Wa-alaikumsalam brother,
I can understand your frustrations.
However, I think that the best way forward insha Allah is: Have Sabr (patience).
This is a test from Allah (subhanawataála) - how will you respond to your parents, when you are denied your wishes?
Will you rebel, be resentful, depressed and look at those who have what you desire at this point in time (i.e. a job?)
Or will you be patient, respectful and obey your parents in this case?
Realise the following:
1. Your parents ONLY wants what is BEST for you.
In fact, they most likely will be willing to move heaven and earth for YOU, their son.
2. You are currently still under their care. They have chosen to continue to shelter you, feed you, clothe you and help you further in your studies, by the will of Allah.
So, be thankful that you are not of those who have been left to fend for himself, soon after completing school.
There are kids who do not even have the option to study further, because they are the sole bread-winners of the family or they are running child-headed homes, with no parents to lend them support.
Be very grateful that your parents love you SO much, that despite their current financial predicaments, they do not wish to burden you with them.
SubhanAllah, there is NO other person who can compete with the love that our mothers and fathers (insha Allah) have for us.
3. In the very same way that Allah Taa'la made a way out for you to study further (by means of the scholarship, alhamdulillah) - He too, can insha Allah, make it possible for you to obtain even more. Do not doubt this.
Perhaps, tell your parents that you would like to have a 'meeting' with them - where you all can sit down at the table and discuss these issues with respect and maturely.
Inform them of your current needs (within reason - i.e for essential items) and your expected needs with regards to university.
They will either say that they will sort it out for you - in which case, alhamdulillah. Be grateful and do your best to help them around the house/ in any way possible.
Or, they will say that they are unable to afford it - in which case, you can once again propose taking up a part-time job.
I think it would be wise to already have the exact job that you wish to apply for in front of them.......let them see it to ease any worries that they may have, and ask them for THEIR suggestions to resolving your financial woes.
If they still refuse, be patient - and turn to Allah and ask Him to make this matter easy for you.
Whenever Allah Taa'la places difficulties in our lives it is only because He wants us to turn back to Him in duaa.
He loves when His servants call upon Him when they are in need - so dont lose out on this opportunity of earning His good pleasure insha Allah.
May Allah ease your affairs and grant you all the success in your future endeavours.
Ameen
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