mind I was going to alternative school at this time, where there was only one girl who was a kaafirah and who I didn't like, and my crush's dad was an imam) I dream of marrying her after I get my bachelor's degree and a well paying job, by first getting her wali's permission, then talking to her over skype, and then if we like each other and and she still has good piety and character, she moves to my city and we get married.....and I often have dreams about her, and I often cuddle with my pillow and pretend it's her........and talk to it as an imaginary friend......
Well slap me with dry spaghetti if you ain't right. Sacre Bleu!
That wont work. The Spaghetti will break. Unless you want to be plastered with spaghetti.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
format_quote Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam
Don't cuddle with pillows.
Train more. Maybe get into weightlifting (strong man weightlifting is good). Spend more time doing productive things.
It's like this:
If you don't fill your time up with good, Shaytaan will fill it up with evil. If you don't fill your mind up with good, Shaytaan will fill it up with evil.
Bro What are those good activities you fill your time with?
Go for martial arts, or something. Release your inner energy in kicks and channel all your strength and energies into a burning kick and fist. Convert the energies you feel and release them in a powerful kick and punches.
In shaa' Allah you will feel better than being in this infatuation.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
Bro What are those good activities you fill your time with?
There are a number of beneficial activities a 17 year old youngster like him can do, such as:
1) Try to do Hifz, In Shaa Allaah.
2) Study the Deen. Read the history of Islaam. Study the Seerah (biography) of Rasoolullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم. Study the lives of the Sahaabah. Kitaabs like "Hayaat-us-Sahaabah" are very good for this purpose. Read the English translation of the Qur'aan. Listen to Deeni lectures on YouTube (there are lecture series by some very great `Ulamaa like Shaykh Ahmad Jibreel, etc.).
3) Train. Do calisthenics or weightlifting. Learn horse-riding and archery. Get some firearm training. Learn martial arts (if possible). Islaam places a great deal of emphasis on and attaches great importance to becoming physically strong and fit. A strong Mu'min is more beloved to Allaah Ta`aalaa than a weak Mu'min. Go to the gym if you want. Spend time there working out everyday.
4) Find some permissible and beneficial hobbies.
5) Spend time with good friends who take you closer to Allaah Ta`aalaa rather than further away.
6) Perform more `Ibaadah. Read more Qur'aan. Make more Dhikr. Try to make 1,000 Durood a day.
7) Get involved with some Muslim charity organisations in your area. In SA, for example, you have organisations like Al-Fidaa, SANZAF, Gift of the Givers, etc. You can do volunteer work for these organisations. There's more Thawaab in it than you can imagine.
These are just a few examples. Basically, do things which will benefit you in the Aakhirah or at least in the Dunyaa (preferably in both). The more time you spend in useful/beneficial activities the less time you'll have for bad things. It's very simple.
Am I right in saying that physical health (being fit, strong, etc.), mental health, and psychological health all have an impact on your Imaan, and your performance to excel in deen.
Someone who takes care of his physical health and mental health, will be more successful than the one who doesn't train these aspects. Our body, mind, etc. are not excluded when it comes to Islam. All are important in having a good healthy relationship with Allah.
Am I right? To assume that our body, mind, etc. Has NO impact on Imaan, and thinking clearly, and being capable to achieve and attain new heights of knowledge, is ignorance. It does have an impact.
Eating healthy, being fit, and training one's mind, is what makes a Muslim stronger. And it helps in acts of worship and one is stronger in resisting waswass, temptations of this world, be it women or wealth, In shaa' Allah.
we have been given something far more valuable than this world - Imaan, and we have all been blessed with health and time. Sadly people tend to only notice when they lose these things.
Which reminds me of a hadith. Where the Prophet :saw: said along the lines of: to take advantage of your youth before oldage, time before you become busy, health before you fall sick, take advantage of life before death.
In shaa' Allah some can find the hadith.
And Allah knows best.
Last edited by Serinity; 09-12-2016 at 06:53 PM.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
format_quote Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam
There are a number of beneficial activities a 17 year old youngster like him can do, such as:
1) Try to do Hifz, In Shaa Allaah.
2) Study the Deen. Read the history of Islaam. Study the Seerah (biography) of Rasoolullaah صلى الله عليه وسلم. Study the lives of the Sahaabah. Kitaabs like "Hayaat-us-Sahaabah" are very good for this purpose. Read the English translation of the Qur'aan. Listen to Deeni lectures on YouTube (there are lecture series by some very great `Ulamaa like Shaykh Ahmad Jibreel, etc.).
3) Train. Do calisthenics or weightlifting. Learn horse-riding and archery. Get some firearm training. Learn martial arts (if possible). Islaam places a great deal of emphasis on and attaches great importance to becoming physically strong and fit. A strong Mu'min is more beloved to Allaah Ta`aalaa than a weak Mu'min. Go to the gym if you want. Spend time there working out everyday.
4) Find some permissible and beneficial hobbies.
5) Spend time with good friends who take you closer to Allaah Ta`aalaa rather than further away.
6) Perform more `Ibaadah. Read more Qur'aan. Make more Dhikr. Try to make 1,000 Durood a day.
7) Get involved with some Muslim charity organisations in your area. In SA, for example, you have organisations like Al-Fidaa, SANZAF, Gift of the Givers, etc. You can do volunteer work for these organisations. There's more Thawaab in it than you can imagine.
These are just a few examples. Basically, do things which will benefit you in the Aakhirah or at least in the Dunyaa (preferably in both). The more time you spend in useful/beneficial activities the less time you'll have for bad things. It's very simple.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
" Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "
Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.
(In the Name of God, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful)
(Peace be upon you)
Lol. For all of y'all saying that cuddling with a pillow is creepy or silly or whatnot, hey, haven't you ever done anything like it? :/
For example, when I was a teenager, I would dance with the closet door and pretend it's a wonderful guy who's swept me off my feet. And that's just one of the lesser embarrassing things I have pretended in my teens.
I kind of see him cuddling the pillow as a kind of cute thing.
A pillow is a pillow. Nothing much to it. It helps me sleep at night somewhat. I think.
My pillow is a friend. It's warm and cuddly. It doesn't judge me. It offers unconditional support. In extreme circumstances it can be both a weapon and a comfort.
"Nothing much to it"? Tosh! Tosh, I say! The pillow is a noble object, one that you plainly neither appreciate nor deserve. For shame!
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