The Danger of Pornography series by Pyrrhic

format_quote Originally Posted by Pyrrhic

i am working on the last part "Solution of this fitnah" inshallah...

MashaAllah brother,

May Allah reward you abundantly for all your efforts. Ameen.


The 'Solution to Porn'? - My personal opinion:

We are not going to be able to curb this disease to any great extent unless there is limitation of access to this type of material on-line.

The problem with this type of addiction - from the eyes of the kufaar, the muslim who is weak in taqwa, the adolescent - is that to THEM, self-pleasure is possible, without resorting to a 'greater' form of zina, e.g illicit relationships, prostitution, etc.

The long-term effects of this behaviour on the mind, the destruction it causes to ones soul as well as families - these advices may be heeded by some.
As well as the calls to fear Allah Taa'la and be aware that He is the All-Seer, the All-Knower and that one day we all going to be accountable for our actions and deeds, even it be a mustard weight in measure.
SubhanAllah.

The problem is that for the majority, and esp. minors - this is unfortunately not sufficient to keep one away from something so stimulating and addictive, esp when it comes with no (immediate) strings attached.
We are living in a 'Me', 'Me', 'Me' society - that has little respect for the long-term or 'unseen' damages that results from many of our actions.
And a society that is fast becoming completely devoid of a moral compass.
Without the realisation of ultimate accountability, why would anyone ever care about anything but themselves?

Personally, I think we need to form collective forces in each country - consisting of all religious bodies, political leaders, doctors, psychologists, family and marriage counsellors, parents, teachers and anyone who is remotely interested in addressing this issue.

Why?

For the sake of our children, our future society, our women, our ummah.

Together - pressure needs to be applied to the powers that be, to work towards either a ban on on-line porn, or at least restricted access (esp. via cell-phone networks which are the number 1 means of exposure to our youth).

Without removing the garbage, the flies will always be present.

And without making it really, really difficult to get hold of this type of material - we are simply caught in a vicious circle that is just growing by the day.

This problem has already spiralled way out of control.
We are a few decades late in addressing solutions to this.

But better late than never.
Insha Allah.

Ameen.


Salaam

Assalamu-alaikum,

I fully agree with you brother Pyrrhic.
And it is honestly heart-warming to see someone, a male more-over, to be so passionate about this problem, and actually try to make a difference.
MashaAllah Akhi.
Every big change, began as small changes, by a few motivated and inspired people.


I just wanted to share the letter below.
I had sent this to a certain car fanatics forum (whom ive kept anonymous) back in 2010, when I realised that it was providing freely available XXXXX-rated material to its members (who btw, also include minors interested in cars).
(I will not go into the details as to what eventually made me write such a letter.......but at the time, I felt it was something I had to do - so that even if it failed, I could tell myself that at least I tried.......)

Hi,

I am new to this site, but i have in the past had access to your forum via my room-mate who is currently a member.

I write to you, out of concern and curiosity....

Why has such an excellent forum been degraded by the addition of freely available pornographic material??? I am aware that access is only permitted once 25 posts have been made - but is this some sort of 'reward' for membership?

Perhaps you may or may not be aware as to the reasons of my concern:

1. Pornography is a rapidly increasing ADDICTION, due to its free availability on-line. (yes, this is unfortunately true...)

2. Its harms are well-known:

www.troubledwith.com/AbuseandAddiction/A000000775.cfm?topic=abuse and addiction%3a pornography and cybersex


3. Its degrading to women, including the female subscribers of this forum.

http://www.troubledwith.com/AbuseandAddiction/A000000775.cfm?topic=abuse and addiction%3a pornography and cybersex

....to name a few.

I realise that it is not your duty to keep the internet a 'porn-free' enviroment, and anyone can access just about anything with/ without your site. But, must even a car forum be a source of spreading this sort of filth around?

