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    i need help leaving my husband i need phone lines in the uk Islamic phone lines am in scotland

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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousonTruth View Post
    This seems a bit confusing. You married someone who became 'muslim' just for marriage and then went back to becoming christian after marriage and now doesn't support you practicing your religion. Is my reading correct?
    Btw sister in religion, youare you a muslimah and your husband converted to marry you? Is that correct.
    What religion was he before. Does ge practice islam and do 5 times daily salah like you as it seems you do?

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    Re: help me please

    No we meet before both of us whete muslim we not had an muslim wedding he and i was together beforr we became Muslim i cant look after myself because of mental health i hear voices and am very depressed i called the helpline but my husband come back in the room i had end the call

    He will not pray and i am going to hell because of this
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    Sister in faith, as a general forum mermber like tou, i am sympathetic and have personal fluctuations in my marriage and no ons is problem free jn every way. We are responsible for own deeds, actions, hence you carrying his sins is questionable. I hope other mrmbers can clarify this. A 3rd tarty like moque staff, police, council staff, womens safety unit, bullying and donestic abuse departments in police abd cuncil are a starting point to straighten your situation as well as muslimm spititual guidance in soirutual
    matters from mosque staff as inficated before. Police authority may be of extra required part solution in your situation.

    Quote Originally Posted by _E_3 View Post
    No we meet before both of us whete muslim we not had an muslim wedding he and i was together beforr we became Muslim i cant look after myself because of mental health i hear voices and am very depressed i called the helpline but my husband come back in the room i had end the call

    He will not pray and i am going to hell because of this
    Remember.

    Allah is the Most Merciful

    Surah fateha conveys also about Mercy.
    A transliteration is available online

    Sister, please please connect with family and friends and must also seek help from qualified professionals for your situation like your adoctor, hospital nurses and health workers, social worjers, social services, police stations anx domestic abuse units and, counselling services. You must takd action and tell police everything aviut your husband actions. They can guide you in correct sources to help you morecorrectly. They can provide victim protection as you are a victim of abuse and police can stop it. Call 999 now

    Take action and tell police of the abuse and that your alone and scared as it seems from your messages

    Allah hafiz

    Call or ask your friends or family to get police involved urgently immediateky to start to resolve this.
    Yiu must not hesitate ,
    Thats my personal opinion and suggestion. Call or get someone to call 999.
    Do you want someone to call 999 for you
    Last edited by *charisma*; 03-26-2019 at 10:58 PM.

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    Re: help me please

    can i go to another city ? he has all the money and i need medication he locks it away stop me from over dosing he will be angry he will hurt himself

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    Quote Originally Posted by _E_3 View Post
    can i go to another city ? he has all the money and i need medication he locks it away stop me from over dosing he will be angry he will hurt himself
    you mean go with your husband?, you shouldn't go alone as you need looking after.

    If you might overdose then that's a good thing he keeps the medicine locked up. It shows he really cares for you

    It is important that you start doing your salah as that will make you a proper Muslim and it's also good for curing mental illnesses as salah brings peace to heart and mind
    Last edited by AbdurRahman.; 03-27-2019 at 05:23 PM.

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    Sister, Call 99 and tell them about this

    Why are uou still hesitant to get police to straighten this out, be sensible and vontact police soon
    Last edited by *charisma*; 03-27-2019 at 08:26 PM.

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    Re: help me please

    things are calmer now he promised he will not do what he did again he says i can go to the mosque and pray he said he dont want to lose me he prayed with me tonight and he is sorry
    he scared of losing me

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    Re: help me please

    As salamu alaykum sister,

    Cling to Islam as if it was burning coal, no matter what, never leave Islam.

    If he is abusing you and forcing you to renounce Islam, then try and get out of there asap..

    Idk much abt scotland, but there should be organisations that will help you.

    NONE has the right to prevent you from praying to Allah, NONE.

    So you don't need ANYONE'S permission for submitting yourself to Allah, and worshipping Allah.
    Last edited by Serinity; 03-27-2019 at 10:37 PM.
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    Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
    " Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "

    Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an
    Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.

