Please HELP me!

**SmileyFace** · 02-01-2017

I am 17 year old boy. I have a lot of questions to ask but for now i want the answer of this particular question for now:
"Does Paradise(jannah) lie at my STEP Mother's feet???"
Note:We are a muslim family. My step mother is also a muslim woman.
We know that Paradise lies at our mother's feet. But does this thing also applied for STEP MOTHERS????

**talibilm** · 02-01-2017

I am 17 year old boy. I have a lot of questions to ask but for now i want the answer of this particular question for now:
"Does Paradise(jannah) lie at my STEP Mother's feet???"
Note:We are a muslim family. My step mother is also a muslim woman.
We know that Paradise lies at our mother's feet. But does this thing also applied for STEP MOTHERS????

Bro @ Huzaifa ibn adam

**Shamnadanu** · 02-03-2017

paradise lies on every womens feat...

**Karl** · 02-03-2017

What a 17 year old boy? First of all call yourself a man unless you are still prepubescent and have some kind of hormone problem. If you call yourself a boy when you are a man, people will think you are an effeminate homosexual. Yeah and paradise at your mothers feet is only a joke not to be taken literally. Only Allah is the way to paradise.

**azc** · 02-04-2017

http://daruliftabirmingham.co.uk/rig...-stepmother-2/

**SmileyFace** · 02-06-2017

Thanks. It helped a lot

**talibilm** · 02-06-2017

Originally Posted by Karl

What a 17 year old boy? First of all call yourself a man unless you are still prepubescent and have some kind of hormone problem. If you call yourself a boy when you are a man, people will think you are an effeminate homosexual. Yeah and paradise at your mothers feet is only a joke not to be taken literally. Only Allah is the way to paradise.

Allah is the way to paradise is correct , But Allah told to serve your parents to get to Paradise. Then if you do not listen to Allah who said to follow the particular way then, how are you going to go to paradise ?

To know the values of serving mother kindly read post # 5 here https://www.islamicboard.com/seerah/134342954-100-miracles-prophet-muhammad-peace.html

**SmileyFace** · 02-06-2017

Is there anything about step mom?

**Huzaifah ibn Adam** · 02-06-2017

Originally Posted by Karl

Yeah and paradise at your mothers feet is only a joke

No Hadeeth is a "joke".

The literal (Haqeeqi) meaning is not intended, but a figurative meaning is intended, which is that if the person is dutiful to his mother, he will be granted Jannah, In Shaa Allaah.

With regards to the authenticity of the Hadeeth, see:

http://hadithanswers.com/jannah-lies...f-your-mother/

**Huzaifah ibn Adam** · 02-06-2017

Originally Posted by Karl

What a 17 year old boy? First of all call yourself a man unless you are still prepubescent and have some kind of hormone problem. If you call yourself a boy when you are a man, people will think you are an effeminate homosexual.

This part is true.

In Islaam, the absolute latest age at which a person becomes an adult is 15. You can become an adult before the age of 15, but there is no becoming an adult after the age of 15. This is something in which Islaam differs greatly from Kaafir society. Kaafir society will view teenagers (even 19 year olds) as still "boys", whereas Islaam regards the person to be an adult, a man, from the age of 15 already, or, if he had become Baaligh before then, then from the age of Buloogh.

This is something which may seem trivial, and you may wonder why this would even get posted, but it actually holds a lot of importance and therefore I am writing this. The Kaafir mindset gives this impression that, even at that late age, they are still "kids", and this in turn causes them to have an immature, childish mindset and causes them to lack responsibility. Causes them to waste away additional years of their life under the idea that they are "kids".

This issue is not fully grounded in the minds of Muslims. That is why, if they find a 15-year old man (take note of the keyword used here) fighting in Jihaad, as a Mujaahid, what will they say? "How can you allow child soldiers!?"

Isn't that right?

But the fact is that only Kaafir society will regard that man as being a "child soldier". In Islaam, he is an adult. This issue of when a person comes to be regarded as a responsible adult affects many other things. Adults have to take responsibility for the consequences of their statements and their actions. For example, and this is an example which those who have grown up all their lives with the Kaafir mindset will struggle to accept:

If a 15-year old commits Irtidaad (apostasy), he is to be killed.

It goes even further than that:

Let's say he had become Baaligh at the age of 13. Now, he commits Irtidaad or does some action which requires the death penalty. Despite being 13-years old, it will be carried out on him, because in Islaam, he will be regarded as an adult and not as a child. He is Baaligh. And again, 15 is the cut-off age. No becoming an adult later than that.

So those who are that age and older should realise that they have been adults for a long time already and thus should act accordingly.

