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Dear Akhwat wa Ikhwah fillah

Assallammu'alaikum warohmatullahi wabarokatuh....

I have restrained myself to not write about this topic personally. But this matter has been killing my heart and my souls many times…… astaghfirullah… I was angry a lot of time [especially with myself] due of my disability to convey the messages. But how could I say I love you for the sake of Allah if I don’t able to convey the truth…

Please consider them as my sincere effort to do my responsibility and to fulfill your right in the process doing amar ma’ruf nahi munkar….

Jazakillah khairan katsiran for Sis Lina for all your sincere love, dear caring and sharing… I wish many lucky young innocent Moslem bless to meet a person like you… May Allah always protect your soul…as you spend you life to care others’ souls… amen…

May Allah protect those young pure hanif souls….

Wallahualam bishshowab…..

Something which basically is permissible…

but if the user are not responsible people.....it could lead to much destruction…

I might write so many mistake… those mistake from my shallowness….

please forgive them....

But all the truth from Allah …

The first part is for brothers…the second part is for sisters….

[ummuafeera]

Part I



“My dear brother”



Who are you in your real life

What are in your real life…



You may say you are a real modest man,

Who care your gaze,

You may say you are a real gentleman

With beard…



People may say you are a real cool mu’min

People may say you are a real practicing man

People may say you are like scholar man

People may say you are respectable man

People may say they adore you as a real gentleman…



Be like that also on the net



If declared you never talk with woman in your real life..

Please don’t justify your interaction on the net



Al least

Please be consistent with what your belief…



Saying never talked with non maharam even more than 1 minute

But turn become a real chatter box

Spending hours chat with non mahram

Sharing every single detail

Comment every single thing



Please don’t be too sweet

Act as if a charming prince

Leaving poison into many hearts

Playing with other emotion



Please keep your charm to your wife [to be]

Please keep your jokes for your wife [to be]



Some of you were very knowledgeable people

A Da’wah worker

Respectable people



Brothers

Remember Allah knows best what lies inside your heart’

Allah knows of the tricks that deceive with the eyes,

Allah knows all that the hearts (of men) conceal.



Don’t abuse the Qur’an wa Sunnah

Don’t use them to product fatwa to support your lust

Don’t use them to justify your actions



You do feel comfort because you shouldn’t face her

You feel comfort because she doesn’t see you

You think there is massive wall between you and her

There is distance between you and her



Have you found any scholars make a new definition of hijab?



Brothers

The adultery of the eyes is the sight,

The adultery of the tongue is the talk,

The adultery of heart is imagination

The private parts testify all this or deny it



Be honest…..



What hijab you put between your hearts?

What hijab you put to control your mind?

You know best what lays both inside….



Is that just a simple screen?…

Is that just text?….



Don’t you know

You are talking with a real human being…

They are a real human being with heart,

They were created with bones…. flesh….blood

They have right to be respected

They have right to be treated like human being

They are not toys to play with

To filling your spare time

To be part of your adventure

To kill your loneliness…

To be part of your experience…

To be part of your wild inspiration…



Brothers…

Marriage is a scared things..

Please don’t use that “magic” word to trap sincere sister…

Please don’t use that “magic” word to ask their pictures…

Please don’t use that “magic” word to justify your interactions…

In pretext of getting to know each other….



Do you know what mean of that word?

Do you understand what is responsibility?

Do you comprehend every action lead to the consequences ?



Most of time you do not understand the consequences…

You do not know even how to move your fingers…

You will make your heart dirty..

You will make your life complicated…

Never start thing that you never able to responsible…

Never start thing if you do not know what the follow up…

Please act as a real gentleman…

Please do learn how to do the right process…



You do know how to fall in love

But do not know what you should do with that love



Life already hard

Don’t play with the fire

Don’t play with things that out of your control…



Brothers..

Please

Go learn the Qur’an

Go read the tafsir

Go read the sunnah

Go read the syarah

Go read the syirah…

Go learn the Qur’an

Go read the tafsir

But please do not use the religion to fit your desire…



Brothers…

You were born and raised with some values

Don’t make “internet” as a facility to break those values…



Be consistent…. Be consistent…



Some of you belong to family/culture detest girl talk with man

You even will not tolerant if you find your young sister talk with guy on net

You forbid your woman to talk with man.



Since you were born

You have created what is a perfect girl in your mind

One who never talk with man…

The pure one….

The innocent ….

The untouchable…

With the virgin heart….



But



That really inconsistent…. if

Your actions created impurity to other heart

Your sweet words destroy innocents’ heart

You fill so many hopes inside one’s heart….



