Just go to any market or roadside in any major city or town of the country, and a common spectacle is a women doing shopping or window shopping. Many of these groups include a very sharp contrast. More often than not, the older women who are mothers or grand mothers remain clad in burqa or long rida, and they are accompanied by daughters or grand daughters clad in jeans or T-Shirt or both, sometimes with dupatta and sometimes not.
This scene depicts the confusion, double standards and the changing social scenario in Pakistan. This newly in vogue dress code in Pakistan hasn’t caught on by the majority, but this trend is on the rise and now almost all the garments shops and boutiques are selling girls jeans and girls tight shirts.
How older women attired in conservative dress allow their girls to be in ultra modern dress?
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This a problem with the Muslims in every country (west or east) and within every race. What is the good in the mother doing hijab if she is not going to teach her daughter about it?! The parents will be questioned about the ones (children) they are guardians over and anyone who allows evil in his family will be denied paradise!
It has been narrated on the authority of Ibn 'Umar that the Holy Prophet (May be upon him) said: Beware. every one of you is a shepherd and every one is answerable with regard to his flock. The Caliph is a shepherd over the people and shall be questioned about his subjects (as to how he conducted their affairs). A man is a guardian over the members of his family and shal be questioned about them (as to how he looked after their physical and moral well-being). A woman is a guardian over the household of her husband and his children and shall be questioned about them (as to how she managed the household and brought up the children). A slave is a guardian over the property of his master and shall be questioned about it (as to how he safeguarded his trust). Beware, every one of you is a guardian and every one of you shall be questioned with regard to his trust. Sahi Muslim, Book 020, Number 4496
On the authority of ‘Abdullaah ibn al Haarith who said; the Messenger of Allaah - صلى الله عليه و سلم - said: “Allah created three things with His Hand; He created Adam with His Hand, He wrote the Torah with His Hand and He planted Firdaws with His Hand. He then said; “By my Glory, neither a drunkard nor a ‘Dayyooth’ will live in it”. The companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah, we know the drunkard, but who is the Dayyooth?’ He responded: “One who consents to evil in his family.” [1] Collected by al Khira-ity in Masaawi al Akhlaaq: P.62, #426
[1] It also means one who does not have any protective jealousy for his family and therefore allows evil to take place.
Many hijabi sisters in Indonesia have mothers who wear not hijab. They wear hijab not because supposed by their mothers but because they realized hijab is obligated to Muslimah.
Ever visited LUMS or part scenes in Islamabad (look at the name, it should be kaafirabad)? There the mothers N daughters wear "jeans."
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This a problem with the Muslims in every country (west or east) and within every race. What is the good in the mother doing hijab if she is not going to teach her daughter about it?! The parents will be questioned about the ones (children) they are guardians over and anyone who allows evil in his family will be denied paradise!
[1] It also means one who does not have any protective jealousy for his family and therefore allows evil to take place.
I agree with this. It's one of the problems that occur in just any part in the world. In most cases in my place however, the family/parents are very religious and they do provide good Islamic education for the children, and yet when the children grow up they choose their own way of life and most of the parents couldn't use force to change these teenagers' behavior etc. i.e. the mother can ask her daughter not to wear tight jeans, but the daughter wears it on her own will anyway, especially when she is away from her family and nobody keeps an eye on her. Sometimes things like this can go out of the parents' control. Do we blame the parents if their children decide to oppose the teachings of Islam with their acts, by their own will, and what do we do in this kind of situation..?
"By the time , Verily Man is in loss, Except those who have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience and Constancy." (Asr 103: 1-3)
Parents are responsible for upbringing their kids, giving them proper education, morals and values. But also they must ensure to protect their kids from haram environment. If you throw your schools in public schools 8 hours a day to hang around kuffars and learn their ways, you can't blame the kids entirely for doing what they want. Of course if you have done your outmost to raise proper kids and the kids are at the age they can decide for themselves and despite your good raiding they are rebellious and do what they want than at that point they are will have to answer for their own actions.
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