This is used alot in the west compared to some countries where they use sticks to beat you up or you use money to get away with it.
Anyway, this is how it goes.
When some police come to your house to ask you regarding a situation - there will usually be two cops/policemen or women.
They come inside, or you go inside the police building and you will see two totally different personalities. One will be really harsh and angry/strict, while the other one will be really calm and soft, kind.
The one thats really angry and strict & harsh will shout at you and ask you questions directly. You might get scared because he/she's putting you under too much pressure [even though we shouldn't be because we have Allaah on our side.]
This is when their trick comes into power; the kind policeman/woman will start being really kind to you and will start asking what really happened. They might even tell the angry policeman or woman to calm down so the person can talk.
This is when your weakness or emotions might open up, because you feel that you can trust the good & kind one, because the other one was too harsh on you. So you will start explaining everything to the kind policeman or woman and the angry policeman or woman will quieten down.
For example:
Bad Cop: What were you doing at this time on 24th October!
Me: er..erm... i was at home.
Bad Cop: Are you really sure about that!? We'll just have to see won't we.
Good Cop: Leave him/her alone, you're a good person aren't you? Can you explain to us what happened. We're here to help you.
Bad Cop: Yeah! explain then.
Good Cop: Sssh... let him/her explain. Trustworthy people like you don't lie do you? *smiles*
Me: er.. i was at my friends house really, we went out and thats when the accident happened.
[Bad cop goes quiet, and Good Cop acts like a best friend to the person.]
Later on when they pull the truth out of you, some other day they will ask another person questions. The policemen or women may switch their role and the one that was kind to you may be harsh & angry and the other one who was harsh may become soft..
Why? Just so they can open up your fearful side, and due to this, you will explain everything to the 'good' cop and fear the 'bad one.' A tricky tool to open up your emotions, so you reveal the truth and everything to them.
What's the solution? Fear Allaah instead of the creation. And also remember:
On the authority of Ibn Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him), the Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alayhi waSalam) said: “Fear the dua (supplication) of he who has been wronged, for verily it ascends to the skies faster than the rays of light.” (Al-Haakim, Saheeh). A narration (Ahmad, Saheeh) reads:
“Fear the dua of he who has been wronged, even if he is a disbeliever, for there is no veil between it(and Allah (Subhana wa ta'aala)).”
Last edited by - Qatada -; 12-02-2006 at 10:42 PM.
In a court case, a person [maybe a solicitor or someone involved in the case] will get up and ask you, Is your name 'so and so'? Is this your occupation? etc. They will keep asking you simple questions which will involve a YES answer.
If this continues it becomes repetitive and puts the person under alot of pressure. When they know the person is weak, they go for the attack and may ask a question to do with the case. Purposelly trying to throw you into the trap of saying YES again.
This can lead you into the trap of falling guilty, and if you were to say NO after that, they could accuse you of lying because they would ask why you said YES in the first place.
I think it's used alot by prosecuting solicitors/lawyers.
I hear them off lectures or psychology teachers. The thing is, in the non muslim law system - all they run after is this dunya [world], so the justice isn't always there. Like if Bill Gates (the head of Microsoft) was in a court case with some poor man who lives on the street, guess who would win?
It's really important that we have islaam, and we're living in a time when there is a great fitnah (trial) but we have to remember that if we can establish islaam once again, then the reward is great like the sahabah/companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) because we're the only people (from the time of the fall of the Ottoman khalifah [early 1900s]) since the time of the sahabah [1400yrs ago] to not have an islamic state.
So if we can revive this once again, the reward will be huge insha'Allah. But this can only come through hard work, because the more effort one puts in sincerely for Allaah's sake, the greater the reward insha'Allaah. And Allaah has power over all things.
Watch ur Words !
If you are feeling down, or whatever, say to ur self....."I am having a good life"....five ,six times.....and you will see in a couple of moments.....you will really feel that you have a good life........
You can do that with other things too....like If u tell ur self that "I am going to make the most out of this day"......or whatever you feel like
That is commonly known as a self-fulfilling prophecy: because it's on your mind constantly, you'll inevitably perform the action. Whether the desired result occurs is a different matter
Memories are often remembered with more clarity in the area that the memory occured e.g. you witness a mugging. By revisiting the scene, your recollection of the incident will be greatly enhanced than if you were to try recollecting that memory at say home or police station.