I personally know a few of the members as well...who agree that they would have never attempted to actively look for on-line pornographic material, but now engage in it because its right there,glaring at you in red, to 'open me and enjoy'!!
Also, do we realise that there are also under-aged members on this forum?

Again, I understand that it is not your moral obligation to keep the internet clean, and the administrators can not beheld accountable for the viewing choices of its members....but please take into consideration the above-mentioned points, and the fact that we are XYZ FANATICS- this is what members wished to share ideas about when joining the forum!

Can I humbly suggest the following:

- If the administrators are into porn,please do not share this habit with the rest of us. It can be enjoyed privately by those concerned.

- Im sure if a poll is conducted about this issue, the majority will say continue - men will be men after all, and it takes strong will-power to turn away from something so stimulating!
So, for those who wish to engage in it,perhaps a seperate invitation/ subscription can be sent to members....who can then 'drool', and share comments at an external link, by themselves.

- Better yet, keep an otherwise fanatastic,informative forum strictly to cars...as the name would suggest. By the way, it appears that the forum is breaking its own rules and conditions, that everyone agrees to when joining:

' By registering on this discussion system you agree that you will not post any material which is knowingly false,inaccurate, abusive, hateful, harassing, sexually orientated, threatening or invasive of a person's privacy, or any other material which may violate any applicable laws.'

Thank you for taking the time to read this.I have not posted this on the forum intentionally, as I believe that this is an issue that the administrators need to look into, not its members.

Regards,

A XYZ Fanatic

Almost a week later, I received a reply by the administrators - stating that this section of the forum will no longer be available to members (unless one specifically wrote into to admin, requesting a password for access).

Yes, it was a very small change to that local forum.
But it now meant that minors who frequented the site, no longer were exposed to such images by default and that one had to actively make an attempt of seeking it (which in itself could be quite embarassing to do).


The reason I am posting this, is to encourage everyone else to make the EFFORT to try and make a CHANGE.
It does not need to concern this matter specifically.......it can be about anything that you are passionate about.

No action is too small - if it is backed by passion and desire to see a certain outcome.

Anything is possible, by the will of Allah Taa'la.
Always remember that - but WE need to make an effort as well, to see change.



Wa-alaikumsalam

format_quote Originally Posted by cOsMiCiNtUiTiOn

I think that perhaps we shouldnt assume of what is contained in this series. It is exactly the thought that its a man's thing and then men are inclined towards this that is wrong. Women are affected just as bad, but from a different angle. Its not about the naked women (and if u think that this is what this series has, that isn't true), that isn't even what porn is about, porn is the last of it, porn itself is a tool used for the main agenda here. To think that by making naked pictures and billboards go away, is making pornography go away, it is a misconception and for that reason alone I as you to reconsider and give this series an opportunity. You need to understand orchestration behind all of this properly, the more you turn away from what u need to know the more u blind yourself. How can you protect your future children and your future husband from this if you don't know how it works? Tell them too look down any time they see a woman? That won't work because that is not the only way we are exposed to this. You may not watch porn and have never been one to do so in your life, but that doesn't mean u don't have the mentality to an extent, that these people do, because everyone is exposed to it, on a daily basis. You cannot know white without black, and as I said if you don't know how this works exactly, you cannot fix it. You are in the medical field as you have mentioned several times, modern medicine and pharmaceuticals are involved here.

Watch the series ukhti. You will benefit from it, I promise.

-cOsMiC

Like Sister Zariah, I wasn't going to watch the vids either and was avoiding the thread until I saw in the 'Latest Posts' that sisters had been posting on it. I'm interested in what you said about modern medicine and pharmaceuticals being involved in the porn industry. But first I'd like to ask if the vids contain any indecent material (remembers 'the arrivals'). I don't feel it's necessary to expose yourself to indecent material to learn something beneficial. Hope you get what I mean?

^Thanks bro, and welcome to brother Pyrrhic. May Allah reward you increase you and us in goodness. Ameen.

