Originally Posted by
Gossamer skye
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akhi,
like I said the diagnosis of schizophrenia can't be made unless she has had the sx for 6 months straight. having one brief psychotic episode can very well be an isolated incident. but the secret really is to how she comes out of this relapse.
I really think that whomever is her wali, should keep her away from ignorant people. Folks get married at all kinds of ages, divorcees get married, young old, there is no 'time limit' one of my aunts got married in her forties. I realize there is alot of stigma but it is because people are plain ignorant and they never give others a break, as if they have guaranteed that life won't come and bite them in the ass. Perhaps the secret is that if/when she gets married, she can marry from a different culture, perhaps a divorcee or a widower (though certainly not a criteria) but just as an example of the many people looking for a partner. my uncle was widowed last year and he has three kids his wife was in her forties when she passed away-- I know he is in no mood for a marriage now, but I know my aunts are looking for a wife for him to help him with the kids and whatnot since he holds two jobs and can't be a full time parent or even a part time.. the youngest of his kids is 10 or 11. so what can I tell you, there are tons of people out there with many problems that I am surprised at all when I hear of people passing judgment on others and perhaps actively sending them into a state of depression or psychosis. People like that should fear Allah and I know there is no shortage of them. I hope that no one immediately around her is adding stress to her or making her feel like there is something wrong with her, she needs to get back to normalcy without added stressors please...
may Allah swt grant her shifa
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