salam my brothers and sisters
i was just wondering if its actually haram not to reply,
maybe im thinking too much but nowdays i've stopped saying salam
to women on the street. i just get dirty looks, or igored, or blank stares,
and its really put me off because these igorent women dont understand the true meaning of this. anyway replies would be nice, im kinda curious.
I guess , now a days people don't like to talk to strangers ; they suspect that one has bad motive if s/he comes near to you and try to talk to you.
Normally I don't say Salaam to unknown people though sometimes I like to do that . But I feel shy about thinking of their possible neg reactions. Don't know if it's a sin not to give Salam and not to reply . According to a hadith , Muslims must spread this greetings .
Christ will never be proud to reject to be a slave to God .....holy Quran, chapter Women , 4: 172
I get it alot, happened today, muslim guy in garage with big beard just blanked me, its not nice but its not my problem. Can be off putting but makes it even more important for ppl like me who are not "muslim looking" to say salaam
"O ye who belive! Endure, outdo all others in endurance, be ready, and observe your duty to Allah, in order that you may succeed"
I get it alot, happened today, muslim guy in garage with big beard just blanked me, its not nice but its not my problem. Can be off putting but makes it even more important for ppl like me who are not "muslim looking" to say salaam
That is disgusting, in situations like that you've got to make them embarassed and ashamed so they'll know not to do it again
repeat your salams in a much louder tone pretending they might not have heard the first time, if that don't work (the guy must have a heart of stone) have a go at him
That is disgusting, in situations like that you've got to make them embarassed and ashamed so they'll know not to do it again
repeat your salams in a much louder tone pretending they might not have heard the first time, if that don't work (the guy must have a heart of stone) have a go at him
lol, easy guy, what if he still blanks me....should I poke him in the eye and kick his shins hahaha. Yes tho I think nexttime I will repeat louder, good advice bro
"O ye who belive! Endure, outdo all others in endurance, be ready, and observe your duty to Allah, in order that you may succeed"
lol 'have a go' as in give him an earfull make him red out of embarassment
yes brother, I got you first time. Its just sad that some brothers give off a vibe like Islam is only for them etc. I dont think i would make much of an issue about it, I am gonna try redress the balance of acceptance in other ways insha'Allah. Dble shame that its Ramadhaan. Anyhow Allah sees whats in us and thats good enough for me bro.
To be honest he might have thought I was taking the ****, as tension here is palpable at best
"O ye who belive! Endure, outdo all others in endurance, be ready, and observe your duty to Allah, in order that you may succeed"
I personally think you should just carry on doing what you're doing cos there's no way to tell if he's doing it for ulterior motives or just to genuinly spread the salaam. And nodding your head is a good acknowledgement, they won't be offended cos it's not like you ignored them.
wow, i thought it was just girls igoreing girls but it happens to brothers too. thats so odd to me cos i thought brothers were more...closer for some reason. anyway thank you aadil77, much appericated bro. salam
nah lol it depends, you have to get used to it because no 1 ever does it so it feels really weird when a complete stranger gives salaam because it never ever happens. it's sad but it feels strange to walk past some 1 u never met and give them salaam sad times.
Salam,
Even when I sometimes have to ask a Muslim sister a question, I choose to ask a sister on the street when I need something instead of a non-Muslim because I like it more. I am not hijabi so they look weird at me first when I say salam and then ask my question. And well, nobody has ever answered my salam, they just look and answer. But I guess in this case it's because they don't understand why I say salam since I don't "look" like a Muslim lol.
You do not need to say Saalam to anyone you think is a Muslim,only the people you know who are Muslims. Insha'Allaah the fatwa given by Brother Aadil will assist you in clarifying this doubt. Though it is obligatory(fardh) to reply an equal or greater Saalam when given to. The holy Prophet Muhammad(peace be upon him) said "He who speaks without firstly giving Saalam,then do not answer to what he has to say". Reported by Ibn Umar.
It is reported by Abu Umamah that the Holy Prophet(peace be upon him) said " whoever commences Saalam is very close to Allaah and his messanger".Narrated by Abu Huraihahthat Prophet Muhammad(peace be upon him" said "There are rights of a Muslim over a
Muslim: Responding to the Saalam,visiting the sick, following up a bier, accepting an invitation(for a meal),and blessing the one who sneezes."
If that person who you said Asalam alaykum to did not reply then you should kindly inform them that they should and recite this hadeeth.
Alslamulakum means, you're pretty much blessing a person(well asking god to bless that person). The reply is the person asking for the same blessing upon you. If the person doesn't reply, then it doesn't make it a sin. Also try to remember, that people have bad days, some people don't feel comfortable talking to strangers(everyone has a different personality). So don't think ill towards a person who doesn't reply especially when you just asked god to bless that person. You should probably say your salam to the quiet people more because the might need more blessings, unless it annoys the person, then do your best to be nice.
I don't live around many Muslims at all but when i ever i travel and see Muslims, i always say salam to them and they get happy and reply back.
Alslamulakum means, you're pretty much blessing a person(well asking god to bless that person). The reply is the person asking for the same blessing upon you. If the person doesn't reply, then it doesn't make it a sin. Also try to remember, that people have bad days, some people don't feel comfortable talking to strangers(everyone has a different personality). So don't think ill towards a person who doesn't reply especially when you just asked god to bless that person. You should probably say your salam to the quiet people more because the might need more blessings, unless it annoys the person, then do your best to be nice.
I don't live around many Muslims at all but when i ever i travel and see Muslims, i always say salam to them and they get happy and reply back.
Jazak Allah Khair sister, a very good post and a very good point highlighted.
on a better note I spoke to a brother today in town, said salam and asked for a direction, very nice reply and friendly helpful man, May Allah bless him and his familly, Ameen
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. Its just sad that some brothers give off a vibe like Islam is only for them etc. I dont think i would make much of an issue about it, I am gonna try redress the balance of acceptance in other ways insha'Allah. Dble shame that its Ramadhaan. Anyhow Allah sees whats in us and thats good enough for me bro.
sad times.
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