Asalaamu Alaikum, this is a thread dedicated to new Muslims who need help and support with anything at all. Whether they need Islamic resources, need help with any Islamic questions, issues or topics, or just want to share anything at all about their reversion or have any issues post reversion like with their families etc.
Please feel free to post and we will try our best to help in anyway that we can.
I'm going to be frank and honest here, and I'm not doing it to dishonor anyone in this forum. I want you all to know that.
One reason I left for a while is because of some opposition that I faced here. I won't go into details, but it made me angry and disillusioned me, so I left. Not only did I leave the forum, but I left Islam for a little while. I fell back into old habits, because I felt that I would never be able to accomplish what I am trying to do in improving myself. So then I became "the angry white guy" that everyone saw here. I apologize to everyone here and now if anything I said back then hurt anyone else. I was hurt and didn't know how to deal with that.
So I did what I always do when I'm hurt. I ran away and hid. For a long time, I was content to let the world go on around me, without me. I figured that nobody would care. Nobody would notice if I was gone. People didn't want me here anyway, so who cares what I do? I still knew that I believed in God, and that was good enough for me.
But I finally realized that I can't hide forever. I will have to deal with these people, as you said. I can't run away from them every time I get into conflict with them. But I have to handle it the right way. I can't be the Angry White Guy anymore.
This is why I returned. This is why I am Reinventing Myself. Who Am I? remains to be seen, but at least I know more about who I don't want to be...
Well you have our full support my brother. We are as one as are all of the Ummah. It may be a cliche to say Allah is with you but it is reality that Allah is with those who are patient. This life is about striving and persevering. It is not meant to be easy. We will fail but that is how we learn. The main thing is that we keep going and keep trying our best. That we have good intentions and are sincere in all that we do.
Always trust in Allah and keep your hopes and faith in him. He lead you to Islam so surely he will continue to guide you as long as you ask of hiom and make the effort. Take small steps towards him and he will take large leaps towards you. Leave that which does not concern you and put time into that which does.
May Allah give you the best of this world and the next. Ameen
I am so sorry to hear that too and in shaa Allah that person is not me and if I ever would hurt your feelings O my respected brother just tell me and I apologise for whatever you may read here or face from our brothers and sisters and firstly from me...please accept my apology O my noble brother and whatever behaviour you may dislike from anyone here then by Allah it is not from Islam and far it be from it...cause the religion of Allah is perfect and won`t allow anyone from its follower to be unrespected with others even those who are non muslims...
may Allah guide your way always and forever O brother and the whole world too Ameeeeeeen
take care of your precious self in shaa Allah...
leaving ya under Allah`s sight, care and protection...
I am so sorry to hear that too and in shaa Allah that person is not me and if I ever would hurt your feelings O my respected brother just tell me and I apologise for whatever you may read here or face from our brothers and sisters and firstly from me...please accept my apology O my noble brother and whatever behaviour you may dislike from anyone here then by Allah it is not from Islam and far it be from it...cause the religion of Allah is perfect and won`t allow anyone from its follower to be unrespected with others even those who are non muslims...
may Allah guide your way always and forever O brother and the whole world too Ameeeeeeen
take care of your precious self in shaa Allah...
leaving ya under Allah`s sight, care and protection...
Humbly, your sister no matter what you are:
Amat Allah
Nope, sister. It was not you. I will only say that much to ease your troubled mind.
In other news, my weekend just got a bit more interesting, and not necessarily in a good way. A non-Muslim friend of mine has invited me to an anniversary party for his parents who are celebrating their 50th anniversary. Some of his family is attending from out of town, including one of his female relatives in whom I was interested in about a year ago (before Islam). I have been informed that this woman is newly single after being in a long relationship. So yeah, things just got a little more awkward for Mr. Nerd over here. I can't even figure out who I'm supposed to be right now and I get thrown this curve?
I'll be doing some praying tonight and tomorrow....
May Be with ya protecting ya from all harm and evil and the whole Ummah too Ameeeeen
Well, here's the thing. It's no secret that I'm socially awkward when it comes to women. Along with alcohol, women are my biggest weakness, no doubt. This is one reason that Islam appeals to me so much. The seperation of genders allows me to concentrate on bettering myself without any distractions.
But it's time for this awkward nerd to step up and become a man. This is either going to be a test from Allah or a trick of Shaytan. Either way, it is a test that I must face, and a lesson that I must learn...
I believe that you are a man enough to get over this in shaa Allah O my respected and noble brother , May Allah bless ya Ameeeeeeeen
and also, try your best to lower your gaze as much as you can cause that would help alot of course with the trust of Allah and remembering that whenever you try to walk to Him The Exalted to please Him then He The Most Merciful runs to ya...laa ilaha illa Allah...
