Assalamu alaykum. I don't have much advice I can give other than what's already been given.
Have you ever tried communicating your issues to your family?
Self isolation is a very bad idea, it can be damaging. I knew a man who went through much trauma and he self isolated which led to him becoming a sociopath..
I hope that you eventually find peace being around people. There are ways to overcome anxiety:
I think first and foremost, try to connect to Allah. I have a question, when you read Quran, can you at least feel that connection with Allah? If so, keep it up. Even if your dua hasn't been answered yet. We should always keep our relationship with Allah even if things aren't going the way we expected. Make dua no matter what. Wake up for tahajud to make dua.
Tie your camels and put your trust in Allah. Let's get to the tie your camels part. Making dua won't magically get rid of your anxiety (at least not in some situationss). You need to try to get rid of you anxiety yourself. Take it as a challenge, to improve yourself as a Muslim, so you can be happy again. Find something that REALLY motivates you to get rid of your fears. For example, I have an extreme fear of the dark (ik its stupid lol but it prevents me from going on with my day..).. Now this is a different example from yours, but it is a fear so its similar in a sense. I've been trying a form of cognitive therapy to get rid of it.. But what gave me the motivation to do this? For me it was actually Allah. Up until now I have always avoided situations of myself having to be in the dark alone.. But I've been slowly exposing myself because I want to be a stronger Muslim. Taking your biggest fears away is an amazing challenge. In the moment, you may be terrified, but right after it ends.. You finished your trial.
See for me, its not just about getting rid of my fear so that I can finally normally go about my day without having to worry. Because no matter what, we will always have something to worry about. It'll be one fear after the other. For me, it's more about challenging yourself. Taking what scares you the most, and showing that you won't back down.. Not letting your mind control you, but becoming a master of your own mind. Because our emotion is the root to our problems. When I say that I want to make my self stronger.. I don't mean by being able to withstand the entity that scares you.. But being able to withstand the amount of emotional strain(fear) that is caused by it. So I won't be proud that I can make it through the dark (cuz its not something to rlly be proud of, lol), but I will be proud of the fact that I was able to withstand my emotion that was caused by it! So when I feel this anxiety again but with a different situation, I can at least handle it better!
Um. Still terrified of the dark, its been a childhood fear that hasn't gone away for some reason. InshaAllah it'll go away
But you could use this concept I mentioned with anything, not even fear. It can be sadness, pain, anger...
So if you take this as a challenge and focus more on trying to win those internal wars for the reward of mastering your own mind, it may motivate you more than just wanting to be happy so you can speak to your family like a normal man
But then she finally decided to challenge herself and show that she was the stronger one. Forgiveness was the route she took, and she became a different person. And thats how she ended up there, on stage, confidently spreading awareness about forgiveness, but also her sex trafficking story.
This is the power you recieve when you learn to forgive. When you forgive, it is not because the other person deserves forgiveness, rather it is how you set yourself free of all anger and find your own peace. You can become the kind and caring person you want to be.
If you are a victim, you can't undo what has already been done. The thoughts of being raped and the injustice can stay with you for a lifetime. The rape might have happened thirty years ago. I can't think of a nice way to say this, but the rape itself may not have been the most damaging thing that happened. The real damage is caused by thirty years of living in hate and anger, they still control your mind.
You will only find peace when you can truly forgive. We might spend a hundred years on this Earth, but there is the thought of an eternity with Allah. How do we find our peace with Allah?
In the spirit of praying for justice for all people.
Eric
If we want justice, we can only go as far the law allows. In the case of Glen who was crippled from the waist down for 27 years, his attacker only served four years in prison. Is that justice?
How could real justice happen for Glen?
How could the victim of a peodeophile ever have true justice? I know victims who are still traumatised forty years later.
I don't believe we can ever have true justice here on Earth. Only Allah can restore our lives in a greater good life after death.
In the spirit of praying for justice for all people.
Eric
Insh Allah the evil are punished where it matters the most... So we pray everyday.
Suppose its down to the victim to how much they want to pursue...
We pray for visible proportionate justice in this world so our minds can be put at ease, else we leave the judgement on the ultimate judgement day... But our minds remain unrested...
Sad reality...victims truly never get justice or even the full justice they deserve. Society instead emotionally blackmail and puts all of the pressure on the victims to "forgive" then say have you never committed a sin?
This is toxic. Everyone has a choice to forgive or not...sure those who forigve are better but to intentionally coerce someone to forgive?
Subahanallah
The oppressors get away while society defends them. Even if they die...they get away with it. Even if something bad happens to them...they use it to get attention and manipulate people to their advantage. There never is true justice. All we can do is hope that Allah dispenses the true justice in the hereafter
I personally forgive because I honestly belive even if one makes dua against their oppressor, you may not see it or even get full justice in this world. Forgiving is better because it stops the pain...its harder when you have ptsd.
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