Then you abandon her



You spent time with someone that you do not want to end up

You know at the first place not fit with your type

They do not fit you value

You spend hours being close but you consider them just nothing



You think

You can go and come anytime in your idle times

No need think about responsibility

You may escape anytime

You may run anytime

You are unreachable…

You are untouchable…

You are safe….



You may just simple start you life with new one

Another sweet innocent that had been set up



Don’t you know..

You might broke one innocent heart

That heart might bleeding for the rest of her life



Sleep tightly

Enjoy your life

Beside your beauty wife

But remember you will meet your lord in hereafter

You will meet her in hereafter drag you to the flame of hell fire…



Brothers

Some of you are married…

Tease and play around with young girl

Are you searching inspiration?

Do you need to refresh your old soul with the spirit of young?



Saying never loves your wife….

Saying never feels any happiness from the day one

Wondering….. How you made she pregnant…



You are man with a lot experience

You know all the tricks

You know how to grasp their heart

You how tame those pure gems



What actually you want?

What do you want from them?

Don’t you know the consequences what you do?

Don’t you think about your wife?

Don’t you think how she feel if she finds you chat around, tease around with girl?



Please go look yourself in front of mirror

See those gray hairs

Remember your doom

See your young daughter

Look at your dear young blood sisters

Do you like if man treats them like the way you treat young sisters?



Brothers

Can’t you see a woman just like a simple sister?

As simple young sister

As simple young daughter

who need your advice

who need your protection

who need simple respect

Act as an uncle

Act like a big brother

Act like their father…

Please do not chase to them always

To be your forth wife…



You hide your real name

Your real location

You want to hide from people

If you make wrong …you still safe your reputation



Astaghfirullah…



My Dear brothers

Where is the responsible gone?

Where is the shame gone?

Is that what said as the best ummah ?



If Umar still alive he would hit your head with his stick

He might behead you with his sword



You are a qowam

Allah raise you higher with that title..

To carry more responsibility

There are huge responsibilities on your shoulder

You are our hope to revive the ummah



You responsible to care you sisters

You should protect them

Not act like a wolf who ready to eat them

Not act like a evil who ready to trapped them

Not act like a devil who will ready to mislead them

Not act like a “-------” who destroys their life…



Give them space…



Instead giving secure feeling

They always alert with your presence

They try to hide their gender

They have to lie about their status

They hesitate to speak

They hesitate to contribute



Don’t teach them more how to hidden

Don’t put them in condition to be an expert liar

In the sake of protection



Brothers

What do you feel?

Didn’t that click you something?

Dint that lower your dignity?

How could you become that low?

Your fellow sisters should protect themselves that way…

Didn’t you feel like a harm contagious disease?



Young brothers…

Please utilize your time…

Instead monitoring women’s Id

The responsibility in your shoulder is bigger…

.

Remember Muhammad Al Fatih Murad

Remember Usamah bin Zaid

Remember Abdullah bin Zubair

Remember all your great predecessors..

They conquered Rome

They conquered Persian

They conquered Constantinople



Shame of you

All in your mind just about conquer girls…

Think what you contribute for the ummah

What you have done for Islam….

Learn their life journey

Follow their trait….



Please…

We should build a health environment

Apply the real teaching of Qur’an wa Sunnah

No suspicious

No envious

Taking care each other

Join in good

Forbid in evil

Protect each other dignity and the honor….



My dear respect brother….

I don’t mean to be rude

I don’t mean to teach you something

All what I do just trying to convey the messages….

I believe you more than strong to accept the more sharp critical

You are a man….

InshaAllah the seed for the glory of Ummah…..

Wallahualam bishshowab…..

[ummuafeera]

Part I I



My dear sisters….

Allah gifts a lot of special blessings…

Allah trusts you to carry “rahim” [womb]…

That makes your nature different…

Makes you full of affection,

Your touch is tenderness,

You smile is sweetness..

You are an amazing beautiful creation

You are a charming creation

Your graceful movement

Your “killing” smiles



You are beautiful

Always beautiful

You are sweet

Always sweet

You are unique…

With your own way…

You are always special…

You are attractive no matter how you look like’



But



You are a real temptation for your fellow brothers….

You will be

You will always be ….

Like it or dislike it

Even if you never intend to

Even if you never plan to

They will fall on your laps…



My dear sisters….

I know some of you are very strict [in real]

I know you are trying always to be a real muslimah

Who love Qur’an wa sunnah

But easy to get carry out [on net]



My dear sincere sisters….

Please think over this

Would you mix and talk that free with all those guys in person?

