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    The term role model generally means any “person who serves as an example, whose behaviour is emulated by others”.This term first appeared in Robert K. Merton‘ssocialization research of medical students. knowledge and literature this term hasbecame very general and known.Today let`s discuss role models with respect to kids & teenagers. Observations tell usthat life of kids revolve around few major role models, either parents, famouscelebrities (actors or sports person) or peers groups..The superstars, celebrities, and sports men who are generally projected in the media,who get fame are generally not good humans ‘character wise’. Indeed they areamazing philanthropists but they are often caught drunk, in affairs and scandals..Those evil thing when presented in a nice glamorous way embellished with spicy mediagossip, makes it even more attractive. With that today’s media is not just gossipingaround to take competitive advantage but also promoting wrong family values andmodeling unethical and moral behavior for children. The movies and tv serials badlyexploit women, and project very abusive language. Many parents complaint that theirdaughters would want to imitate some of today’s trendy appearances and behaviorsand that their sons adopt hair style or clothing of trendy people like David Beckham or Brad Pitt.While children do indeed look to the media for role models, and this is also true thatwe can`t stop them from external environment, from internet, television and so forth yetparents still have a tremendous amount of influence in their children’s lives and this isproved by several surveys. According to a BBC survey Teenagers look to their parentsas role models much more than celebrities such as David Beckham or Pete Doherty.It is imperative that parents should be positive, pro-social models that lead byexample so that their children learn to be emotionally intelligent and deal with allkinds of people while nurturing loving relationships as they grow up. In a busy worldwhere evil is becoming much more attractive and easy to adopt children may grow upphysically but they still need spiritual growth and realization that evil is somethingwrong and should be hated, despite the fact that it might be glitteringParents should thus show their children that honesty, courage, mercy, love andtolerance are as important as brilliant feats of mind and body are to retain the world’ssanity. This is something which we own to our childrens.It might should difficult but with practice you`ll become expert in handling your kids. Children look up to their parents with love and trust and at least in the formative yearsthey try to follow closely the example set by their parents.To increase your influence as parents, and decrease the influence of celebrities youneed to limit the amount of time, kids spend watching television and videos..You shouldprovide them alternative and should engage them in physical activities, such as charitywork, ‘ show them that there are other ways to correct charity too , other then charityconcerts or dramas. .. etcParents should also increase the time of children you spend with them. And make sure,that you don`t bash them, rather communicate with them. Open the channels ofcommunication, when they are in problem, help them. Tell them. Children are morelikely to imitate parents if parents spend time with them.Being parent you should ensure that you meet nice people, people who are Godfearing, who follow Right Islam and make sure that your children are in friends withtheir children. In this way for them keeping beard, or wearing abaya won`t be alien asthey`ll see many more friends of their doing the same, this would solve their peerproblems too.Being parents you should always try to figure out the core reason of why your childrenwants something or behave in a particular manner and then provide alternatives,suppose if you don`t want your children to celebrate Birthdays then maybe the corereason he wants to celebrate is to accumulate gifts. .. In such case, you muchoccasionally keep on giving him gifts.In addition, parents should be very careful of how they behave themselves. ‘A fish rotsfrom the Top’ : it is extremely well known that “ Children don`t do what you tell them todo, rather they do what they see you doing”. Always remember, if you are telling a lie.How can you expect your child to stop lying?. Thus to improve them, you must improveyourself too.

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    Re: What kind of role model are you for your kids?

    Spend time teaching your kids Islam. Read the Quran together. Give them the right perception about the world. Teach them wala and bara so they don't imitate the kuffar. And finally, let them learn about the best role model for all mankind and jinn, Muhammad s.a.a.w.
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    Re: What kind of role model are you for your kids?

    Im very greatful to have parents who are great role models. Im blessed to have a father who really made sure to teach me about the deen etc and a mother who encourages me everyday.
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