Mashallah, thankyou sister rose, and thankyou brother scimitar... I made this series for our youth, for family point of view, i watch it with my family first, and then i upload and share on internet....One by One, each episode... I can not add valgure scene because we are against these things... Allah forgive my mistakes, and my sins... Please correct me when ever and where ever you find me... Because i am here to learn and share with my Muslime brothers and sisters...
So please share your knowledge about this pornography fitnah, as Mashallah Sister Zaria share her deed against this fitnah... Mashallah Allah give you reward for this sister zaria... Peace and blessings... Asalam-0-Alekum

All I know is how it has affected me. I haven't looked at any porn in a while, but I still sometimes think about it and have visions of what I have seen. I had certain misconceptions about women because of porn, and these are things that I am still trying to get over.

Brother who am i, you are not the only one who feel like this... this is the problem with the whole genration... the difference is, that some accept and others dont... Pornography is we know a dehumanizing weapon.. Its especially against the women... If we dont have strong women in our society then we dont have a strong society... If women is not protected, have no rights...then the rest of the society will suffer... Women is the most important thing for any sucessful society...Thats why in our Islaam... Our Islamic teachings teach us to protect women, give her equally freedom...so thats how we seen Great and legends and leaders because their Mother, sisters were strong... But unfortunatly we humans never understand how this big issue is... Unfortunatly Satan impower the male to dominate women in term of relgious or liberal way...in term to mislead women... But very unfortunate about pornography... I dont know if there any other fitnah remain against women and our childrens.... Satan always hate family.. against Marriages..

One thing i want to share with u inshallah very soon about pornography fitnah, That its really difficult... Because its solution is very and belive me very simple... Thats why it is really difficult... But If you inshallah you will be get out of it...Then coguratulations that inshallah you will defeat satan on any stage and Satan can not stop u to reach in heaven.... Mashallah dont worry we are the chosen one of last prophet Ummah.... We are special ... thats why you have to face this fitnah... I know the end and yes we know the end inshallah inshallah we will rest in heaven and Satan will burned in hell..... Just try ur best to fall in love with Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W.... Asalam-0-Alekum

There are two halves to this, really. Two halves to the destruction of the family which has led to the degradation of our society.

Half of this is because of pornography. The other half I believe is because of the women's liberation movement. Ironically, it was supposed to help women, empower them, give them more liberty, and yet it has destroyed them, and destroyed men as well. Most people don't even realize just how bad it is. I myself didn't see it until recently. But now that I know, I can see how much it has messed up my own life.

Brother please share your experiances of life and give us advice....

Here is a video...

Single Men look at Pornography because they want a Woman.

Thats how satan play with human's weakness, But the most amazing part is that solution of these things are really so simple... But did you observe that on youtube, on internet there are thousand of conspiracy theories, this, That, what, We, they.... The fact is very simple but the servents of satans make it more complex, so the human remain confuse, So what i am trying to say is that They try to make truth, or solution more complex and creat fear...
Its natural your enemy will always enjoy your weakness.... If you wanted to survive then you have to become strong... Dont worry, Because you are the Ummah of Last prophet Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W.... so Satan will treat you special... The reality is that satan's tricks are so weak, Inshallah every thing will be alright, Pray for my health... As i get recover from illness inshallah we will end this issue once and for all.... Remember i am not here with an empty hands, Alhamdulilah we will find the simplest solution of this Fitnah.... Allah help us and forgive us and show us the right path.... Asalam-0-Alekum

Well I will say this: I turned to porn not because I wanted to, but because it was a matter of survival for me. I was lonely, I was angry about it, and I was depressed. I still had the same urges that any normal man has for a woman, only I didn't have a woman to help me deal with it. So I did what I had to do. I'm not proud of it, but it's the truth. I did what I had to do to survive.