Would you crack those "Islamic jokes" with those guys in person?

Remember of those *LOLs*….*awwwww*……”wwoooowww”….

Would you do really express that way if you met those guys in person?



Would you feel comfortable spending so much time with these guys in person?

Are you comfortable….?

Extremely comfortable…..?

VERY comfortable…….?



My dear sisters…..

Will a good brother waste their time just for talk?

Will a good brother share you every single thing?



Do you like if your husband shares their secret with another woman?

Do you like if your husband shares their joke with another woman?



My dear sisters

Don’t flower your mind to think you are the only woman he talks with

You probably one in hundreds….

Don’t feel as someone special

You the one who make yourself special

Don’t nurture those feelings…

They may sweet but for nothing….

They act same with hundreds of his female buddies…



Perhaps

They just try to be polite…

They just try to be nice…

They just try to be gentle….

They just try to help

They just try to care your feelings…

They just do not want to hurt you…

They just try to convey messages…



Perhaps

They wish you could understand yourself

They wish you could away without they say things…

They wish soon you would know your limit

They wish you soon gain your consciousness

They wish you know when you should stop yourself…



My Dear sisters…

They may say they NEVER talk with woman [AT ALL]…

You surprise

You do feel so special

You feel be the Only ONE

You feel so lucky on earth…



Please …….Be smart!!!



Is he from Mars?

Is he living outer space… is he an alien… ?

Is living in the middle of no where…?

Didn’t he ever go outside…?



Ok perhaps He does Never…..



But



Perhaps He is not sociable person

Perhaps He is an awkward person

Perhaps He has problem in interpersonal skill…

Perhaps He indifferent with his fellow sisters…

Perhaps He not a sensitive person

Perhaps He perhaps type of man who will run away even if saw his fellow sister being abuse…

Perhaps He perhaps type of man who will avoid passing his fellow sisters who need help…



Or



He is a big big liar……!!!



Be rational



Don’t make your feelings overwhelm you

Don’t make your feelings dominate your rationality,…



Oh My dear sisters..

I don’t mean to destroy you romantic dream about him…

I don’t mean to tarnish your sweet perception about him…..

I might be wrong…

Perhaps he is indeed not one what I have been listed above,…

But you have to know

The probability could be 1 in billions



My dear sweet sisters,…

Please open your heart

Please open your eyes…

Those rarest pearls …really rare breed….

They will not appear in every places…



If they have good intention over you

If they are really a real mu’min

They will know the rules…

They will know the way…

They will be a responsible person

They will not abuse their faith by justification their action

They will not play with a sacred sunnah

Just to take chance to talk with you in person…



My dear sisters…

A real pearl doesn’t need light to make it shining

A sun doesn’t need heater to make it warm

Oceans do not need salt to make it salty…

They are shining themselves…

The light… the salt … already be part of them…

They will keep shining even if buried in the deepest oncean

They are precious without advertisement,…

That also….. a real mu’min…

A wa’ra…tawadhu… mu’min

Will not use their quality just for the sake to make you fall on his laps…

They perhaps did same way to crush other heart…



My Dear sisters…

There are many who love to talk

But they do not really understand what they talk

There are many who will offer you proposal

But they actually do not understand what it is

They do not have idea how sacred it is

Go challenge them with real actions

Go challenge them to be real gentlemen

You will know for real…



Do they say they never have girl friends…

It doesn’t mean they know the religion

That could be they do not have chance due the culture restriction….



My Dear sisters….

You may say you are confidence

You may say you know the limit

You may say you will always try to be stern

You may say you are a strong person

You may say you will lead the flow



But my dear…

For how long?



My Dear sisters

It’s not only about you

But you deal with other heart

With other mind

Their heart, their mind …. out of your control

You perhaps could confidence about your strength

But you never able to control their strength

You never able to set what they should feel about you

You cant stop them to in love with you…

You cant tell them please do not think about you…

You cant ask them please stop adore you…



My dear sisters…

You never know what inside their brain…

If only they could accept your smile just same as those bold yellow icon…



My Dear sisters….

Please help those fellow brothers….

You not only responsible to care your own soul

But also …please do not put yourself as a temptation

You should not make yourself become a disease in one’s heart

You couldn’t say you never intend to…

You couldn’t say that not your fault…



Please be honest…



My Dear sisters….

The number of man who get crush on you ..

It not always reflects how good you are…

That not something nice to boast proudly…

It perhaps shows…. something wrong in you…

That could be a sign of your near failure

That could be a real destruction…



My Dear sisters…

You heart by nature so soft..



My Dear sisters….

