It is no easy,since the indian muslims want to merry indians,pakistanies-wife from Pakistan,same with others....exept some arabs,whish desires only a beuty from Europe or America:no problem if doesn't were higaab,no problem if doesn't pray... Islam for them is something they've got from mom and dad aa a tradition....
So how new muslima without family and muslim relatives can get married?
But what is the hurry to get married. When its time you will meet Mr. Right. :-) it always happens when your not looking for it.
doesn't work like that for converts (or convert guys at least). when you don't look, you don't ever get considered. its about the same though, because you don't get considered even if you do look.
you are getting old
you want to practice Islam,which is quite hard,when you are alone white woman in your 20s and everywhere you go there is a men talking to you
you must work-is not easy to find a job with hijabl/abaia/nikab
you are lonely
you want children
you need love
you need friend
you want to live in muslim land,to make hijrah alone is very hard:no visa,no money,its dangerous
to get married is a sunna of Russul-Allah SAS
Some sisters are waiting mr.Right many years.....he is not coming bcos:
they are Europeans:means the family of persian/arabic man will not accept her
they are divorced/having kids
they are more strict in Islam then the mr.Muslim need
....
you are getting old
you want to practice Islam,which is quite hard,when you are alone white woman in your 20s and everywhere you go there is a men talking to you
you must work-is not easy to find a job with hijabl/abaia/nikab
you are lonely
you want children
you need love
you need friend
you want to live in muslim land,to make hijrah alone is very hard:no visa,no money,its dangerous
to get married is a sunna of Russul-Allah SAS
Some sisters are waiting mr.Right many years.....he is not coming bcos:
they are Europeans:means the family of persian/arabic man will not accept her
they are divorced/having kids
they are more strict in Islam then the mr.Muslim need
....
getting old at 20....how does that work....
you cannot force marriage to happen if the date of it happening is 5 years from now....
This is examples brother.
I am in my 20s so I have to wait !?,other sisters are in their 30s,40s
And the sunna is women to get married young,do you disagree?
This is examples brother.
I am in my 20s so I have to wait !?,other sisters are in their 30s,40s
And the sunna is women to get married young,do you disagree?
no i do agree.....moaning about it wont get you anywhere...if you stay patient and ask allah that is better for you
Our Lord! Verily, we have heard the call of one calling to Faith: 'Believe in your Lord,' and we have believed.
Our Lord! Forgive us our sins and expiate from us our evil deeds, and make us die (in the state of righteousness) along with Al-Abrar
He-he brother,I've got married already,alhamdulillah!
but so many sisters face those problems..
Sister i assure u many men nowadays refuse to get married.Moreover,many date.Women to find a husband think that going out with a man can be contributory cause to get married.
Sisters
Allah (SWT) The Just distributes all types of blessings among the people in different percentages. Therefore, whoever lacks in one area should realize that he has been blessed in other areas, especially if we consider the spiritual blessings, which sometimes overweigh material ones.
Hence, while striving to improve your circumstances, maintain two important qualities: piety and the continuous asking for Allah’s forgiveness.
Yea, I'm starting to ramp up my search too. I need to start hitting the gym again
I think that the easiest Islamic way is to observe in the Mosque which guys seem respectable, ask around and then approach the guy. Keep it clean and if he's interested tell him that you want to try and do this Islamically because you don't want Allah's wrath on you two.
If he's a good Muslim, I can't see why he would object to say a mahram. It's important, to let your families know about this. Once you guys find each other acceptable, introduce your families to each other.
Shoot for marriage from there. (my opinion which may or may not be totally correct)
If I meet a Muslim girl here in New York, a good test is to say Salam and to see if she responds back properly. Usually irreligious Muslim girls will either not know what the hek I just said in Arabic or find it weird. I find hijjabi ones to be a safer bet since I am sure they are at least Muslim and it takes courage to walk around with it here.
Anyways sister, trust me on this. Muslim guys are DEFINITELY looking for a wife so there are always fish in the sea.
Last edited by AntiKarateKid; 08-17-2009 at 02:55 PM.
first off, if you are a new muslima DO NOT be in a rush to get married. in my area, there is the phenomenon of "shahadah today, married tomorrow"
i hate to generalize or cast suspicion on people but some brothers value having a convert wife (i.e. a white woman). when these sisters are married, these aforementioned brothers take advantage of their newness to the deen and relative lack of knowledge of the deen and do whatever they want (examples i've heard of: "i dont owe mahr/you get a low mahr because you are not born muslim", "trust me islam has been in my family for X centuries", etc etc"). the danger here is these sisters see this oppression or cultural practices and think it is from islam and get severely discouraged or sometimes leave the deen because of it.
take time to thoroughly study the deen, the fiqh of marriage, and the rights/responsibilities of the husband and wife before you even think about trying to get married.
also, those matrimonial websites are a HUGE fitnah. avoid them at all costs.
