assalamoalaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakautuhu

Assalamoalaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu hu,

Brothers/sisters,
Just to give you a good news, I had gathered quite a courage to ask my husband for forgiveness. However, he didn't say that he forgives me. Means he doesn't want to cleanse se his heart with me. He was abrupt and didn't let my emotions flow. Is this step from my end acceptable to Allah. Will now Allah forgive me. Please suggest. I couldn't convince my husband to forgive me.

He was neutral. There was no yes from him inspite of asking him thrice.

format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimaah2

He was neutral. There was no yes from him inspite of asking him thrice.

These things take time, give him time. Continue to work on improving yourself.

format_quote Originally Posted by aaj

These things take time, give him time. Continue to work on improving yourself.

Do I need to ask him to forgive me again. M sorry but I can't gather that courage again. Also, may be he felt guilty but was not sorry for what he did. My important concern is, will Allah swt forgive me?

format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimaah2

Do I need to ask him to forgive me again. M sorry but I can't gather that courage again. Also, may be he felt guilty but was not sorry for what he did. My important concern is, will Allah swt forgive me?

Asalamu alaykum sis


We've answered the last question before if you sincerely repent then why not and it is not even beyond Allah to exchange your bad deeds for good ones. Now it's probably just shaytaans waswasa and he wants you to despair in Allahs mercy because that's a sin in and of itself.

Also, remember that if Allah should aid you then nothing can overcome you so seek his help to gain the courage you need.. keep making dua and istighfar and do your daily adhkaar

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http://www.ruqyaqa.com/the-ruqya-plan.html


Try and follow the relevant advice given in the two links

Assalamualaikum brothers/sister,
I have strived hard to repent and refrain myself from doing shirk. But I gave it up as again my trial was too tough to handle. As usual out of not so important argument my husband had trashed me out of the house for the 4th time leaving the kids. I had no choice as I had no family support so I contacted the same person whom I was indulged with for doing shirk. I however returned home but my husband still continued going to a Christian girl and ofcourse many more to enlist. Inspite of taking a firm decision to quit shirk I took a u turn to it. Moreover I also found a bottle of alcohol in his closet wch was opened and used. As usual he again jazzed me and I was left speechless. He is still not back to me. And yes I have not reversed my shirk on him of his manhood not working to any other woman other than me. I really don't know where is my life heading. I need peace at mind and in my life. I want my pure relationship with Allah as it was 5 yrs back.

Assalamualaikum brothers/sister,<br />
I have strived hard to repent and refrain myself from doing shirk. But I gave it up as again my trial was too tough to handle. As usual out of not so important argument my husband had trashed me out of the house for the 4th time leaving the kids. I had no choice as I had no family support so I contacted the same person whom I was indulged with for doing shirk. I however returned home but my husband still continued going to a Christian girl and ofcourse many more to enlist. Inspite of taking a firm decision to quit shirk I took a u turn to it. Moreover I also found a bottle of alcohol in his closet wch was opened and used. As usual he again jazzed me and I was left speechless. He is still not back to me. And yes I have not reversed my shirk on him of his manhood not working to any other woman other than me. I really don't know where is my life heading. I need peace at mind and in my life. I want my pure relationship with Allah as it was 5 yrs back.