See….those massive hard stones….

If it was fallen by just “a drop water” continuously

It would leave “a big hole”

Lets alone your tender heart…it would be “a huge” hole….



You never know when your iman down…

You never know when you are weak

But syaitan will be there patiently waiting your failure…



A small sin will create a black spot in your white heart

Finally it will turn become black

It will make your heart death

You will never able to find the way back….



Prevention always better than curing…

Better to away from trap in complication…



You may say that you only talk with good ones…

Remember good brother will be temptation for good sister

You will be temptation for good brother…



My dear sisters….

At times you start any relationship

Please take a thought

Where things would lead you

A real Moslem will never do something without a clear intention…

Allah will count your intention….

A real Moslem should know what will be the destination

Will you be his chat email friend forever….?

Share things forever?

Tell every single thing forever?

He knows what you do from 4 am to 4 pm…?

He knows what you do from Sunday to Sunday… ?



My dear sisters

The more you involve

The more your close

The more you will not able to leave

The more you will not able to stop



You heart so soft..

You are so nice

You will think thousand things

You afraid to offend him

You afraid make him cry

You afraid destroy his life

You afraid he commits suicide

You afraid he will go astray

You think he will not able live without you…



The syaithan will be happy…

They will clap their hands

If their legs could clap… They would clap too

New victims come to the circle…



You flower your minds

With all those sentimental feelings…

You will suffer and suffer not able run from the circle…

Dear Trust me…. They will not do that

If they do….. that irrefutable prove…. how stupid he is…

Do you want to end up you life with a stupid one?



My Dear sisters…

The constant interaction…

Will lead you in confusion

not able to compare between pity…sympathy… and love…



My Dear young sisters

Sometimes you just try to be polite…

You try to care a good manner…

But response not always what you hope…

You are in global villages

You should learn the global languages…

You should understand the global gesture…

You should able to deal with so many heads



If you have tried your best

If you have done your duty

You should find the way for safe your faith

You do not have any responsibility anymore

You have done what you should do

You are not cruel…

The otherwise you save his soul sooner



My Dear sisters….

Remember Allah watch over you…

Allah know even the deepest of you heart

You know the best who are you

You know the best what your doing

You know the best your capacity



You do really discuss your deen?

You do sincerely to invite people to your deen ?



But



Why you busy keep on till the late of night

Where is time for talk with your Lord

How you lost your precious private time with Lord

If you sleep 3 am 2 am… 4 am… where you would sleep

How you lost the precious the last 1/3rd night

When Allah comes closer to you

When you build inside strong spiritually



My Dear sisters…

Do you know What Google, AltaVista, yahoo, for?

Do you know thousands Islamic website available?

Do you know thousands Islamic Scholar available?

Please, you do use them maximally …

Before jump talking to any man, even if in the pretext of learning…

You do have a bunch of females’ buddies…

Please, go to them to share and study…

You do not worry if you act like a stupid…

You may express yourself freely…

You can be a sweet as you like



My Dear sisters…

May Allah make you be great wife like Khadijah bin khwalid ra

May Allah help you to be a great mother like Fatimah binti Muhammad…

May Allah make you be great scholar like Aisyah binti Abu Bakar ra

May Allah make you practice a great patience like Ashiah ra

May Allah help you to observe ghirah

and take care your husband heart like Asma binti abu Bakar

May Allah help you to as smart as Queen Balqis

as wise as Ummu Sulaim …

InshaAllah you are as beautiful as Attikah who companied all her husband as a syuhada…

Wallahualam bishshowab…..

[ummuafeera]

Oh my Dear Lord…

You know very best what lies inside my heart,

You know best how sinner this soul…

You know best what hidden ….what conceal,



My Dear Lord

Please save me first from all the hypocrisy



My Dear Lord

Give me the tawfiq to follow what I have said



My Dear Lord,…

Save me from the blaze of your hell flame…



Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika

Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika

Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika



Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin

Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin

Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin



Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

[Mali Princess]

Assallammu'alaikum warohmatullahi wabarokatuh....

Please read this message and hope you take it serious.


The first part is for brothers…the second part is for sisters….

Part I



“My dear brother”



Who are you in your real life

What are in your real life…



You may say you are a real modest man,

Who care your gaze,

You may say you are a real gentleman

With beard…



People may say you are a real cool mu’min

People may say you are a real practicing man

People may say you are like scholar man

People may say you are respectable man

People may say they adore you as a real gentleman…


Be like that also on the net



If declared you never talk with woman in your real life..