والسلام

**SmileyFace** · 02-06-2017

Thank you all for the infos..

**TDWT** · 02-06-2017

Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam

This part is true.

In Islaam, the absolute latest age at which a person becomes an adult is 15. You can become an adult before the age of 15, but there is no becoming an adult after the age of 15. This is something in which Islaam differs greatly from Kaafir society. Kaafir society will view teenagers (even 19 year olds) as still "boys", whereas Islaam regards the person to be an adult, a man, from the age of 15 already, or, if he had become Baaligh before then, then from the age of Buloogh.

This is something which may seem trivial, and you may wonder why this would even get posted, but it actually holds a lot of importance and therefore I am writing this. The Kaafir mindset gives this impression that, even at that late age, they are still "kids", and this in turn causes them to have an immature, childish mindset and causes them to lack responsibility. Causes them to waste away additional years of their life under the idea that they are "kids".

This issue is not fully grounded in the minds of Muslims. That is why, if they find a 15-year old man (take note of the keyword used here) fighting in Jihaad, as a Mujaahid, what will they say? "How can you allow child soldiers!?"

Isn't that right?

But the fact is that only Kaafir society will regard that man as being a "child soldier". In Islaam, he is an adult. This issue of when a person comes to be regarded as a responsible adult affects many other things. Adults have to take responsibility for the consequences of their statements and their actions. For example, and this is an example which those who have grown up all their lives with the Kaafir mindset will struggle to accept:

If a 15-year old commits Irtidaad (apostasy), he is to be killed.

It goes even further than that:

Let's say he had become Baaligh at the age of 13. Now, he commits Irtidaad or does some action which requires the death penalty. Despite being 13-years old, it will be carried out on him, because in Islaam, he will be regarded as an adult and not as a child. He is Baaligh. And again, 15 is the cut-off age. No becoming an adult later than that.

So those who are that age and older should realise that they have been adults for a long time already and thus should act accordingly.

والسلام

I don't think a 13 year old is mentally mature enough to be considered an adult. Their brains are still developing immensely. I'm a little disturbed that you advocate that a 13 year old should be killed honestly.

**Huzaifah ibn Adam** · 02-07-2017

Originally Posted by TDWT

I don't think a 13 year old is mentally mature enough to be considered an adult. Their brains are still developing immensely. I'm a little disturbed that you advocate that a 13 year old should be killed honestly.

I don't think you understood what was written. "I" am not advocating anything. If I was giving my opinion, anyone could be free to reject it. But that is not what I'm doing. I am telling you that according to Sharee`ah, a person can become Baaligh before the age of 15. Have you understood so far? Now, the next part: Someone can become Baaligh at the age of 13. Understood? In Islaam, if a person is Baaligh at the age of 13, then he is an Adult and is treated accordingly. He is not a child, he is not considered to be a child. He is an adult and is treated as an adult. Is this understood so far?

Now, let's say this Adult, who happens to be 13-years of age, commits Irtidaad, i.e. commits apostasy, for example: the ruling is that, since he is an adult, he will be given the same penalty any other adult would be given, which is the death penalty.

Have you understood it now? This is not "my" ruling. I am telling you what the Sharee`ah says. And in fact, this is something which had happened in the past.

A Sahaabi by the name of `Atiyyah al-Qurazhi narrates a Hadeeth, and this particular Hadeeth is recorded in Sunan Abu Daawud, Sunan at-Tirmidhi, Sunan an-Nasaa'i, Sunan ibn Maajah, and elsewhere. He says, describing the aftermath of the battle of Khaybar which the Muslims fought against the Jews (he had been from the Jews):

عرِضنا على النبى صلى اللَّه عليه وسلم يوم قريظة وكان من أنبت قتل، ومن لم ينبِت خلي سبِيله، فكنت ممن لم ينبت فخلي سبيلي

"We (i.e. the prisoners) were presented to Nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم on the Day of (the battle of) Qurayzhah, and those who had started to grow pubic hair were killed, and those who had not, they were set free. I was from those who had not, so I was set free."

Commenting on this Hadeeth, Imaam at-Tirmidhi says:

حديث حسن صحيح، والعمل على هذا عند بعض أهل العلم، أنهم يرون الإنبات بلوغا إن لم يعرف احتلامه ولا سنه، وهو قول أحمد وإسحاق

"This Hadeeth is Hasan Saheeh, and the ruling is upon this (Hadeeth) according to some of the People of `Ilm. They regard the growth of pubic hair as being Buloogh (i.e. that the person has become Baaligh), in the case of one who has not had Ihtilaam (a wet dream) and whose age is not known, and this is the verdict of Ahmad and Is-haaq."

