im quite upset to see that there's a lack of good men around these days.
and the ones who tend to have a good personality and stuff, also fall prey to the wrong type of girls. by observing this i am beginning to lose hope and decided i'll remain single for longer.
i fear that i'll never be in a normal relationship, maybe im asking for a lot?
for instance, i've seen how dudes even when they're married talk and have tendencies toward other girls, i feel that my good nature will be taken advantage out of. and i dont like when people lie to me, so if a dude supposedly feels inclination to another girl i hate that he will lie and say he only wants to be with me etc.
please help my insecurities...they suck, but what can i say, it's part of being human.
last but not least, what do guys look for in a girl anyway? it will be absurd to just say deen and good character, i believe looks play a part to a certain degree. i've come across a case where someone said looks doesn't matter, but i believe that's all crap.
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im quite upset to see that there's a lack of good men around these days.
lol that goes both ways!!! but its also not true, you gotta be a good muslim man to know other good muslim men !
and the ones who tend to have a good personality and stuff, also fall prey to the wrong type of girls. by observing this i am beginning to lose hope and decided i'll remain single for longer.
hmm, see a good man might fall prey, but he'll learn his lesson and snap out of it - learn from it then get married. he wont linger on it trust me - and he wont go into deep haram either - the best ones dont go into it at all mashAllah. and i know a lot of those, two are even hafidh
i fear that i'll never be in a normal relationship, maybe im asking for a lot?
you mean normal "MARRIAGE" right?
for instance, i've seen how dudes even when they're married talk and have tendencies toward other girls, i feel that my good nature will be taken advantage out of. and i dont like when people lie to me, so if a dude supposedly feels inclination to another girl i hate that he will lie and say he only wants to be with me etc.
dont free-mix , dont develop tendencies. A man shouldnt be chatting to other non-mahrams anyway... married OR unmarried !
last but not least, what do guys look for in a girl anyway? it will be absurd to just say deen and good character, i believe looks play a part to a certain degree. i've come across a case where someone said looks doesn't matter, but i believe that's all crap.
most men just want a girl who everytime they look at her they feel really happy (this is due to a mixture of a lot of stuff... looks is deffo one of them) like they made the right choice, a girl who guards herself ie fends off other idiot men when her husband aint around and covers up, and obviously a girl pious and pretty.
hope that answers you slightly
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lol that goes both ways!!! but its also not true, you gotta be a good muslim man to know other good muslim men !
hmm, see a good man might fall prey, but he'll learn his lesson and snap out of it - learn from it then get married. he wont linger on it trust me - and he wont go into deep haram either - the best ones dont go into it at all mashAllah. and i know a lot of those, two are even hafidh
you mean normal "MARRIAGE" right?
dont free-mix , dont develop tendencies. A man shouldnt be chatting to other non-mahrams anyway... married OR unmarried !
most men just want a girl who everytime they look at her they feel really happy (this is due to a mixture of a lot of stuff... looks is deffo one of them) like they made the right choice, a girl who guards herself ie fends off other idiot men when her husband aint around and covers up, and obviously a girl pious and pretty.
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