Please don’t justify your interaction on the net



Al least

Please be consistent with what your belief…

Saying never talked with non maharam even more than 1 minute

But turn become a real chatter box

Spending hours chat with non mahram

Sharing every single detail

Comment every single thing



Please don’t be too sweet

Act as if a charming prince

Leaving poison into many hearts

Playing with other emotion



Please keep your charm to your wife [to be]

Please keep your jokes for your wife [to be]



Some of you were very knowledgeable people

A Da’wah worker

Respectable people



Brothers

Remember Allah knows best what lies inside your heart’

Allah knows of the tricks that deceive with the eyes,

Allah knows all that the hearts (of men) conceal.



Don’t abuse the Qur’an wa Sunnah

Don’t use them to product fatwa to support your lust

Don’t use them to justify your actions



You do feel comfort because you shouldn’t face her

You feel comfort because she doesn’t see you

You think there is massive wall between you and her

There is distance between you and her



Have you found any scholars make a new definition of hijab?



Brothers

The adultery of the eyes is the sight,

The adultery of the tongue is the talk,

The adultery of heart is imagination

The private parts testify all this or deny it



Be honest…..



What hijab you put between your hearts?

What hijab you put to control your mind?

You know best what lays both inside….



Is that just a simple screen?…

Is that just text?….



Don’t you know

You are talking with a real human being…

They are a real human being with heart,

They were created with bones…. flesh….blood

They have right to be respected

They have right to be treated like human being

They are not toys to play with

To filling your spare time

To be part of your adventure

To kill your loneliness…

To be part of your experience…

To be part of your wild inspiration…



Brothers…

Marriage is a scared things..

Please don’t use that “magic” word to trap sincere sister…

Please don’t use that “magic” word to ask their pictures…

Please don’t use that “magic” word to justify your interactions…

In pretext of getting to know each other….



Do you know what mean of that word?

Do you understand what is responsibility?

Do you comprehend every action lead to the consequences ?



Most of time you do not understand the consequences…

You do not know even how to move your fingers…

You will make your heart dirty..

You will make your life complicated…

Never start thing that you never able to responsible…

Never start thing if you do not know what the follow up…

Please act as a real gentleman…

Please do learn how to do the right process…



You do know how to fall in love

But do not know what you should do with that love



Life already hard

Don’t play with the fire

Don’t play with things that out of your control…



Brothers..

Please

Go learn the Qur’an

Go read the tafsir

Go read the sunnah

Go read the syarah

Go read the syirah…

Go learn the Qur’an

Go read the tafsir

But please do not use the religion to fit your desire…



Brothers…

You were born and raised with some values

Don’t make “internet” as a facility to break those values…



Be consistent…. Be consistent…



Some of you belong to family/culture detest girl talk with man

You even will not tolerant if you find your young sister talk with guy on net

You forbid your woman to talk with man.



Since you were born

You have created what is a perfect girl in your mind

One who never talk with man…

The pure one….

The innocent ….

The untouchable…

With the virgin heart….



But



That really inconsistent…. if

Your actions created impurity to other heart

Your sweet words destroy innocents’ heart

You fill so many hopes inside one’s heart….



Then you abandon her



You spent time with someone that you do not want to end up

You know at the first place not fit with your type

They do not fit you value

You spend hours being close but you consider them just nothing



You think

You can go and come anytime in your idle times

No need think about responsibility

You may escape anytime

You may run anytime

You are unreachable…

You are untouchable…

You are safe….



You may just simple start you life with new one

Another sweet innocent that had been set up



Don’t you know..

You might broke one innocent heart

That heart might bleeding for the rest of her life



Sleep tightly

Enjoy your life

Beside your beauty wife

But remember you will meet your lord in hereafter

You will meet her in hereafter drag you to the flame of hell fire…



Brothers

Some of you are married…

Tease and play around with young girl

Are you searching inspiration?

Do you need to refresh your old soul with the spirit of young?



Saying never loves your wife….

Saying never feels any happiness from the day one

Wondering….. How you made she pregnant…



You are man with a lot experience

You know all the tricks

You know how to grasp their heart

You how tame those pure gems



What actually you want?

What do you want from them?

Don’t you know the consequences what you do?

Don’t you think about your wife?
Don’t you think how she feel if she finds you chat around, tease around with girl?



Please go look yourself in front of mirror

See those grey hairs

Remember your doom

See your young daughter

Look at your dear young blood sisters

Do you like if man treats them like the way you treat young sisters?



Brothers

Can’t you see a woman just like a simple sister?