Again, as I have said over and over: I am telling you what the Sharee`ah says about this issue. I am not telling you what "I" say about it, because what "I" say about something means absolutely nothing at all. Therefore, to make a statement such as: "I'm a little disturbed that you advocate taht a 13 year old should be killed" is ridiculous, because it is not something that "I" am advocating. I have shown you that this is what the Sharee`ah says about it. What a lot of people do is that, when they can't directly attack the Sharee`ah, they instead direct their attack at the one who shows them what the ruling of the Sharee`ah is.

The meaning of Islaam is "to completely submit to Allaah Ta`aalaa". To submit to Islaam in entirety. To submit to the Sharee`ah in entirety. To submit to each and every facet of Islaam, whether you understand it or not.

**TDWT** · 02-07-2017

Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam

I don't think you understood what was written. "I" am not advocating anything. If I was giving my opinion, anyone could be free to reject it. But that is not what I'm doing. I am telling you that according to Sharee`ah, a person can become Baaligh before the age of 15. Have you understood so far? Now, the next part: Someone can become Baaligh at the age of 13. Understood? In Islaam, if a person is Baaligh at the age of 13, then he is an Adult and is treated accordingly. He is not a child, he is not considered to be a child. He is an adult and is treated as an adult. Is this understood so far?

Now, let's say this Adult, who happens to be 13-years of age, commits Irtidaad, i.e. commits apostasy, for example: the ruling is that, since he is an adult, he will be given the same penalty any other adult would be given, which is the death penalty.

Have you understood it now? This is not "my" ruling. I am telling you what the Sharee`ah says. And in fact, this is something which had happened in the past.

A Sahaabi by the name of `Atiyyah al-Qurazhi narrates a Hadeeth, and this particular Hadeeth is recorded in Sunan Abu Daawud, Sunan at-Tirmidhi, Sunan an-Nasaa'i, Sunan ibn Maajah, and elsewhere. He says, describing the aftermath of the battle of Khaybar which the Muslims fought against the Jews (he had been from the Jews):

عرِضنا على النبى صلى اللَّه عليه وسلم يوم قريظة وكان من أنبت قتل، ومن لم ينبِت خلي سبِيله، فكنت ممن لم ينبت فخلي سبيلي

"We (i.e. the prisoners) were presented to Nabi صلى الله عليه وسلم on the Day of (the battle of) Qurayzhah, and those who had started to grow pubic hair were killed, and those who had not, they were set free. I was from those who had not, so I was set free."

Commenting on this Hadeeth, Imaam at-Tirmidhi says:

حديث حسن صحيح، والعمل على هذا عند بعض أهل العلم، أنهم يرون الإنبات بلوغا إن لم يعرف احتلامه ولا سنه، وهو قول أحمد وإسحاق

"This Hadeeth is Hasan Saheeh, and the ruling is upon this (Hadeeth) according to some of the People of `Ilm. They regard the growth of pubic hair as being Buloogh (i.e. that the person has become Baaligh), in the case of one who has not had Ihtilaam (a wet dream) and whose age is not known, and this is the verdict of Ahmad and Is-haaq."

Again, as I have said over and over: I am telling you what the Sharee`ah says about this issue. I am not telling you what "I" say about it, because what "I" say about something means absolutely nothing at all. Therefore, to make a statement such as: "I'm a little disturbed that you advocate taht a 13 year old should be killed" is ridiculous, because it is not something that "I" am advocating. I have shown you that this is what the Sharee`ah says about it. What a lot of people do is that, when they can't directly attack the Sharee`ah, they instead direct their attack at the one who shows them what the ruling of the Sharee`ah is.

The meaning of Islaam is "to completely submit to Allaah Ta`aalaa". To submit to Islaam in entirety. To submit to the Sharee`ah in entirety. To submit to each and every facet of Islaam, whether you understand it or not.

Are you certain that is what shari'ah says? I mean, a 13 year old, even a 15 year old isn't mentally mature enough to be considered an adult. Their brains are still developing emotionally and greatly.

**aaj** · 02-07-2017

Originally Posted by TDWT

Are you certain that is what shari'ah says? I mean, a 13 year old, even a 15 year old isn't mentally mature enough to be considered an adult. Their brains are still developing emotionally and greatly.

Yet they are mature enough to have sex and date?
10 year old girls are more mature in the east then 30 year old in the west.
It all depends on how you raise them and what society/culture expects of them.

**TDWT** · 02-07-2017

I never said I was ok with 15 year olds or 13 year olds having sex. That's not right to me.

Still even with the way they are raised, it's no denying their brains are still developing.

**Karl** · 02-07-2017

Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam

No Hadeeth is a "joke".

