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    Assalamu Alaikum,

    I'm 21 years old male from Europe. I converted to Islam not very long ago. I researched Islam for good year, red a Quran, watched so many videos about Islam and understood it's the true path, after converting i felt so amazing, everything was just perfect, never felt better in my life. But it was not for long. I grew up in strongly believing christian family. And my mom is very racist about other religions, especially Islam. I was hiding it for long that i converted, but she saw my Quran and the worst started. At first it was very big arguments, constant swearings on me, constant replicas about me I was barley holding, for long secretly was going to psychologist to make myself feel better, but everything started getting worse. They started secretly swapping my food with pork to make me eat it, telling to all their friends how bad i'm and how everything is so wrong with me, even their random friends was coming and shouting on me, trying to prove something, in this environment i couldn't stay quiet anymore and really starting saying things back, it's wrong, but i can't handle it psychologically anymore. But the worst was when i heard my mom is going to some kind of extra-sense or something and trying to use magic or something on me to make me quit. Every day i'm just praying for Allah to protect me. I don't know what to do anymore, they not even listening to me. Maybe some of you could give me advice how to handle everything? I'm planning to move out, but there is still whole year to go until i will be able, now trying to earn enough money to do it.

    Thank you!
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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it

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    May Allah swt guide them and keep you steadfast. Ameen
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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it

    Quote Originally Posted by fizzy17 View Post
    I'm trying to explain them everything and nicely, i study Islam and christianity and a lot, but they're simply not listening to me. For them i'm brainwashed and controlled and all my words just goes to nothing, no matter how much i try i have the same response. Always fight and argues.
    it is people who worship the created rather than the creator
    people who commit shirk

    people who worship a man

    who are the brainwashed.

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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it

    Brother, keep repeating dua and dhikr that I posted, also any dua you make yourself. You can do so even without ablution and without salah. Repeat them when you get up, outside the house, on your way to work, during break time at work, on your way home, before you sleep, anytime anywhere regardless you are alone/not alone ---- just don't repeat them in toilet/bathroom.

    Satan will make you think they are useless string of words, especially the situation you are in, but do not stop repeating them -- In sha Allah the help you need will come. I am also constantly under attack, although not from my non muslim family. Having muslim friends, having Islamic community nearby, may stop shayateen of humankind, but will not stop shayateen of the jinn. I have other suggestions but in your situation you may not be able to do them.

    Truly, don't give up invoking, supplicating to Allah - if you do so, they will overcome you. Especially night time do not miss dua and dhikr before bed. If you cannot make dua and dhikr by tongue, repeat them in your heart. Allah is ever observing, witnessing, nothing escapes Him. If you start losing patience, say Audhu billahi minash shaytanir rajim

    There is no better life than life as a muslim, there is no better death than death as a muslim, and there is no better transaction than the one you have entered with Allah in which you exchange life of this dunya for the akhira. It seems the only way out of this is for you to find another place to live. May Allah make it easy for you to find a place to live and practice Islam, and when you find it, may Allah make it easy for you to live there.
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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it

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    Walaikumassalam, Brother Welcome to Islam.
    I was raised as a Muslim, so I can say that Allah (swt) has bestowed His mercy and blessings upon you as He guided you from darkness into the light of Islam. The best of the people of this Ummah were converted Muslims who had to bear atrocities from their families. Read the life of Prophet (saw) and Sahabah before Hijrat to Madinah. They were tortured mentally and physically but never did they fight back because of their faith and love for the Prophet (saw) and Allah (swt).