As simple young sister

As simple young daughter

who need your advice

who need your protection

who need simple respect

Act as an uncle

Act like a big brother

Act like their father…

Please do not chase to them always

To be your forth wife…



You hide your real name

Your real location

You want to hide from people

If you make wrong …you still safe your reputation



Astaghfirullah…



My Dear brothers

Where is the responsible gone?

Where is the shame gone?

Is that what said as the best ummah ?



If Umar still alive he would hit your head with his stick

He might behead you with his sword



You are a qowam

Allah raise you higher with that title..

To carry more responsibility

There are huge responsibilities on your shoulder

You are our hope to revive the ummah



You responsible to care you sisters

You should protect them

Not act like a wolf who ready to eat them

Not act like a evil who ready to trapped them

Not act like a devil who will ready to mislead them

Not act like a “******” who destroys their life…



Give them space…



Instead giving secure feeling

They always alert with your presence

They try to hide their gender

They have to lie about their status

They hesitate to speak

They hesitate to contribute



Don’t teach them more how to hidden

Don’t put them in condition to be an expert liar

In the sake of protection



Brothers

What do you feel?

Didn’t that click you something?

Dint that lower your dignity?

How could you become that low?

Your fellow sisters should protect themselves that way…

Didn’t you feel like a harm contagious disease?



Young brothers…

Please utilize your time…

Instead monitoring women’s Id

The responsibility in your shoulder is bigger…

.

Remember Muhammad Al Fatih Murad

Remember Usamah bin Zaid

Remember Abdullah bin Zubair

Remember all your great predecessors..

They conquered Rome

They conquered Persian

They conquered Constantinople



Shame of you

All in your mind just about conquer girls…

Think what you contribute for the ummah

What you have done for Islam….

Learn their life journey

Follow their trait….



Please…

We should build a health environment

Apply the real teaching of Qur’an wa Sunnah

No suspicious

No envious

Taking care each other

Join in good

Forbid in evil

Protect each other dignity and the honor….



My dear respect brother….

I don’t mean to be rude

I don’t mean to teach you something

All what I do just trying to convey the messages….

I believe you more than strong to accept the more sharp critical

You are a man….

InshaAllah the seed for the glory of Ummah…..



Wallahualam bishshowab…..

Part I I



My dear sisters….

Allah gifts a lot of special blessings…

Allah trusts you to carry “rahim” [womb]…

That makes your nature different…

Makes you full of affection,

Your touch is tenderness,

You smile is sweetness..

You are an amazing beautiful creation

You are a charming creation

Your graceful movement

Your “killing” smiles



You are beautiful

Always beautiful

You are sweet

Always sweet

You are unique…

With your own way…

You are always special…

You are attractive no matter how you look like’



But



You are a real temptation for your fellow brothers….

You will be

You will always be ….

Like it or dislike it

Even if you never intend to

Even if you never plan to

They will fall on your laps…



My dear sisters….

I know some of you are very strict [in real]

I know you are trying always to be a real muslimah

Who love Qur’an wa sunnah

But easy to get carry out [on net]



My dear sincere sisters….

Please think over this

Would you mix and talk that free with all those guys in person?

Would you crack those "Islamic jokes" with those guys in person?

Remember of those *LOLs*….*awwwww*……”wwoooowww”….

Would you do really express that way if you met those guys in person?



Would you feel comfortable spending so much time with these guys in person?

Are you comfortable….?

Extremely comfortable…..?

VERY comfortable…….?



My dear sisters…..

Will a good brother waste their time just for talk?

Will a good brother share you every single thing?



Do you like if your husband shares their secret with another woman?

Do you like if your husband shares their joke with another woman?



My dear sisters

Don’t flower your mind to think you are the only woman he talks with

You probably one in hundreds….

Don’t feel as someone special

You the one who make yourself special

Don’t nurture those feelings…

They may sweet but for nothing….

They act same with hundreds of his female buddies…



Perhaps

They just try to be polite…

They just try to be nice…

They just try to be gentle….

They just try to help

They just try to care your feelings…

They just do not want to hurt you…

They just try to convey messages…



Perhaps

They wish you could understand yourself

They wish you could away without they say things…

They wish soon you would know your limit

They wish you soon gain your consciousness

They wish you know when you should stop yourself…



My Dear sisters…

They may say they NEVER talk with woman [AT ALL]…

You surprise

You do feel so special

You feel be the Only ONE

You feel so lucky on earth…



Please …….Be smart!!!



Is he from Mars?

Is he living outer space… is he an alien… ?

Is living in the middle of no where…?

Didn’t he ever go outside…?



Ok perhaps He does Never…..