Now that I have a woman in my life, I don't want porn anymore. I don't need it anymore. So now I am having to undo my base instinct when it comes to dealing with my urges for companionship. It is not easy, but it is something that I must do if I am to have a healthy relationship with this woman, or any woman for that matter.

WARNING:Mature READ Relating TO TOPIC
How Pornography
Harms Children

Excerpted in part from Kids Online: Protecting Your Children In Cyberspace
by Donna Rice Hughes (Revell, September 1998)

While there are many ways that pornography harms children, I want to assure you that every child who views pornography will not necessarily be affected and, at worst, traumatized in the same way. The effects of pornography are progressive and addictive for many people. Just as every person who takes a drink does not automatically become an alcoholic, every child who is exposed to pornography does not automatically become a sexual deviant or sex addict. However, since pornography has a new door to the home, school, and library through the Internet, it is important for us to look at the many ways that pornography can potentially harm our children.
Exposure to Pornography Threatens to Make Children
Victims of Sexual Violence

The Internet has proven a useful tool for pedophiles and sexual predators as they distribute child pornography, engage in sexually explicit conversations with children, and seek victims in chat rooms. The more pornography these individuals access, the higher the risk of their acting out what they see, including sexual assault, rape, and child molestation.

• Pornography's Relationship to Rape and Sexual Violence
  According to one study, early exposure (under fourteen years of age) to pornography is related to greater involvement in deviant sexual practice, particularly rape. Slightly more than one-third of the child molesters and rapists in this study claimed to have at least occasionally been incited to commit an offense by exposure to pornography. Among the child molesters incited, the study reported that 53 percent of them deliberately used the stimuli of pornography as they prepared to offend.
  
  The habitual consumption of pornography can result in a diminished satisfaction with mild forms of pornography and a correspondingly strong desire for more deviant and violent material.
• Pornography's Relationship to Child Molestation
  In a study of convicted child molesters, 77 percent of those who molested boys and 87 percent of those who molested girls admitted to the habitual use of pornography in the commission of their crimes.ⁱBesides stimulating the perpetrator, pornography facilitates child molestation in several ways. For example, pedophiles use pornographic photos to demonstrate to their victims what they want them to do. They also use them to arouse a child or to lower a child's inhibitions and communicate to the unsuspecting child that a particular sexual activity is okay: "This person is enjoying it; so will you."

Exposure to Pornography Frequently Results in Sexual Illnesses, Unplanned Pregnancies, and Sexual Addiction

As more and more children are exposed not only to soft-core pornography, but also to explicit deviant sexual material, they are learning an extremely dangerous message from pornographers: Sex without responsibility is acceptable and desirable. Because pornography encourages sexual expression without responsibility, it endangers children's health.
One of the grimmer consequences of adult-like sexual activity among children has been a steady increase in the extent to which youth are afflicted with venereal disease.In the United States about one in four sexually experienced teenagers acquires a sexually transmitted disease (STD) every year, resulting in three million cases of teenage STDs. Infectious syphilis rates have more than doubled among teenagers since the mid-1980s. More children contract sexually transmitted diseases each year than all the victims of polio in its eleven-year epidemic, 1942-1953.

Another obvious result of children involved in adult sexual activity is the increased rate of pregnancy among teenagers.
Research has shown that "males who are exposed to a great deal of erotica before the age of 14 are more sexually active and engage in more varied sexual behaviors as adults than is true for males not so exposed."One study reveals that among 932 sex addicts, 90 percent of the men and 77 percent of the women reported that pornography was significant to their addiction.

Exposure to Pornography May Incite Children to Act Out
Sexually against Other Children

Children often imitate what they've seen, read, or heard. Studies suggest that exposure to pornography can prompt kids to act out sexually against younger, smaller, and more vulnerable children. Experts in the field of childhood sexual abuse report that any premature sexual activity in children always suggests two possible stimulants: experience and exposure. This means that the sexually deviant child may have been molested or simply exposed to sexuality through pornography.