Also, we tend to dream of things in our subconscious and this can be influenced by what we read or hear. Here's an example: a tree. I guarantee that as a result, one person who read that word will have a dream sometime tonight that involves a tree (it may have little relevance to the overall dream, but it will be in there!). The key to this however, is that the reader forgets that trigger and in doing so allows it to slip into his/her subconscious. If you think about it hard enough, you've probably experienced it several times in the past without being aware at all.
Someone said to the Prophet, "Pray to God against the idolaters and curse them." The Prophet replied, "I have been sent to show mercy and have not been sent to curse." (Muslim)
have you ever noticed your habits. Whenever we are inspired by someone, , we unintentionally copy them. We adopt even very small habits.
e.g. a student might hold the pen in the same manner as his/her fav teacher does. He/she might speak in the same accent as that of his/her fav teacher.
Have you seen young kids and teens who watch so much action stuff....act like they are superman, terminator etc (lol i cant remember )... the least they do is wear a t-shirt with a insigna of superman's "s" /tarzan....and hercules like stuff. This is because that is what they see and that is what they like and appreciate.....
Similarly, if there are some good boys , who read good islamic books, and they think their heroes are the Sahabah and the Prophet (s.a.w.). They would copy them, like in every manner they can. For example, They like eating something which the Prophet (s.a.w.) liked.And they dislike what he (s.a.w.) disliked.......
Just like the SahaBahs (may Allah be pleased with them all)
Book 023, Hadith Number 5067.
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Anas b. Malik reported: A tailor invited Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) to a meal which he had prepared. Anas b. Malik said: I went along with Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) to that feast. He presented to Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) barley bread and soup containing pumpkin, and sliced pieces of meat. Anas said: I saw Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) going after the pumpkin round the dish, so I have always liked the pumpkin since that day.
Book 023, Hadith Number 5094.
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Jabir b. 'Abdullah reported: Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) took hold of my hand one day (and led me) to his residence. There was presented to him some pieces of bread, whereupon he said: Is there no condiment? They (the members of his household) said: No, except some vinegar. He (the Holy Prophet) said: Vinegar is a good condiment. Jabir said: I have always loved vinegar since I heard it from Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him). Talha said: I have always loved vinegar since I heard about it from Jabir.
Book 023, Hadith Number 5097.
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Chapter : Permissibility of eating garlic, but avoiding it when one intends to talk to eminent persons.
Abd Ayyub Ansari reported that when food was brought to Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) he ate out of that, and sent the remaining part to me, and one day he sent to me the left-over; (I found that he) had not taken from it at all for it included garlic. I asked him whether that was forbidden, whereupon he said: No, but I do not like it because of its odour. He (Abu Ayyub Ansiri) said: Then I also do not like what you do not like.
So the good muslim kids dont say they want to be like the Hollywood heroes,
but they are like..... "I wanna be like umar (r.a)"
"I wanna be like Khalid bin waleed(r.a.)
"I wanna be like Ayesha(r.a.)"
"I wanna be like Khadija (r.a.)"
I learn this just a few years back from a senior guy before i go for interviewing session(job application).
1)Shake the interviewer hand with a little bit tight than usually we does,to show them that we have high enough confident level,it is also a sign of honest,ingenuous and friendly.
2)Make some simulation practice not in physical action but in our mind while waiting.Imagine and create something that could match with the subject(job)
With a closing eyes then imagine when he/she pointing a question to u kay:this trick will make you feel more calm and comfortable.
3)Do not seat before them,do not cheating and do not rude.
4)Stare directly to their eyes when talking to them,to show that you are not shy and not cheating to them
It was effective on me,hopefully you all tooInshaAllah
Last edited by starfortress; 12-13-2006 at 05:43 PM.
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حللت أهلاً ووطئت سهلاً "O Allah! Keep me alive as long as live is better for me, and let me die as death is better for me"
whats meant to happen is that once you let your arm go, it should start to raise by itself..without your control.. automatically. try it again... Lean against ur arm on the wall.
I want to learn a psychological technique used by the tibetan monks to keep warm in the snowy mountains. They just wear them sarong thingies and don't feel the cold at all. Amazing eh?
I've heard it from teacher, but never experieced it:
If a person mumbling while he's sleeping, ask him any question, even if related to his private. He could answer it and honest
wassalamualaikum
This is so true. my friends and i once asked another friend who was mumbling in his sleep for his pin number. he told us it and when we told him in the morning he was shocked and slightly peeved. never the less it was good fun, and dont worry he changed his pin the next day! lol
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kay:this trick will make you feel more calm and comfortable.
,i press my right hand until it shaking but less than a minute,i don't know i think it feels like my hand paralised and weak,is it true?
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