But



Perhaps He is not sociable person

Perhaps He is an awkward person

Perhaps He has problem in interpersonal skill…

Perhaps He indifferent with his fellow sisters…

Perhaps He not a sensitive person

Perhaps He perhaps type of man who will run away even if saw his fellow sister being abuse…

Perhaps He perhaps type of man who will avoid passing his fellow sisters who need help…



Or



He is a big big liar……!!!



Be rational



Don’t make your feelings overwhelm you

Don’t make your feelings dominate your rationality,…



Oh My dear sisters..

I don’t mean to destroy you romantic dream about him…

I don’t mean to tarnish your sweet perception about him…..

I might be wrong…

Perhaps he is indeed not one what I have been listed above,…

But you have to know

The probability could be 1 in billions



My dear sweet sisters,…

Please open your heart

Please open your eyes…

Those rarest pearls …really rare breed….

They will not appear in every places…



If they have good intention over you

If they are really a real mu’min

They will know the rules…

They will know the way…

They will be a responsible person

They will not abuse their faith by justification their action

They will not play with a sacred sunnah

Just to take chance to talk with you in person…



My dear sisters…

A real pearl doesn’t need light to make it shining

A sun doesn’t need heater to make it warm

Oceans do not need salt to make it salty…

They are shining themselves…

The light… the salt … already be part of them…

They will keep shining even if buried in the deepest ocean

They are precious without advertisement,…

That also….. a real mu’min…

A wa’ra…tawadhu… mu’min

Will not use their quality just for the sake to make you fall on his laps…

They perhaps did same way to crush other heart…



My Dear sisters…

There are many who love to talk

But they do not really understand what they talk

There are many who will offer you proposal

But they actually do not understand what it is

They do not have idea how sacred it is

Go challenge them with real actions

Go challenge them to be real gentlemen

You will know for real…



Do they say they never have girl friends…

It doesn’t mean they know the religion

That could be they do not have chance due the culture restriction….



My Dear sisters….

You may say you are confidence

You may say you know the limit

You may say you will always try to be stern

You may say you are a strong person

You may say you will lead the flow



But my dear…

For how long?



My Dear sisters

It’s not only about you

But you deal with other heart

With other mind

Their heart, their mind …. out of your control

You perhaps could confidence about your strength

But you never able to control their strength

You never able to set what they should feel about you

You cant stop them to in love with you…

You cant tell them please do not think about you…

You cant ask them please stop adore you…



My dear sisters…

You never know what inside their brain…

If only they could accept your smile just same as those bold yellow icon…



My Dear sisters….

Please help those fellow brothers….

You not only responsible to care your own soul

But also …please do not put yourself as a temptation

You should not make yourself become a disease in one’s heart

You couldn’t say you never intend to…

You couldn’t say that not your fault…



Please be honest…



My Dear sisters….

The number of man who get crush on you ..

It not always reflects how good you are…

That not something nice to boast proudly…

It perhaps shows…. something wrong in you…

That could be a sign of your near failure

That could be a real destruction…



My Dear sisters…

You heart by nature so soft..



My Dear sisters….

See….those massive hard stones….

If it was fallen by just “a drop water” continuously

It would leave “a big hole”

Lets alone your tender heart…it would be “a huge” hole….



You never know when your iman down…

You never know when you are weak

But syaitan will be there patiently waiting your failure…



A small sin will create a black spot in your white heart

Finally it will turn become black

It will make your heart death

You will never able to find the way back….



Prevention always better than curing…

Better to away from trap in complication…



You may say that you only talk with good ones…

Remember good brother will be temptation for good sister

You will be temptation for good brother…



My dear sisters….

At times you start any relationship

Please take a thought

Where things would lead you

A real Moslem will never do something without a clear intention…

Allah will count your intention….

A real Moslem should know what will be the destination

Will you be his chat email friend forever….?

Share things forever?

Tell every single thing forever?

He knows what you do from 4 am to 4 pm…?

He knows what you do from Sunday to Sunday… ?



My dear sisters

The more you involve

The more your close

The more you will not able to leave

The more you will not able to stop



You heart so soft..

You are so nice

You will think thousand things

You afraid to offend him

You afraid make him cry

You afraid destroy his life

You afraid he commits suicide

You afraid he will go astray

You think he will not able live without you…



The syaithan will be happy…

They will clap their hands

If their legs could clap… They would clap too

New victims come to the circle…



You flower your minds

With all those sentimental feelings…

You will suffer and suffer not able run from the circle…

Dear Trust me…. They will not do that

If they do….. that irrefutable prove…. how stupid he is…

Do you want to end up you life with a stupid one?



