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    Should i obey my mother in this case?

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    Assalamu alaikum,

    In my locality, there is a event in which a group of muslims gather in the local madras and provide food in the name of the martyrs in badr.

    So my mother tells me to fetch that food from the madras. I told i can't. What should i do?
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    Tell her softly, and insist on it softly
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    Do you know, why she asks this?
    Should i obey my mother in this case?

    From Occupied Palestine:

    We have suffered too much for too long. We will not accept apartheid masked as peace. We will settle for no less than our freedom.



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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    Subhanallah

    Your mother orders you to good and you consider disobeying her?

    Allahu akbar

    May Allah guide you
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    To do something "in the name of martyrs", is that allowed?

    My understanding is you can only do it in the name of Allah but you can do a good deed in someone's behalf. @IbnAbdulHakim
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Nisthar View Post
    Assalamu alaikum,

    In my locality, there is a event in which a group of muslims gather in the local madras and provide food in the name of the martyrs in badr.

    So my mother tells me to fetch that food from the madras. I told i can't. What should i do?
    Surely this is not from the 'quran and sunnah' you should tell her this if she does not know and refrain from doing as she suggests.

    And Allah knows best.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim View Post
    Subhanallah

    Your mother orders you to good and you consider disobeying her?

    Allahu akbar

    May Allah guide you
    I don't think its a good thing to eat food thats distributed freely on the badr martyrs.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Umm Abed View Post
    To do something "in the name of martyrs", is that allowed?

    My understanding is you can only do it in the name of Allah but you can do a good deed in someone's behalf.
    So, Does it mean its permissible to eat that food?
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Nisthar View Post
    So, Does it mean its permissible to eat that food?
    can you explain more about food of badr martyr?
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by darkbro View Post
    can you explain more about food of badr martyr?
    I don't have much info on it either. But its only conducted on this day. So they must be distributing this food in the rememberance of their sacrifice.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    On one side you dont want to make your mother sad, and on other side you dont want to innovate in religion( i think u mean that, forgive me if that is not the case brother). My brother this is hard question.

    Make lots of duas. May Allah help you.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Love_Sahabah View Post
    On one side you dont want to make your mother sad, and on other side you dont want to innovate in religion( i think u mean that, forgive me if that is not the case brother). My brother this is hard question.

    Make lots of duas. May Allah help you.
    Yes, anyway, I obeyed my mother now. But didn't eat the food.

    Is it a sin to eat that food? I am not sure if they eat the food in the name of martyrs. But they distribute it in this day only.

    Sorry for the bad english.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Nisthar View Post
    So, Does it mean its permissible to eat that food?
    I am still not sure brother, as to what exactly they are doing and whether we can eat that food.

    Perhaps our knowledgeable sheikh can answer that . Huzaifah ibn Adam.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    The brother means coming together and to eat food as remembrance for the Badr Martyrs.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    1) it should not be in disobedience to Allah

    2) There should be some benefit to the order

    3) If they are being unreasonable


    https://islamqa.info/en/214117
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Love_Sahabah View Post
    The brother means coming together and to eat food as remembrance for the Badr Martyrs.
    If they are saying they're doing it in the name of the Badr martyrs I dont know if its allowed to eat such food then. Also, doing an action in the name of someone...
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    This is a question that can only be answered once we have more information from the brothers who are conducting it; what exactly is their intention behind doing it? Are they doing it as Isaal-e-Thawaab for the Shuhadaa of Badr, or are they actually making food in the name of the Sahaabah and distributing it in their name?

    As Muslims, all of our actions are only in the name of Allaah Ta`aalaa. That is the meaning of "Bismillaah". Nothing is done "in the name" of any other person. Such food is not permissible to eat from.

    But again, we first have to know more regarding their belief and intention behind this. We have to be absolutely certain before any ruling can be given. If possible, ask them to tell you more about it. What exactly their intentions are and if they are in fact doing A`maal in the name of Sahaabah or if their intention is actually Isaal-e-Thawaab.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?



    Well it depends on your intention does it not? If you want to feed those in the masjid, then by all means do it

    HOWEVER "in the name of the martyrs in badr" sounds a bit sketchy... When I say sketchy I mean it sounds like Bid'ah to me.

    You need to expand on this a bit more.
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    Narrated Abu Huraira:
    The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "There are two expressions which are very easy for the tongue to say, but they are very heavy in the balance and are very dear to The Beneficent (Allah), and they are, 'Subhan Allah Al- `Azim and 'Subhan Allah wa bihamdihi.'"
    [Sahih al-Bukhari 6406]
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    to @huzaifa h bin Adam for answering based on shar'i wisdom.

    May Allah increase your knowledge.
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    Re: Should i obey my mother in this case?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Akhi_Umar View Post


    Well it depends on your intention does it not? If you want to feed those in the masjid, then by all means do it

    HOWEVER "in the name of the martyrs in badr" sounds a bit sketchy... When I say sketchy I mean it sounds like Bid'ah to me.

    You need to expand on this a bit more.
    Yea i agree a lot. Seems OP was scared if what he did was bidah
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