In a study of six hundred American males and females of junior high school age and above, researcher Dr. Jennings Bryant found that 91 percent of the males and 82 percent of the females admitted having been exposed to X-rated, hard-core pornography. Over 66 percent of the males and 40 percent of the females reported wanting to try out some of the sexual behaviors they had witnessed. And among high schoolers, 31 percent of the males and 18 percent of the females admitted actually doing some of the things they had seen in the pornography within a few days after exposure.

Exposure to Pornography Shapes Attitudes and Values

Most of us caring, responsible parents want to instill in our children our own personal values about relationships, sex, intimacy, love, and marriage. Unfortunately, the powerful irresponsible messages of pornography may be educating our children on these very important life issues. Just as thirty-second commercials can influence whether or not we choose one popular soft drink over another, exposure to pornography shapes our attitudes and values and, often, our behavior.
Photographs, videos, magazines, virtual games, and Internet pornography that depict rape and the dehumanization of females in sexual scenes constitute powerful but deforming tools of sex education. The danger to children stems at least partly from the disturbing changes in attitude that are facilitated by pornography. Replicated studies have demonstrated that exposure to significant amounts of increasingly graphic forms of pornography has a dramatic effect on how adult consumers view women, sexual abuse, sexual relationships, and sex in general. These studies are virtually unanimous in their conclusions: When male subjects were exposed to as little as six weeks' worth of standard hard-core pornography, they:

• developed an increased sexual callousness toward women
• began to trivialize rape as a criminal offense or no longer considered it a crime at all
• developed distorted perceptions about sexuality
• developed an appetite for more deviant, bizarre, or violent types of pornography (normal sex no longer seemed to do the job)
• devalued the importance of monogamy and lacked confidence in marriage as either a viable or lasting institution
• viewed nonmonogamous relationships as normal and natural behavior

Exposure to Pornography Interferes with a Child's
Development and Identity

During certain critical periods of childhood, a child's brain is being programmed for sexual orientation. During this period, the mind appears to be developing a "hardwire" for what the person will be aroused by or attracted to. Exposure to healthy sexual norms and attitudes during this critical period can result in the child developing a healthy sexual orientation. In contrast, if there is exposure to pornography during this period, sexual deviance may become imprinted on the child's "hard drive" and become a permanent part of his or her sexual orientation. Psychologist Dr. Victor Cline's findings suggest that memories of experiences that occurred at times of emotional arousal (which could include sexual arousal) are imprinted on the brain by epinephrine, an adrenal gland hormone, and are difficult to erase. (This may partly explain pornography's addicting effect.) Viewing pornography can potentially condition some viewers to have recurring sexual fantasies during which they masturbate. Later they may be tempted to act out the fantasies as sexual advances.
Sexual identity develops gradually through childhood and adolescence. In fact, children generally do not have a natural sexual capacity until between the ages of ten and twelve. As they grow up, children are especially susceptible to influences affecting their development. Information about sex in most homes and schools, comes, presumably, in age-appropriate incremental stages based on what parents, educators, physicians, and social scientists have learned about child development. But pornography short-circuits and/or distorts the normal personality development process and supplies misinformation about a child's sexuality, sense of self, and body that leaves the child confused, changed, and damaged.

Pornography often introduces children prematurely to sexual sensations that they are developmentally unprepared to contend with. This awareness of sexual sensation can be confusing and overstimulating for children.
The sexual excitement and eventual release obtained through pornography are mood altering. For example, if a young boy's early stimulus was pornographic photographs, he can be conditioned to become aroused through photographs. Once this pairing is rewarded a number of times, it is likely to become permanent.The result is that it becomes difficult for the individual to experience sexual satisfaction apart from pornographic images.

Most of us find it difficult to talk to our children about sex in general, let alone the harmful effects of pornography, as graphically described in this chapter. We want to protect the innocence and purity of childhood.