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    Re: help me please

    Salamualikum wr wb Dear Sister.

    A very important message to you

    So your husband has become Muslim again?, that's good.

    Get him to read this post so he understands his responsibility

    A non Muslim man is not allowed to be husband of Muslim woman this is why when he became Christian again, an automatic divorce took place and you both are no longer man and wife. You both need to marry again to make your relationship lawful.

    All that's needed is 2 Muslim male witnesses or 1 Muslim male and 2 Muslim female witnesses (who are adults and trustworthy people) and if he says to you in their presence: I marry you, and you reply back, I accept, then the marraige will be done.

    And before the exchange of these words he needs to say how much he'll give you as mahr.

    It is your Islamic duty to refrain from any intimacy before this remarriage.

    JazakAmullah kharain. Walalykumassalaam wr wb.

    PS: I think in time you will know whether he has become Muslim or not... If he doesn't become Muslim and remarry you, you have to do the right thing and leave him
    Last edited by AbdurRahman.; 03-29-2019 at 09:30 AM.

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    He banned me from here he cant blocked the site but forbin me from here again him and his Minster from his church wanted me to explain what i knew about Islam they confused me am in the tolet of a drop in he at the door i want to die

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    Quote Originally Posted by _E_3 View Post
    He banned me from here he cant blocked the site but forbin me from here again him and his Minster from his church wanted me to explain what i knew about Islam they confused me am in the tolet of a drop in he at the door i want to die
    Get police involved urgent now

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    Re: help me please

    He says am ill i need Allah he trickled me his Minster from his church they going to hurt me if i call the police they will take his side am mentally unable to look after myself i should die now throw myself out a Windows

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    Re: help me please

    If you are not willing to help yourself, how can we help you? You have to report him and the minister.
    If you rely on your husband for financial support, seek other types of governmental help. I'm sure there is something available for abused women. There are even domestic shelters. Check to see what is available around you.
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    Re: help me please

    Hes gone left when i said am sticking to Islam he has to come back to give my medication he staying with a friend who can take him in for a few days he giving me money and promised not to buy anything to harm myself i have to wear the hijab when he is here is that right he has keys to make sure am eating he my carer and he needs to check on me and my cat

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    oh and thank you all for helping me I LOVE ALLAH ALWAYS

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    Re: help me please

    from what I can read - one moment he promises you to be good with you, another moment he completely abandons you and takes your medicine, and then gets angry just because you said you'd call the police.

    From what I can read, he isn't someone who will help you. Stay on Islam, yes. But stay with him?

    Dont you have any relatives you can live by, or get some govermnetal help? I wouldn't stay with someone who is that unstable and forbids you from praying, and is angry at you. and tries to convert you. and have you leave Islam.

    Get out of there, you need help, but this guy doesn't seem to give you that. If I was you, I'd PHYSICALLY go to a nearby police station and say "I am being abused please help. I don't want to stay with this guy anymore, I need medication. "

    And to ensure you never have any contact with him anymore.
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    Meaning of Shirk according to The Qur'an
    " Worshipping anyone or anything besides Allah " or " distributing anything exclusive to Allah, to anyone or anything else "

    Meaning of Tawheed according to The Qur'an
    Worshipping none but Allah. Affirming whatever is exclusive to Him, Him alone.

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    Re: help me please

    he is gone and thats all i can get more meds from my dr and i can have the lock on the door changed i have no family and all my friends are christian and woulsnt understand me being Muslim and would take his side i have asked him to not came back he is staying away
    Last edited by _E_3; 03-30-2019 at 10:35 AM.

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    Re: help me please

    Have you called and informed police of this situation?
    yes or no?
    if no, then do it as indicated by sister previously on this forum. It seems uou dont want to resolve your dilemma from uiur teluctance to get police involved whom have power to resolve matters????

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    Yes or no

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    Re: help me please

    Am sorry i havent been posting in the last few days i have a bug and have been sick . i dont need to involve the police he gone for good he's down in Oxford now am in Scotland he will not be back again
    thank you all for your help and support


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