    Just hold onto Islam and know that every second you spend bearing pain for Allah (swt), He will reward you manyfold in hereafter. May Allah protect you and your family, and guide us all.
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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it

    Quote Originally Posted by fizzy17 View Post
    Assalamu Alaikum,

    I'm 21 years old male from Europe. I converted to Islam not very long ago. I researched Islam for good year, red a Quran, watched so many videos about Islam and understood it's the true path, after converting i felt so amazing, everything was just perfect, never felt better in my life. But it was not for long. I grew up in strongly believing christian family. And my mom is very racist about other religions, especially Islam. I was hiding it for long that i converted, but she saw my Quran and the worst started. At first it was very big arguments, constant swearings on me, constant replicas about me I was barley holding, for long secretly was going to psychologist to make myself feel better, but everything started getting worse. They started secretly swapping my food with pork to make me eat it, telling to all their friends how bad i'm and how everything is so wrong with me, even their random friends was coming and shouting on me, trying to prove something, in this environment i couldn't stay quiet anymore and really starting saying things back, it's wrong, but i can't handle it psychologically anymore. But the worst was when i heard my mom is going to some kind of extra-sense or something and trying to use magic or something on me to make me quit. Every day i'm just praying for Allah to protect me. I don't know what to do anymore, they not even listening to me. Maybe some of you could give me advice how to handle everything? I'm planning to move out, but there is still whole year to go until i will be able, now trying to earn enough money to do it.

    Thank you!
    Assalam Alaikum,

    First of all, congratulation for accepting Allah's guidance. Whoever Allah guides, non can lead astray. What you are experiencing is what the early Muslims went through with their relatives. What your parents don't seem to understand is that your yaqeen (certainty i.e Islam) cannot be shaken by their shakk (uncertainty i.e Christianity). As brothers have suggested, the best way is to call them to Islam in the best possible ways. But if they are stubborn & might tempt you in your Deen, then as a 21yrs old male, you are a grown man now & should think about making Hijra & seek knowledge far from the fitna. Allah knows best.

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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it

    So an advise i have that might convince them is try to be tge best son ever like try to be the perfect son first of all allah told you to be the best so your following his orders and secondly they might notice that you became much better and much nicer and leave you be or even convert too that all can happen just by you being nice to them i wish i could help you more but my knowledge is Limited you should just try to be your best in my opinion hope this helps and stay patient and know i have so much respect for converts you left everything for the truth and i am sure allah wont just let you suffur for no reason

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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it

    Quote Originally Posted by glitterprincess View Post
    So an advise i have that might convince them is try to be tge best son ever like try to be the perfect son first of all allah told you to be the best so your following his orders and secondly they might notice that you became much better and much nicer and leave you be or even convert too that all can happen just by you being nice to them i wish i could help you more but my knowledge is Limited you should just try to be your best in my opinion hope this helps and stay patient and know i have so much respect for converts you left everything for the truth and i am sure allah wont just let you suffur for no reason
    Btw wnted to clarify i am in no way a schooler i barely even know anything that's just my opinion and the way i would act if i was in that situation so don't quote me on anything

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    Re: I converted to Islam, but my parents trying in all costs make me leave it


    May Allah give you strength brother. Amen
    I am a convert too and my parents were very racist about islam to me at first too. They would try to harass me to eat pork as well. As soon as they found out I'm not supposed to eat, it was like they cooked every other day just to make me eat something bad. They would shun me from the family and talk behind my back in hushed tones like I was crazy.
    Don't worry. Just ignore them as much as you can. Try going out of hte home in the morning and coming back only to sleep. Bring money with you for food outside if you have too.
    I know you are saving for a an apartment but this is a sacrifice you can make for Allah. It might mean staying with them a little longer but who knows maybe Allah wants you to stick with them and He will guide them to Islam or at least calm down their provocations to you.
    My parents are not muslims still but they are much calmer now alhamdulillah. They hardly ever do things to intentionally annoy me. And if they do then I just politely excuse myself from their presence and leave them alone. I just make sure I don't accept their invitations if I feel there is some ulterior motive or some shady business.
    You can do this brother! Stay strong and humble. Don't talk back to them even when you know they are wrong. just let them come to truth in their own way and keep showing them your peaceful side.
    It can be a big adjustment going from nonmuslim to muslim. As converts, we have bad habits ourselves to fix and change. It might be some habits of yours (im not blaming you) that are getting in the way here. Just focus on yourself and try to preserve your faith. If you can go to the mosque a lot in these early days then you will find muslim friends to confide and share joys with.
    If there is no mosque then try to find a group online.
    Allah bless you
    Lgrant

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