May Allah be with ya always and May He The Most Merciful make ya amongst His best slaves and servants Ameeeeeen
rememebr always, Allah Is with us and he Is our strength laa ilaha ila Allah...
But it's time for this awkward nerd to step up and become a man. This is either going to be a test from Allah or a trick of Shaytan. Either way, it is a test that I must face, and a lesson that I must learn...
I would be interested in you stating why you feel you can ' blame a Shaytan ' for your own choices?
If this Thread is not appropriate please start a New one and we can discuss your excuses, especially re: your excuses in trying to blame your imaginary adversary Shaytan?
I would be interested in you stating why you feel you can ' blame a Shaytan ' for your own choices?
If this Thread is not appropriate please start a New one and we can discuss your excuses, especially re: your excuses in trying to blame your imaginary adversary Shaytan?
Thank you
Well I could cop out and just say that "it's the American way". Blame everyone else for your actions. Because hey, it's what you do, right?
Anyway, the only choice I made is to not worry about this anymore.
I would be interested in knowing why you think that there is no God (or no Shaytan). I used to be an atheist myself.
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I am also extremely sorry" Who AM I" If I ever have said anything which hurt you, and I must apologize from everyone else's side too, please know that this was not our intention. I will just add that its true that things can become quite difficult once we're on our journey to improve and better ourselves as a muslim; things were quite difficult for the Prophet and his companions as well, they were tortured, thrown sharp rocks at, abandoned by their community without any shelter or food for 3 long yrs in a cave, ridiculed by kaafirs, insulted verbally and socially and etc.
So if it gives you any comfort, you being tested is a great honor from Allah swt since those who were tested tough enough were the ones who raised their ranks much higher in the eyes of Allah swt, it is much much easier being raised a muslim than being a revert one with so much to learn and practice, maybe at this time it seems dark or disappointing, but think of it this way, may be if you just persist, just a little more and instill positive thoughts into your mind, maybe thats all Allah requires from you and you ace this test with flying colors and abundant blessings, inshAllah.
As a sage man once said that whenever we purchase something expensive and of good value from the market, we want that product to withstand all temperatures, pressures and all climatic conditions since we're investing so much in it, we want the best results out of it, and when we do get those results out of it , it becomes our favorite item and we appreciate it to everyone around us. However if it falls short of any of its claim, it loses its value in our eyes.
Same is the case with man, why then , when Allah CHOOSES us as the valuable one , we tend to feel lithargic, dismayed and disappointed when He tests us with what we claim? By Allah , we are not burdened with things that we cannot take, so always know that if you're going through this difficult patch, Allah knows and TRUSTS you to ace it, it is mostly w,e that we loose faith in ourselves in a jiffy and fall short of our own expectations, when Allah swt is actually helping us raise our ranks and our eeman. Trust yourself and trust Allah that He will not leave you, no matter what trials he puts you through.
" Surely, after every trial, there is a relief" a verse from Quran.
MAy Allah swt be with you forever and may you be stead fast in your journey with utmost faith, ameen.
Sister SFatima, you have nothing to apologize for. You were one of the few who offered me support back then and I thank you for it.
I am learning some lessons from recent events in my life, lessons that I know I must learn if I am ever to become the man I am supposed to be.
It's interesting, though; all of my life, teachers, parents, employers, etc would always tell me that I had so much potential to become something more than who I am. For a long time, I just ignored this, because I never really cared enough to want to better myself. I was content to be lazy and unmotivated. Now I realize that I can't live my life this way, so I am taking steps to better myself. This is what brings me back to here.
i have another question.....its kinda embrassing
i was reading the thread major sins and in the list there was 36. Not protecting oneself from urine..
anyways ever since ive had my two children whenever i cough or sneezing alittle urine comes out this thats a sin?( i wear a pad also) even through i cant help it?
Hey Marina28 I have never heard of this, could you please post a URL to the specific post you are referring too? Also what source did the poster use for that to be a sin?
Originally Posted by Moneeb
AA wa rahmatiallah warabakto
I read this the advice section, as I cannot reply in that section I posted here.. This is the post I saw..
I wanna know the list of major sins so I can avoid them. I would also appreciate to given the list of minor sins as well and have given a description how you commit that sin. JazakAllah Khair
The Major Sins
--Al-Kaba'r--
The major sins are those acts which have been forbidden by Allah in the Quran and by His Messenger (SAW) in the Sunnah (practise of the Prophet), and which have been made clear by the actions of of the first righteous generation of Muslims, the Companions of the Prophet (SAW).