Ramadhan Mubarak
I do agree that to know your rights as a Muslim wife is necessary. Do not rush into marriage. It is a mercy from Allaah (swt). Be sure you know what to look for in a Muslim husband.
doesn't work like that for converts (or convert guys at least). when you don't look, you don't ever get considered. its about the same though, because you don't get considered even if you do look.
SubhanAllaah, I agree with you akh. It is difficult. However, insh'Allaah once we fall upon a good and wonderful spouse, it would be worth it.
Is this one of the things that it is permissible to envy someone for, or is this a sin?
Or, even worse, is it a joke?
Must I quote Quran and hadith on such a basic matter?
I see too much bad advice and nonsense on these forums, remember your religion when posting, avoid useless chatter with the opposite sex, promote the good and forbid the evil.
Ask Allah to forgive you posting such trite comments, which are in reality sins against yourself.
The time you waste posting trite comments, you will be questioned about.
Spend some time reading Quran instead, like perhaps Surat Al Falaq...
or this...
" And if you question them, they declare emphatically: "We were only talking idly and joking." Say: "Was it at Allah, His Aayat and His Messenger you were mocking?" Make no excuses! You have rejected faith after you had accepted it, if We pardon some of you, We will punish others amongst you because they were sinners" (Qur'an 9:65-66)
or hadith like this
1569. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Beware of envy. Envy devours good actions as fire devours wood." (or he said, "dry grass"). [Abu Dawud]
Islam is not just a pass-time, you must put it into play in every aspect of your life.
If any of the above is correct it is from Allah, alhamdulillah, if I am wrong it is from Shaitan and the evil of my own soul, and I ask Allah to protect us from that.
Inshallah forgiveness for you and me, and all the Muslims, from Allah this Ramadan.
Is this one of the things that it is permissible to envy someone for, or is this a sin?
Or, even worse, is it a joke?
Must I quote Quran and hadith on such a basic matter?
I see too much bad advice and nonsense on these forums, remember your religion when posting, avoid useless chatter with the opposite sex, promote the good and forbid the evil.
Ask Allah to forgive you posting such trite comments, which are in reality sins against yourself.
The time you waste posting trite comments, you will be questioned about.
Spend some time reading Quran instead, like perhaps Surat Al Falaq...
or this...
" And if you question them, they declare emphatically: "We were only talking idly and joking." Say: "Was it at Allah, His Aayat and His Messenger you were mocking?" Make no excuses! You have rejected faith after you had accepted it, if We pardon some of you, We will punish others amongst you because they were sinners" (Qur'an 9:65-66)
or hadith like this
1569. Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Beware of envy. Envy devours good actions as fire devours wood." (or he said, "dry grass"). [Abu Dawud]
Next time, say "Mashallah you have good parents"
This is the appropriate response, which avoids envy.
Islam is not just a pass-time, you must put it into play in every aspect of your life.
If any of the above is correct it is from Allah, alhamdulillah, if I am wrong it is from Shaitan and the evil of my own soul, and I ask Allah to protect us from that.
Inshallah forgiveness for you and me, and all the Muslims, from Allah this Ramadan.
Salam for all first thanks Haqeeka' because I think you are encourage person and thanks for all member but all Muslim should support other Muslim and not make other Muslim disappoint and I think this good topic because discuss important thing concerning about new Muslim who live in western country because almost people there not Muslim. I think many arabic -Muslim people need marry from out of their countries and much african married from muslim women from Russian do not disappoint any one more and should support that sisters who not married go get muslim husband and I think we can do it future insha Allah just we support each other
Salam for all first thanks Haqeeka' because I think you are encourage person and thanks for all member but all Muslim should support other Muslim and not make other Muslim disappoint and I think this good topic because discuss important thing concerning about new Muslim who live in western country because almost people there not Muslim. I think many arabic -Muslim people need marry from out of their countries and much african married from muslim women from Russian do not disappoint any one more and should support that sisters who not married go get muslim husband and I think we can do it future insha Allah just we support each other
Jazzakllhu khairan brother!
In non muslim countries even muslims with strong imaan get... lost.
I make my Hijra and don't want to go back to Europe...I see the muslims in UK have a strong muslim comunity,masha-Allah!May Allah SUT reward them!
Jazzak-Allah for te brothers who clear out the ,,envy problem,,
just ask allah my dear
try to talk to imam and he will try to find a good muslim man
pray at night and Seeking forgiveness
iam saudi...and until now i dont find a good muslim from my sorry
i find amrican man who asks me for marry but my family from my sorry dont want me marry from another country
so just ask allah who know exactly why u want a good muslim
May Allah increase youth provision and help them and i to marry soon.YA RAB we have no one But you all doors are closed in front of us .Do not deprived us from u mercy and remove all obstacles that stand between us and halal .
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