Sister ... your husband is a test of you ... you also a test for him
But Allah is better for you than every one ... do you remember the all good days when you was with him on that relationship ? But how do you feel now ???
This is what we all feel .. just the situation which we are in now ... not what we was before
In the hear after we will just feel what we will be in .. jannah or nar
So please don't lose your future for the sake of any one ...
Because very one will left you or you will left him by live or death
Don't think that this magician who can supreat a families just for some piece of money ... don't think he will help you ... no , but Rather he will do all the things he can to broke your happiness if someone gives him more to do so
So be happy with your life with or without him .
Life without him is better than you disobey Allah with the most major sin in Islam just to stop him for doing another sin which is less than shirk
Stop for the sake of Allah and Allah can bring him home and make you happy better than you think
Because you seen .. happiness is with what Allah love
And with Allah's love your life won't be the same
Try to see sister that this is a massages from Allah to led you to his way because he is still love you ... but don't wait more to change
You know sister .. sihr make the parson more far because this jinss who the magician sent to be responsible of that persons's act will led him to disobey Allah more ... please let him to his lord .a lot of people who was like that they become a good people after tawbah ... don't be with shaytan against him
Don't worship your husband beside Allah by making shirk for his sake
Sister ...
Those people don't help ... they just hurt. .. and if they can do something ...tell them to change them life if they can
.. they just can disobey Allah without care , and hurt the other people without any feeling and do the worst
They are durty filthy and more and more ... I see one of them as a test in the first year of my repentance ... he wasn't a person who help he was like a servent of his jinn ... he can't even wash his hand or put shoes when he go to bathroom ... how he can help me while he live this life ???
He told my father :your dougter will walk the next year If you do this to her ...
My father was like a dream to him to see me walking after years of traveling and trying .. finely he accepted that for me and because of me
But alhamdulillah Allah help me to know what is the best and I told him no
I don't want to walk if the price is disobeying Allah
You know I say this to that sahir but he couldn't her me or even respond to me ... you know why ???
Because my Iman was strange at that moment
After a year or two I heald I did a surgery and I get very good by Allah's help
But If I did his sihr ... than I will be praising him till now as the one who helped me
Alhamdulillah .. I didn't do that ... I know that Allah help me because I chose him even my foot and the walking was the best dream in my life ... but not after founding Allah's way
Because with him I get know what is my aime and my dream and what I need
Is just him even if the whole world not with me
Alhamdulillah!

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters,

I know I am a big sinner but now I have realised that I need to repent and I m working on it. Moreover I have discarded all my other wrong beliefs and malpractices completely. It's only my Allah and I in the picture.
I want to know is there a way I can come tomorrow know that Allah has forgiven me. Or how long will it take. When will all my problems get solved for which I had approached the wrong way out. Please throw the light on this. As I m striving to repent and get rid of my previous bad deeds but my husband still seems to be involved with other women and not me. Is this a test for me? But I pray to Allah to forgive my husband too for all that he is doing and make him repent. Please help. JazakAllah

format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimaah2

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters,

I know I am a big sinner but now I have realised that I need to repent and I m working on it. Moreover I have discarded all my other wrong beliefs and malpractices completely. It's only my Allah and I in the picture.
I want to know is there a way I can come tomorrow know that Allah has forgiven me. Or how long will it take. When will all my problems get solved for which I had approached the wrong way out. Please throw the light on this. As I m striving to repent and get rid of my previous bad deeds but my husband still seems to be involved with other women and not me. Is this a test for me? But I pray to Allah to forgive my husband too for all that he is doing and make him repent. Please help. JazakAllah

Sister, other people have already i believe said this and within Islam this is also a fact. If you repent and go back to Allah, Allah forgives you immediately as He is the MOST forgiving, the MOST Merciful. So start doing that. Last time you said you repented then later on you again commit shirk. Make up your mind. Allah(swt) forgives you each time you sincerely repent. However if you keep going back doing shirk and and repenting..then apparently you haven't repented with honesty. When you repent you promise to not go back and commit that same sin again.

Also Allah(swt) decides WHEN this life of yours ends. So having committed shirk and dying upon that without repenting with honesty..that is a huge risk. I don't think you are willing to take that risk right?

So is your repentance honest or is it just to fool yourself? As you are not really fooling Allah(swt).

As I said earlier I have quit everything and now m form not to go back to the wrong path come what may. I have totally quit it and it's only my Allah and I. Allah has given me hidaya and I m very sure about my faith now. My main concern is my husband and his relationship with other women. I want to know if Allah forgives immediately then when will my husband n my relationship become better.

format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimaah2

As I said earlier I have quit everything and now m form not to go back to the wrong path come what may. I have totally quit it and it's only my Allah and I. Allah has given me hidaya and I m very sure about my faith now. My main concern is my husband and his relationship with other women. I want to know if Allah forgives immediately then when will my husband n my relationship become better.