Allah Most High says in His Glorious Book:
If you avoid the major (part) of what you have been forbidden (to do), We will cancel out for you your (other) evil deeds and will admit you (to Paradise) with a noble entry. (al-Nisa 4:31)
Thus by this verse, Allah Most High has guaranteed the Garden of Paradise to those who avoid the major sins. And Allah Most High also says:
Those who avoid the greatest of sins and indecencies, and forgive when they are angry (al-Shra 42:37) Those who avoid the greatest sins and indecencies, except for oversights, (will find that) surely your Lord is ample in forgiveness. (Al-Najm 53:32)
The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "The five [daily] prayers, Friday to Friday, and Ramadan to Ramadan make atonement for what has happenned since the previous one when major sins have been avoided." It is therefore very important to determine exactly what the greatest vices, technically called "the major sins" (Kaba'ir), are, in order that Muslims should avoid them.
There is some difference of opinion among scholars in this regard. Some say these major sins are seven, and in support of their position they quote the tradition: "Avoid the seven noxious things"- and after having said this, the propeht (SAW) mentioned them: "associating anything with Allah; magic; killing one whom Allah has declared inviolate without a just case, consuming the property of an orphan, devouring usury, turning back when the army advances, and slandering chaste women who are believers but indiscreet." (Bukhari and Muslim)
'Abdullah ibn 'Abbas said: "Seventy is closer to their number than seven," and indeed that is correct. The above tradition does not limit the major sins to those mentioned in it. Rather, it points to the type of sins which fall into the category of "major." These include those crimes which call for a prescribed punishment (HADD; plural, HUDUD), such as theft, fornication or adultery (ZINA), and murder; those prohibited acts for which a warning of a severe punishment in the Next is given in the Qur'an or the tradition; and also those deeds which are cursed by our Prophet (SAW). These are all major sins.
Of course, there is a gradation among them, since some are more serious than others. We see that the Prophet (SAW) has included SHIRK (associating someone or something with Allah) among them, and from the text of the Qur'an we know that a person who commits SHIRK will not his sin be forgiven and will remain in Hell forever.
Allah Most High says: Surely, Allah does not forgive associating anything with Him, and He forgives whatever is other than that to whomever He wills. (al-Nisa 4:48 and 116)
01. Associating anything with Allah
02. Murder
03. Practising magic
04. Not Praying
05. Not paying Zakat
06. Not fasting on a Day of Ramadan without excuse
07. Not performing Hajj, while being able to do so
08. Disrespect to parents
09. Abandoning relatives
10. Fornication and Adultery
11. Homosexuality(sodomy)
12. Interest(Riba)
13. Wrongfully consuming the property of an orphan
14. Lying about Allah and His Messenger
15. Running away from the battlefield
16. A leader's deceiving his people and being unjust to them
17. Pride and arrogance
18. Bearing false witness
19. Drinking Khamr (wine)
20. Gambling
21. Slandering chaste women
22. Stealing from the spoils of war
23. Stealing
24. Highway Robbery
25. Taking false oath
26. Oppression
27. Illegal gain
28. Consuming wealth acquired unlawfully
29. Committing suicide
30. Frequent lying
31. Judging unjustly
32. Giving and Accepting bribes
33. Woman's imitating man and man's imitating woman
34. Being cuckold
35. Marrying a divorced woman in order to make her lawful for the husband
36. Not protecting oneself from urine
37. Showing-off
38. Learning knowledge of the religion for the sake of this world and concealing that knowledge
39. Bertrayal of trust
40. Recounting favours
41. Denying Allah's Decree
42. Listening (to) people's private conversations
43. Carrying tales
44. Cursing
45. Breaking contracts
46. Believing in fortune-tellers and astrologers
47. A woman's bad conduct towards her husband
48. Making statues and pictures
49. Lamenting, wailing, tearing the clothing, and doing other things of this sort when an affliction befalls
50. Treating others unjustly
51. Overbearing conduct toward the wife, the servant, the weak, and animals
52. Offending one's neighbour
53. Offending and abusing Muslims
54. Offending people and having an arrogant attitude toward them
55. Trailing one's garment in pride
56. Men's wearing silk and gold
57. A slave's running away from his master
58. Slaughtering an animal which has been dedicated to anyone other than Allah
59. To knowingly ascribe one's paternity to a father other than one's own
60. Arguing and disputing violently
61. Witholding excess water
62. Giving short weight or measure
63. Feeling secure from Allah's Plan
64. Offending Allah's righteous friends
65. Not praying in congregation but praying alone without an excuse
66. Persistently missing Friday Prayers without any excuse
67. Unsurping the rights of the heir through bequests
68. Deceiving and plotting evil
69. Spying for the enemy of the Muslims
70. Cursing or insulting any of the Companiions of Allah's Messenger
Oh my sweetheart Marina (may Allah be pleased with ya Ameeen)
What is meant by avoiding urine
I read a hadeeth of the Prophet (blessings and peace ofAllah be upon him) which says to “avoid urine because most of the punishment ofthe grave is because of it.”. Praise be to Allaah.
