i have made a massive mistake ive been with my partner 4 years she is a revert, we had done our Nikah over a year ago. i have been stupid enough to commit zina not once but twice with a work collegue she is single not married. i feel so down, sick and guilty as i do love my wife dearly and i feel so bad words cant describe how i feel. i promised myself i will not interact with the lady from work like that again. it botheres me so much that i didnt even sleep that well yesterday. i dont know what to do i know i must seek repentance from allah and i beg him to forgive me for my sin as i know its a big one.
what can i do i know if i tell her she will leave me thats 100% i know she loves me but thats one thing she said will do if she ever found out i cheated. what can i do to make things better should i do a kurbani and just keep praying to allah to forgive me? please help me or advice me on the right path.
thank you all for your help and comments and inshala i wont come back on here and have the same problem, you all have been very helpful and honest and i appretiate it.
Isn't the punishment death when someone commits zina?
I could never expect such a thing from a Muslim brother.
Sister you are right and the koran mention about it to get stoned but Allah is big Subhanallah and can forgive if akh rayaan did real repentence and never committng any zina .
im currently living in the u.k and lets say im not asian either. once again thank you for all your help and effort.
That mean you are arab ? I just would like to know your origin to give you more advice and proof in your origin language thats all akhi nothing to worry im arab and im proud of to be and our prophet Mohammed Salla Allah Alayhi Wassallam Arab hamdoliallah
im currently living in the u.k and lets say im not asian either. once again thank you for all your help and effort.
It doesn't matter from where you are. The thing is that you knew the truth.
But Allah is greater than your sin.
Say: O My slaves who have been prodigal to their own hurt! Despair not of the mercy of Allah, Who forgiveth all sins. Lo! He is the Forgiving, the Merciful. (53) Turn unto your Lord repentant, and surrender unto Him, before there come unto you the doom, when ye cannot be helped. (54) And follow the better (guidance) of that which is revealed unto you from your Lord, before the doom cometh on you suddenly when ye know not, (55) Lest any soul should say: Alas, my grief that I was unmindful of Allah, and I was indeed among the scoffers! (56) Or should say: If Allah had but guided me I should have been among the dutiful! (57) Or should say, when it seeth the doom: Oh, that I had but a second chance that I might be among the righteous! (58) (But now the answer will be): Nay, for My revelations came unto thee, but thou didst deny them and wast scornful and wast among the disbelievers.
im not going to sit here and lie as it just wont benfit anything, im trying to be as honest as i can so you can paint a real picture of what its like outhere. i live in the U.K and theres lots of muslims outhere that are doing a lot worst DOESNT MAKE WHAT IM DOING ANY BETTER, but when your surronded by this all the time it only makes you feel like theres nothing wrong with it when there really is something wrong with it.
Brother most of us here are living in uk theres no point even mentioning it, I know for a fact that a good portion of my muslims friends have done zina, someone of them are disgraceful enough to even boast about it. That doesn't effect me in the slightest way, because when I see what screw ups some of them are it just makes me a stronger muslim.
Make the most of this ramadan, look out for laylatul qadr and if you repent sincerely and enough you might be sinless by the end of it
I ask Allah SWT to forgive you and to forgive us all, Inshallah, Ameen.
Do you know, I am not here to tell you what you wish to hear, I will tell you how I will act if I were in your situation.
Fisrt of all the first personn I have to ask to forgive me its my wife ( I am not married ), how can I continue to live with my wife , like nothing happend, the life is beautifull.
Its like I have signed an agreement, doing that I broke taht agreement, how i can :
1) smile to my wife
2) kisse her
3) sleep beside her
4) living normaly
5) hiding what I have done
What I want to tell you, you have to pay for it even if you lose her, maybe, she will forgive you, who knows, if not you have to pay brother.
Can you tell me if your wife deserve a man like you , who did that ?
Sorry I am direct, but you played a game and you know the rules.
Do you accepte if your wife do that to you one or many times ? you have to take taht in consideration.
After that you have to ask Allah SWT to forgive you what you did and you will never do it again, if you do it again you are in very dangerous situation.
Did you say to that girl, that you are married ? did she knew that ?
I am not here to tell you congratulations, or to judge you, you did something is one of the worst thing a man can do to a wife and the worst thing Allah SWT forbid.
You have to work hard to do the jihad of eyes, you have't to look any woman, the desires start at the first look.
Its not easy, I am a man and every day I am fighting, when I am at home I feel safe, when I am outside I am scraed and afraid to look at women.
I ask Allah SWT to forgive us and to guide us, Ameen.
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