Sister, you are responsible for your own actions. So repent and Allah(swt) will forgive you. In case of your husband, you can make dua to Allah(swt) to guide him and give advice to your husband with what he is doing is wrong and remind him of Allah(swt) and the Day of Judgement. That's it..more you cannot do. If he decides to not listen to you, it is HIS choice..not yours. You have advised him the right path but if he doesn't take it..you leave him in his sin. Go to a marriage counselor or what have you. If that doesn't work or he doesn't want that and you tried bringing in family to mediate and all other kind of HALAL possibilities. If still he does not want to fix the marriage you divorce him. I know it is not easy all of this, but it is what it is and most of it you can blame yourself for it..not Allah(swt) or somebody else. As i have in another comment in another topic told you that the reason that you married him wasn't really what was advised according to Islamic principles. Which this is sadly the result of it.

format_quote Originally Posted by Simple_Person

Sister, you are responsible for your own actions. So repent and Allah(swt) will forgive you. In case of your husband, you can make dua to Allah(swt) to guide him and give advice to your husband with what he is doing is wrong and remind him of Allah(swt) and the Day of Judgement. That's it..more you cannot do. If he decides to not listen to you, it is HIS choice..not yours. You have advised him the right path but if he doesn't take it..you leave him in his sin. Go to a marriage counselor or what have you. If that doesn't work or he doesn't want that and you tried bringing in family to mediate and all other kind of HALAL possibilities. If still he does not want to fix the marriage you divorce him. I know it is not easy all of this, but it is what it is and most of it you can blame yourself for it..not Allah(swt) or somebody else. As i have in another comment in another topic told you that the reason that you married him wasn't really what was advised according to Islamic principles. Which this is sadly the result of it.

Divorce is not my cup of tea right now as I also hv two small kids. I m sure Allah has something better for me (aameen). If Allah forgives me then he will change my situations too. I don't think I will need to reach the ladder of divorce. Thanks for Ur advice brother. I will talk and advise my husband and rest all Allah will definitely take care of. If i made a mistake of marrying a wrong person i regret it and repent for it. Allah will sure a cept my repentance and will change it to something good, all i need is patience and not divorce. I cant be so negative with my life and my kids. Allah is there for all of us.
Assalamualaikum.

format_quote Originally Posted by Muslimaah2

Divorce is not my cup of tea right now as I also hv two small kids. I m sure Allah has something better for me (aameen). If Allah forgives me then he will change my situations too. I don't think I will need to reach the ladder of divorce. Thanks for Ur advice brother. I will talk and advise my husband and rest all Allah will definitely take care of. If i made a mistake of marrying a wrong person i regret it and repent for it. Allah will sure a cept my repentance and will change it to something good, all i need is patience and not divorce. I cant be so negative with my life and my kids. Allah is there for all of us.
Assalamualaikum.

Sister, i am not saying you should or you must divorce your husband. I will NEVER tell somebody or advice somebody that. I only say ..these are the options and it is YOUR choice what to choose. As often when we have problems, we loose tracks of the options available to choose from. So that is what i have given you, but beware that if in the end divorce is only what is left so to say, do not resort to prohibited practices to still want to go your own way. As sometimes sadly we have to go to even divorce to find better life. Again, i am not saying go divorce him, but know that life can't always go as we want it to go.

Peace and May Allah(swt) make you steadfast and better your situation. Ameen.

format_quote Originally Posted by Simple_Person

Sister, i am not saying you should or you must divorce your husband. I will NEVER tell somebody or advice somebody that. I only say ..these are the options and it is YOUR choice what to choose. As often when we have problems, we loose tracks of the options available to choose from. So that is what i have given you, but beware that if in the end divorce is only what is left so to say, do not resort to prohibited practices to still want to go your own way. As sometimes sadly we have to go to even divorce to find better life. Again, i am not saying go divorce him, but know that life can't always go as we want it to go.

Peace and May Allah(swt) make you steadfast and better your situation. Ameen.

Aameen and JazakAllah for your help brother. This time it's my promise to Allah, and to myself that I will never take a u turn to where I left. I m very steady and firm about it.Allah has strengthened my Imaan. Trust me I was not like this earlier. I only offered to Allah and everything that was in the limits of Islam. But as u said the wrong choice of mine pushed me in this hell of wrong doings.
Please remember me in Ur prayers that all that has gone wrong with me turns good sooner. Aameen.

Assalamualaikum​ brothers and sisters,
I wanted to ask if I recite the complete surah baqarah for 40 days, will all my marriage issues be sorted out. Also, alongwith my supplications will Allah forgive my sins. Please suggest what is the best time to recite surah baqarah. Is midnight appropriate.

JazakAllah