Thishadeeth is good and was narrated by al-Haakim in his Saheeh. The words of theProphet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) are: “Avoid urine, for mostof the punishment of the grave is because of it.” According to another version:“Most of the punishment of the grave is because of urine.” What it means is toavoid urine and be careful about it. If a person wants to urinate, he shouldurinate in a place where the surface is soft (like soil) or in a toilet, sothat drops of urine will not splash back on him. Thisapplies to both men and women: they should pay attention to this matter. Urineshould be in a place where it will not splash back on one. If some of that getsonto the thigh or foot, one should pour water on it and wash the place where ittouched, so as get rid of the urine. If thesurface is soft or the individual makes sure that his urine lands in the toiletwhere it will be washed away when flushing, so that nothing will splash backonto him, that is sufficient. However,avoiding urine and being careful about it is good. If it so happens that theurine hits the edge of the toilet and splashes back on the thigh or calf, thenboth men and women have to wash it off in that case. End quote. Shaykh ‘Abdal-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him) Fataawa Noor ‘ala al-Darb, 2/657
and that is the meaning of protecting yourself from urine; it is to not make it splash on you while you are in the bathroom and if it did then you need to clean that place with water thats it
and in your case with the drops which get out while coughing , sneezing and even laughing; you are allready protecting yourself by wearing a pad so, just clean yourself and change it before wudu and perform your prayer and even if there was no pad and you just had them into your underwear then it is enough for ya to clean your underwear before making wudu or change it after cleaning yourself...
don`t worry, this Deen is simple ; it is the Deen of Rahmah (mercy)...
I wanted to send ya this as PM but there are many who may need to read this too so, I just posted it here...
May Allah love you, Be pleased with ya and make ya from the best of His servants and slaves Ameeeeeeen
take care of your precious self and family honey
leaving ya all under Allah`s sight care and protection
and that is the meaning of protecting yourself from urine; it is to not make it splash on you while you are in the bathroom and if it did then you need to clean that place with water thats it
and in your case with the drops which get out while coughing , sneezing and even laughing; you are allready protecting yourself by wearing a pad so, just clean yourself and change it before wudu and perform your prayer and even if there was no pad and you just had them into your underwear then it is enough for ya to clean your underwear before making wudu or change it after cleaning yourself...
don`t worry, this Deen is simple ; it is the Deen of Rahmah (mercy)...
I wanted to send ya this as PM but there are many who may need to read this too so, I just posted it here...
May Allah love you, Be pleased with ya and make ya from the best of His servants and slaves Ameeeeeeen
take care of your precious self and family honey
leaving ya all under Allah`s sight care and protection
Humbly, your sister:
Amat Allah
ooooh good i was really worried, thank you for ur helpful post..
i have another question.....its kinda embrassing
i was reading the thread major sins and in the list there was 36. Not protecting oneself from urine..
anyways ever since ive had my two children whenever i cough or sneezing alittle urine comes out this thats a sin?( i wear a pad also) even through i cant help it?
As the sister mentioned it is only a major sin if one does not take care when urinating. So one must ensure that the urine does not soil ones clothes or go all over the floor and toilet etc. Not taking care when urinating is a major sin and one may be punished in the grave for it.
Regarding your issue then If urine soils your undergarment, then your clothing will become impure. For example, Salah with impure clothing will be invalid. You could avoid your undergarments from becoming impure by placing a tissue that will absorb the urine. At the time of salah, you should remove the soiled tissue and make wudu (ablition) and perform salah. If your undergarment gets soiled with urine, you should wash the soiled portion three times and squeeze it out each time and perform salah. You should not miss any salah or let any salah become qadha.
As the sister mentioned it is only a major sin if one does not take care when urinating. So one must ensure that the urine does not soil ones clothes or go all over the floor and toilet etc. Not taking care when urinating is a major sin and one may be punished in the grave for it.
Regarding your issue then If urine soils your undergarment, then your clothing will become impure. For example, Salah with impure clothing will be invalid. You could avoid your undergarments from becoming impure by placing a tissue that will absorb the urine. At the time of salah, you should remove the soiled tissue and make wudu (ablition) and perform salah. If your undergarment gets soiled with urine, you should wash the soiled portion three times and squeeze it out each time and perform salah. You should not miss any salah or let any salah become qadha.
Another question sorry i know ur not surpose to double post but..
now I've started work again a few Muslims come in the shop. Some greet me, I always seem to say it wrong.. Well to me it sounds wrong.. Usually I've said wa aliciome salam(sorry I don't know hw to spell it) is that right? Am I saying wrong? Is there like utube video I can watch so I can say it right?
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