Source:http://www.jamiat.org.za/index.php?o...ding&Itemid=63

Brother "Who am I" Dont missunderstand my words, Remember you are just reading my
sentences, not viewing my physical emotics... So there can be confusions... I read your argu
about Pornography, that you watch because you were lonely, and angry and depressed.... The
most meaningful and important or your finalizing sentence...that I did what i had to do to
survive... Unfortunately Satan make us to think that your benafit is in that thing, If you want to survive you have to adobe this Dajjali Culture.... thats not only your thinking, thats the mostly men argu and think... But Once you figure it out that its not a surviving kit, its a dehumanizing weapon...ahaaaa unfortunate, if you can see satan, Belive me He has a big smile on his face... Because he said me many times while i
was on the project that there are already thousands of videos and documents articles against
this pornography fitnah, what yours series going to do? He make fun of my english language in
comunication way and etc... But by the Blessing of Allah i made them... Alhamdulilah today i
am sharing and talking... i dont know where and how it ends but as i am breathing the same
way i am struggling and doing what i got a job... Brother... I am not here with empty hands...
Let me translate some thing with you regarding the solution..... Remember Dont confuse or
make it complex...thats satan trick ok... Its simple and inshallah it works inshallah Just i am
saying again Dont get confuse or mix things up ok satan will try it... i am saying again its very
Simple Dont allow satan to wisper in ur ear so he make this procedure more complex... it
works Inshallah

i am not saying you to start saying 5 time prayer or having fast... the first step is simple

1st Step, try your best to fall in love with Prophet Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W... read about
them, Think how they led their life, how they eat, how they Walk, how they speak, How they
sleep... Read about their life... Fall in love with Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W... until One day you
have tears in your eyes.... You must do this step until u start crying in Hazrat Muhammad
S.A.W's Love... (spirtualy you feel the conection between you and Prophet Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W, i cant explain in words)...

2nd Step, Sit alone aside where no one can see you, hide yourself from others and on your
knees and sit toward Kabah, Imagine that Allah is seeing you.... hm... share with Allah with
clear and loud voice, That Forgive me, My Allah i have no hope, no companion, No one who can
help me, except you, You are my Lord... If you deny me then on earth i have no shelter...
Please show me a way, Help me... I dont want to watch that pornography Fitnah, Save me..
(Remember say and share every thing which is in your heart, Dont think that its crazy or
childish, You have to become a child ok Share every thing) Remember you have to keep this
process until you start crying... and feel some spirtual way (i cant explain in words u will
automaticaly understand)

This is how you will make a relationship With Allah and his prophet Hazrat Muhammad
S.A.W... Now when you will feel spirtualy a conection between Allah and his prophet peace and
blessing Hazrat Muhammad S.A.W... Now you have to protect this relation... Remember when
you have a relationship then the satan will attack you more and more...So now how you are
going to protect this conection or relationship?

Step 3, 5 times prayer will protect your relationship or conection with Allah and Prophet Hazrat
Muhammad S.A.W... Remember Satan will make you fail he will bring you to pornography but
Dont miss prayers, for example if you fall in his trap, Dont worry, Just Do Gusal(Bath), clean
yourself, Do Wudu and say that prayer... In first time You probably fail, but when you will not
leave your prayer then satan will be disapionted...

Tips Clean your heart from all kind of greed, or any bad thing... Forgive who do bad but
Dont do bad with others... Clean your heart... Inocent hearts will be embrace in Allah...
aaaaaaah haha inshallah next time because my hand is injured and Allah knows how i type
this all... Remember when ever and where ever you fail, Just Go back to the basics.... Dont
giveup... Yes you can not solve this problem...Only Allah can save you from this... Understand
that you are nothing... Dont worry, Mashallah you are the ummah of last prophet... Inshallah
Humanity will win against satan's hate Asalam-0-Alekum
Pray for my health

So is this is the end ? thats all!!!