The literal (Haqeeqi) meaning is not intended, but a figurative meaning is intended, which is that if the person is dutiful to his mother, he will be granted Jannah, In Shaa Allaah.

With regards to the authenticity of the Hadeeth, see:

http://hadithanswers.com/jannah-lies...f-your-mother/

Yes you are correct. My statement was inaccurate. Figurative meaning is right.

**Karl** · 02-07-2017

Originally Posted by Huzaifah ibn Adam

This part is true.

In Islaam, the absolute latest age at which a person becomes an adult is 15. You can become an adult before the age of 15, but there is no becoming an adult after the age of 15. This is something in which Islaam differs greatly from Kaafir society. Kaafir society will view teenagers (even 19 year olds) as still "boys", whereas Islaam regards the person to be an adult, a man, from the age of 15 already, or, if he had become Baaligh before then, then from the age of Buloogh.

This is something which may seem trivial, and you may wonder why this would even get posted, but it actually holds a lot of importance and therefore I am writing this. The Kaafir mindset gives this impression that, even at that late age, they are still "kids", and this in turn causes them to have an immature, childish mindset and causes them to lack responsibility. Causes them to waste away additional years of their life under the idea that they are "kids".

This issue is not fully grounded in the minds of Muslims. That is why, if they find a 15-year old man (take note of the keyword used here) fighting in Jihaad, as a Mujaahid, what will they say? "How can you allow child soldiers!?"

Isn't that right?

But the fact is that only Kaafir society will regard that man as being a "child soldier". In Islaam, he is an adult. This issue of when a person comes to be regarded as a responsible adult affects many other things. Adults have to take responsibility for the consequences of their statements and their actions. For example, and this is an example which those who have grown up all their lives with the Kaafir mindset will struggle to accept:

If a 15-year old commits Irtidaad (apostasy), he is to be killed.

It goes even further than that:

Let's say he had become Baaligh at the age of 13. Now, he commits Irtidaad or does some action which requires the death penalty. Despite being 13-years old, it will be carried out on him, because in Islaam, he will be regarded as an adult and not as a child. He is Baaligh. And again, 15 is the cut-off age. No becoming an adult later than that.

So those who are that age and older should realise that they have been adults for a long time already and thus should act accordingly.

والسلام

Yes I agree. Thanks for this very good post. The reason why the modern kuffar have massively extended childhood beyond what it biologically is, is because they have been emasculated by the matriarchal ideology of feminism, which is in itself actually misandry and the stifling oppression and mollycoddling of young people. It is all part of the Marxist agenda. If however we look back at Europe of the past, people were much more logical and level headed and the official age of adulthood was 12 years of age.

**Karl** · 02-07-2017

Originally Posted by TDWT

I don't think a 13 year old is mentally mature enough to be considered an adult. Their brains are still developing immensely. I'm a little disturbed that you advocate that a 13 year old should be killed honestly.

Originally Posted by TDWT

I never said I was ok with 15 year olds or 13 year olds having sex. That's not right to me.

Still even with the way they are raised, it's no denying their brains are still developing.

A 13 year old? Please at least speak only for YOURSELF and those of YOUR race, NOT mine! FYI, those of MY race are not only grown young adults by 12, we are also psychologically mature by then too. Being psychologically mature in and of itself is NOT however a mandatory part of being adult; it is purely only the biological factor which is the only necessary criterion.

All that nonsense about "psychological development" taking until the grand old age of 25 is nothing but atheistic kuffar pseudoscientific lies all designed to oppress people for an even longer part of their life. These new deceitful "findings" all carried out by the kuffar feminists actually more than DOUBLES what was previously understood in the not so long ago past when proper science knew that the brains of most races reaches full reason and cognition by 7 years and full adult size by 11.5 years. Again please speak for your OWN kind, NOT mine when you say "a 13 or 15 year old is still developing" because I can tell you that those of MY race would regard that as tantamount to RETARDATION rather than as a "normal part of development".

As for sex, if you are "not ok" with "a" 13 or 15 year old having sex then please keep your judgements to your OWN offspring and do not ever dare attempt to force your own prudish stifling matriarchalist standards on those of MY kind, My own fatherly standards are completely OPPOSITE to yours which is why you need to raise YOUR offspring as you see fit, and I will raise MINE as I see fit. You see, I am anti-ageist and am opposed to any kind of arbitrary "age restriction" because I regard the whole mentality of state imposed age restrictions to be not only utterly RETARDED (because they judge a person merely by their age rather than by individual merit), they are also an arrogant violation of my parental sovereignty. As the FATHER of my own offspring I have no problem with them having sex at ANY age, provided of course they are MARRIED FIRST. I believe that the earlier my daughters can be married off the BETTER it is for them.