My Dear sisters…

The constant interaction…

Will lead you in confusion

not able to compare between pity…sympathy… and love…



My Dear young sisters

Sometimes you just try to be polite…

You try to care a good manner…

But response not always what you hope…

You are in global villages

You should learn the global languages…

You should understand the global gesture…

You should able to deal with so many heads



If you have tried your best

If you have done your duty

You should find the way for safe your faith

You do not have any responsibility anymore

You have done what you should do

You are not cruel…

The otherwise you save his soul sooner



My Dear sisters….

Remember Allah watch over you…

Allah know even the deepest of you heart

You know the best who are you

You know the best what your doing

You know the best your capacity



You do really discuss your deen?

You do sincerely to invite people to your deen ?



But



Why you busy keep on till the late of night

Where is time for talk with your Lord

How you lost your precious private time with Lord

If you sleep 3 am 2 am… 4 am… where you would sleep

How you lost the precious the last 1/3rd night

When Allah comes closer to you

When you build inside strong spiritually



My Dear sisters…

Do you know What Google, AltaVista, yahoo, for?

Do you know thousands Islamic website available?

Do you know thousands Islamic Scholar available?

Please, you do use them maximally …

Before jump talking to any man, even if in the pretext of learning…

You do have a bunch of females’ buddies…

Please, go to them to share and study…

You do not worry if you act like a stupid…

You may express yourself freely…

You can be a sweet as you like



My Dear sisters…

May Allah make you be great wife like Khadijah bin khwalid ra

May Allah help you to be a great mother like Fatimah binti Muhammad…

May Allah make you be great scholar like Aisyah binti Abu Bakar ra

May Allah make you practice a great patience like Ashiah ra

May Allah help you to observe ghirah

and take care your husband heart like Asma binti abu Bakar

May Allah help you to as smart as Queen Balqis

as wise as Ummu Sulaim …

InshaAllah you are as beautiful as Attikah who companied all her husband as a syuhada…



Wallahualam bishshowab…..



Oh my Dear Lord…

You know very best what lies inside my heart,

You know best how sinner this soul…

You know best what hidden ….what conceal,



My Dear Lord

Please save me first from all the hypocrisy



My Dear Lord

Give me the tawfiq to follow what I have said



My Dear Lord,…

Save me from the blaze of your hell flame…



Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika

Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika

Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaika



Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin

Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin

Alhamdulillahirrobbil alamin



Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

Subhanakallahumma wabihamdika ashadu ala ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa atubu ilaika

[Muhammad]

Jazakallahu Khayr for the reminders.

[Batoota]

I didn't read the entire thread but very nicely said. Jazak Allah for posting that!! A very good reminder!!!! May we follow that advice,

[Batoota]

I'm back. I was thinking about the words again. Subhan Allah, how easy it is to forget when you're writing that you are talking to somebody real and that they might be from the opposite gender. I'm sure 90%+ would all argue that having "Friends" of the opposite gender isn't really islamically right....but i'm sure many of us forget that. We have to remember that just because we may not see each other physically, that doesn't erase that fact that we shouldn't be so friendly...

I'm sure that most of our intentions are honorable--but there's "somebody' else's intention that we need to remember- Shaitan. We can't control him and he's still an enemy to us, even if we aren't face to face. Subhan Allah! I think being face to face is easier- you just put your head down and answer curtly. But when you're online...the jokes easily spread, the "extra" stuff that probably should be more at a minimum...

Would you mix and talk that free with all those guys in person?

Would you crack those "Islamic jokes" with those guys in person?

Remember of those *LOLs*….*awwwww*……”wwoooowww”….

Would you do really express that way if you met those guys in person?

Subhan Allah! Powerful words..................

I really need to go and exmaine myself right now ..............


May we all be guided to the right path,

[muslimah!!]

Jajakumullah for the proem..yeah a great reminder. Its funny how we easily get decieved by shaitan.. Telling u its ok as long as u don't meet up. But da reality is different. SO..i guess i was addicted to it..and i go on it every now and then...and im tryin really hard not to..
THis is just a Qs for all of u..sometimes if u feel depressed , u know u just wanna do something stupid.wat u do? Usually if i'm feelin like that m, thats when i go on chattin.. MAy allah forgive all my weaknesses and strengthen my faith. Ameen

[Andaraawus]

The Prophet said, "Faith (Belief) consists of more than sixty branches (i.e. parts). And Haya

(This term "Haya" covers a large number of concepts which are to be taken together;
amongst them are self respect, modesty, bashfulness, and scruple, etc.) is a part of faith."

Sahih Bukari 1:8

[Halima]

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